How can i handle this sitiation?

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Me and baby daddy split about a year ago and we both started dating other people recently. The chic he's talking to is someone I don't trust around my child. My ex was messing around with her some years ago while we started talking again and we had a few bad words with each other about that ordeal. Tbh, it seems painfully obvious now that he probably kept messing with her, but that's irrelevant (aside from showing how deceptive he can be).

She kept coming around shortly after that to serve his brother dope and even a prostitute and that's what I really have a problem with. She became mostly irrelevant after (for a couple years) but now she's back in the picture and baby daddy is trying to use her car to pick up our daughter and, undoubtedly, bring her around this terrible person.

My daughter loves her dad and I don't want to keep her from seeing him, but I don't want my daughter around people I don't trust. He says she's not on drugs anymore but...he's a liar.

I told him I'd have to talk to her before I can even begin to feel comfortable with this but I'm really not sure how this conversation is gonna go... Especially since we've had beef in the past. I'm over all that but, judging by the past, she seems like a dumb kind of bitch and I'm afraid that if I am stern with her that it could lead to a fight or unnecessary drama.

I feel I have every right to just avoid this situation altogether, but it breaks my heart when my daughter tells me she misses her dad.

Help?

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  • peterr2
    8 years ago

    Meet the other woman and go down on her. If she is clean you will find out pretty quick.

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  • MissClaire
    8 years ago

    That is one tough situation you have no doubt.
    My first reaction (knowing very little about your entire situation) is that I would try to move. Perhaps not far, but far enough that it would be difficult for her to see your child. When you visit town you can supervise their situation a bit better because you will have the excuse that you have to leave town. If they come, same situation.... I know it may not be idea but... you know.

    On another note, it is completely reasonable for you to not allow her in that environment. No judge (which he won't go there anyway bc $$) is going to say that is unreasonable... no way. You don't need to say anything to her just make excuses to him and if he starts a fuss then I would just tell him how it is (not going to let our child around a prostitution/drug environment or she will start to think this is normal and that is not what anyone wants) You are her mother and you have to look out for what is best, even if your daughter screams at you for not letting her see daddy - nothing worth fighting for is easy. - don't talk to the whore/addict, she has nothing to do with this.

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