How did i not crack up?

As a small child, i was horribly neglected and sexually abused. As i got older, i was picked on constantly in school and in my older teens i was physically abused by my mothers husband and recieved seval beatings by him until i learned to hit back. My mother literally abandoned me at 17 when she moved out and left me in the house to fend for myself. Her excuse was that her husband left because i hit him. After that i joined the army and was sent to iraq. I never looked back.

Most people in my shoes would have a lot of problems, but i dont think i do. I enjoy my life in the country and dont usually think about the past. I listen to celtic music and plant fruit trees in the spring and go on long walks with my wife around our farm.

My older brother and sister are in bad shape mentally. They are both on strong meds and would not be able to take care of themselves of it were not for their spouses.

Why did i not succumb to the effects of the abuse and the war the way my siblings did? Did i just not inherit those bad genes that make you sucessible to mental illness? Did i learn to shut out the pain of my past?

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Comments ( 8 )
  • rayb12

    Resilience, not something we know much about

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  • RoseIsabella

    You are a truly blessed person!

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    • I remind myself of that every day. Thanks.

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      • RoseIsabella

        You're very welcome!
        :-)

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  • Are you callous? If not, then I guess you're a rare breed of strength.

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  • Ellenna

    Just lucky I guess, that you were more resilient than your siblings. Position in the family can make a lot of difference sometimes: what was yours?

    (OK, I'm going to guess and say middle child and see if I'm right)

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    • Actually, no. I was the youngest on my mothers side, but had a younger brother who committed suicide 5 years ago. He had a different mother than us and had noonans syndrome, a rare type of retardation.

      I dont lnow why i didmt wind up like them... Im just glad i didnt.

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      • Ellenna

        Ha I guessed wrongly! I don't know why some people turn out differently to the rest of their families: I certainly did and I'm glad you did too!

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