How can i move on?

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Me and this boy used to be really close, and he was doing the lighting in a school production i was in, he is 3 years above me in school and i really fancied him, and i knew that he liked me too.. but now hes got a girlfriend, and its not me.. i was really upset when he told me because all of the "i love you" and "your gorgeous" was a lie? .. i just pretended i was happy for him, even though everytime i see them it hurts me inside. i get upset all the time because i miss his hugs and kisses and i miss the way he used to smooth my hand with his thumb when he was holding my hand.. how can i move on from this? and was i in love or did i just really like him?

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  • usehername28
    14 years ago

    I can't tell you if you were in love or not, because I have to ask you.. were you? Anyhow, this happens to everyone trust me. This is a sign of life telling you to think about yourself first. Once you're happy on your own, no one else will let you down if they leave you. Sorry, but that guy was an idiot. Remember that most people live with the "life's one, live it up" dilema, so you shouldn't get attached to anyone as easily.

    The formula to moving on is distance time.
    Stay away from him, avoid him, and let time heal you :)

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  • Treez
    12 years ago

    Men are cool

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  • XJayX
    13 years ago

    I'm sorry that happened to you. Maybe he loved you once, but I guess he's grown up and wants to go after girls his own age. I think he might've thought you'd be ok with it, because of the age difference. If he doesn't reilize that you really liked him, that's his loss. Try to find someone your age that likes you for you.

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  • SXRXE
    14 years ago

    Over 2 years ago, and I still have not recovered from it fully.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    In love - in like - who cares? You feel hurt and disappointed. You felt a strong connection. Accept all those feelings, cry a lot, feel bummed out, feel pissed off ... and one day not to far away you will have gotten it out of your system & be ready to move on.

    Good advice ^^^ regarding proximity and time. Stay away/avoid - and trust in time.

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  • pepeds
    14 years ago

    Love is just a feeling, and as all feelings, it transforms through time. Maybe he really loved you, and he probably still thinks you're gorgeous. It doesn't mean he doesn't think other girls are also pretty, and it doesn't exclude the possibility of him falling in love, and starting a relationship with someone else.

    Maybe you loved him, maybe you didn't. We have all passed through the point you are in now, and guess what: it's not the last time you will be there. But trust me on this one: you will survive!.

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  • cronicmasterbator
    13 years ago

    there will be no one like him ever again sorry to say you lost a keeper

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