How can you tell if youre being used?

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I am 18 and i met a guy online who is 24. We have been talking on the phone and skypeing eachother. I feel we are both into each other. Except everytime we skype or talk on the phone he mostly wants to talk dirty. I am pretty amature when it comes to that so i feel awkward. He tells me that we arnt doing anything wrong amd a lot of people do it. I just dont know if he is using me to have phone sex or if he actually liles me. Im not sure if what is going on is normal. Help!

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  • charli.m
    10 years ago

    If you feel like he's forcing you into doing it when you're not comfortable, then he is using you.

    While he's right that there's nothing wrong with it, that doesn't mean YOU have to do it if YOU don't want to. If he cared about you as a person, he'd accept that it doesn't feel right for you.

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    • Kenni22
      10 years ago

      I know what you mean but he tells me that I don't have to do anything I want to do. But when I tell him I feel uncomfortable he says I can't get used to anything in life if I don't try trying things.???

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      • charli.m
        10 years ago

        It's up to you to set your own boundaries for how fast or slow you get used to something, not him.

        It sounds like he's saying one thing but meaning something different.

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        • Kenni22
          10 years ago

          Yeah and it makes me wonder what a 24 year really wants anything to do with an 18 year besides his own pleasure. You know?

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          • charli.m
            10 years ago

            I'm sorry :( I really am. I've been in a similar position in the past. It hurts, because you want to believe he cares, but his behaviour says anything but that.

            You'll find someone better. There are plenty of men out there who WILL respect your comfort zone. Sometimes it just takes a while to find. I wish you luck.

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  • davesumba
    10 years ago

    lmao this one is new. I've heard of girls worrying guys are using them for sex, but PHONE sex, hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha.

    But on the serious, most guys dating online are just using it for sex, e.g. match.com, eharmony.com, etc. (from my sister's experience)

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  • StarTeddy
    10 years ago

    If that's all he ever wants to do he's probably using you.

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  • RomeoDeMontague
    10 years ago

    There is a way to tell if someone is using you. However I really not sure how to describe the steps in which to detect it right now. I will tell you this though. If your relationship is purely internet based it probably is just sex. A lot of people go on sex and do these type of things to get a sexual release. They feel it is safe and since they are not touching anyone are not really doing anything wrong. Its kind of like two way porn. They have sites for this type of thing and its called cybering, role-playing and sexting via text. I can assume this is the Skype version of it. So yeah he probably just needs a release and most likely doing this with many people. He might actually like you but if you truly never want to meet in person I do not see any possibility of this going anywhere. He probably feels the same way.

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