How can i be a social person...?

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I have a few aquaintances, but no one I'd actually call a true friend. It's hard for me to relate to a lot of people I meet, and I never meet people who I have stuff in common with. It's also really hard for me to talk to people. Sometimes when I talk to my aquaintances or someone I don't usually talk to, I start sweating and my face gets hot and my heart beats really fast. I also have a really hard time keeping up a conversation and making eye contact. I also avoid crowds like the plague and when I'm walking and there's a person walking the opposite way, I don't know where to look and it's really wierd and awkward. Sometimes I feel like I'm going to be socially awkward forever and I'll never make friends, and I'm frustrated at myself for being born this way. Can someone give me some advice?

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  • jensapa
    12 years ago

    Make daily goals for yourself. Make sure u go out once a day. Start of small, like a 10 min walk around the block and gradually make your outing longer and go to places with more people. But do it very gradually.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    Practise your socialising on strangers. Say hello if you make eye contact with someone you pass in the street. Instead of looking straight at someone in the eye, focus on the bridge of their nose. It's easy to make friends, just ask them about themselves - and let them talk, look interested and ask more questions. Don't bother to join in to build a rapport they'll love you 'coz you're a great listener.' Fools! People are so easy to manipulate.

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  • captainawesome
    12 years ago

    It sounds like you might have a social anxiety disorder or phobia if you're experiencing hot flashes. To become more social, you'll have to get yourself out there more by joining clubs, taking classes, etc. But if you're really finding it that hard, then it might be smart to talk to a counsellor.

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  • squeallikeasacofpigs
    12 years ago

    Go join a sports club or whatever, something that you like doing, and you'll meet people who like doing it too :)

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  • Shackleford96
    12 years ago

    Well, one way to not be social is to be on the internet all the time... But really though, just try to hang out with people even if they are just acquaintances and show them that you can be a good friend.

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