How can i show my feelings

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Hi all,

I am having trouble showing my feelings to my partner and in many things in life.

I was with a woman and we have a daughter together. There were many problems in our relationship and eventually I could not cope anymore and ended it. We were both unhappy, but my partners reaction was extreme to say the least. The long and short of it was that she decided to call the police and tell them I had child porn on my computer. My daughter was taken away from me and she told all my friends and neighbours that I was under investigation. You can imagine what happened. one whole year later I was completely cleared by the police but it took another 10 months to be able to have my daughter come and stay with me.

Obviously I was destroyed.My life was ripped apart and I came very close to taking my own life on a couple of occasions. Only the thought of my daughter kept me going. I was on medication that just numbed my whole life.

Live moved on and after a number of encounters I met my now fiancee. The problem is nearly 3 years old from the time the events started I am still numb with my feeling. I cant get excited about anything and find it very difficult to outwardly show my true feelings. I am very cold and matter of fact about things. My relationship is being tested to the max and we are fighting to stay together. we both have baggage from past relationships but we love each other so much. Its not that I cant show my love and tell her every day. Is it normal?

I am worried that I won't be able to relax and be myself. I am a different person when we do go out or on holiday, but I cant let myself go all the time.

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  • andrian007
    13 years ago

    Hello there,

    First things first, your horrible ex-partner is clearly affecting you and your personality. May I just say how much I admire your strength to put up with all that shit and re-establish your relationship with your daughter? She is rightly your number one priority.

    Otherwise, you need to talk to someone. You need help. I know that typically, people just go "You're a man, deal with it", but this is no longer acceptable. There is a daughter in your life now. You have a responsibility towards her. If there is any danger at all that this is affecting your life as a parent, then this is a no-brainer. You need to get help.

    Remember, you are a father now...

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Man, no offense but you probaly need to seena professional therapist. I don't mean any disrespect at all but you need to see someone who knows whatbthere talking about not a website..

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  • 8Serene8
    13 years ago

    It sounds like you need help. Maybe go to a doctor and get help? Or try one day to sit ur gf down and tell her what you told us. Maybe she can help you get back to a certain normalcy.

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