Homsexuality doesnt seem right to me. (not homophobic.)

I just want to start off by saying that i'm not religious, I'm not homophobic, and I know homosexuality is something you are born with. It cant be changed.

But, whenever I see two gay men or women together (Kissing, holding hands living together) it just doesn't seem right to me. half of me sees it as something wrong and the other half sees it as something natural that shouldn't be judged. I wish I could see homosexuality as okay, but I just cant shake this feeling that it shouldn't be good. is it normal that I feel this way?

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  • anti-hero

    No worries. Being gay isn't mandatory. So just live your life and don't bother with it.

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  • zackattack

    Totally normal. I think part of it is because the thought of you kissing someone of the same sex grosses you out so you can't imagine how they'd enjoy it. I really wouldn't beat yourself up about it.

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  • eats,shoots_and_leaves

    It dosen't bother me, you don't seem to be actual hatred (bad\stupid) wich makes me angry or upset, because there are people out there who allready hate me even thow they don't know me. your just uncomfortable with it. mabe because you don't see it often and haven't gotten used to it.

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  • Java

    To be TOTALLY honest, it doesn't offend me at all.

    Though I often get jealous when seeing a gay character in a show or movie or something, because I think, "What if /I/ liked that guy? I wouldn't have a shot, because of my gender."

    It probably sounds retarded but that's really how I feel. Nevertheless I OPENLY support homosexuality, any sexual orientation really.

    Homophobes don't bother me. Well, if they're QUIET. I mean if you don't like something that's fine, if it uneases you. BUT if you're fucking preaching like, "GAYS SHOULD NOT BEEE!" then I just get angry.

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    • Lynxikat

      You know, in this day and age, I've never personally understood WHY some people would be vocal about them hating gays, people of the opposite gender, or people of other races.

      Isn't that the quickest way of you becoming the most despised person in the world?

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  • Mando

    You might as well admit to yourself that you are a bit homophobic - not an outright hater and bigot - just a little uncomfortable and phobic because it is something you have not been exposed to that much, and your views are formed by a heterosexual society. You are open minded enough to be honest and no doubt your feelings will evolve. Good for you.

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  • Well it doesn't seem right for a reason.......

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  • dappled

    I think our brains are programmed to spot things that are out of the ordinary. Noticing people of a different race or sexuality seems to be a natural thing and what's most important is how we learn to deal with it.

    I sometimes note that I don't even register people's race or sexuality (just see them as a person) and while that may seem a good thing, I think my pendulum has swung too far the other way. It's something I do worry about now and again.

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  • Pika-girl

    ...What if they're just friends and holding hands... My homosexual "girlfriend" loves me so much... I'm straight... I find it a bit uncomfortable too because she's kinda possessive... (Save Me!)

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  • Avant-Garde

    Normal, I'd say. Most of us grow up with a defined notion of what is considered to be "the norm" instilled in us. As mentioned before me, because of this, many of us probably can pick up on things which don't fit this mould. In terms of the parts and sex, when I was younger, I kept thinking of same sex couples as puzzle pieces that didn't fit. Two pegs and two holes. I was too "innocent" and "naive" to have be enable to know from the get go, how people in same sex relationships are able to get around their puzzle pieces not being able to properly fit...

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  • Diver2

    I love getting sucked off by another man and especially ones about 5 ft 2in and 120 lbs and smooth...yes I like my men sort of feminine, not enough around here to suit me...

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  • YumeNeko

    being Homo si not your decision it come with with a time, it can develop nytime, its geneticaly coded you cannot change it

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  • quentari

    There's a difference between Homophobia and not liking PDA.
    Some people get really offended and/or grossed out by couples kissing in public, regardless of their gender. You just need to work out if it's people being gay in public, or people (regardless of orientation) kissing in public that you don't like.

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  • simplyinsane

    For me, it just seems... Biologically contradictory. But normal all the same.

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  • reality84

    You are attracted to the opposite sex, so that is normal to you. I do not like seeing straight or homosexuals kissing; I believe romantic kissing should be done in privacy of your home.

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  • WordWizard

    It seems wrong to a lot of people. Fact is that it is abnormal. I am not saying anything is wrong with people but the only reason straight people are programmed with a sex drive is so they can make babies.

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  • Blazneg2007

    You're a touch homophobic. As a comparison, it's like you're just a bit racist. You don't hate blacks, but you wouldn't want your daughter to date one.
    Give it time. Maybe you'll get over it. It's more likely that you wont, but that's alright. Change takes time. Maybe your kids will feel differently.

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  • peter5736

    Sounds to me like you're just simply not gay! By definition being totally straight means you wouldn't be comfortable kissing a man, and when people see things they wouldn't like to do themselves, they often feel uncomfortable.

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  • Noooo

    But think about it just a simple thing like that can make u seem like a complete douche.

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  • Short&2thepoint

    "I know homosexuality is something you are born with. It cant be changed." The fuck if...

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    • Fanayvea

      What does that mean? the fuck if what?

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  • MParker

    Its possible that being around gay couples or the thought of gay individuals simply makes you uncomfortable.Its also plausible that you're just undecided on how you feel about it.I am an older lesbian woman and while i am proud of who i am as a person i have never been completely certain of how i feel about my sexuality.You don't have to accept it or over think it,just live your life.Avoid places or people that make you uncomfortable and know that what ever you feel is your right.

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  • ralcor

    Nothing wrong with how you feel and don't let anyone tell you other wise. It is not natures way or we all would be engaging in this deviant behavior.
    As Americans we have allowed ourselves to be bamboozuled to tolerate piss poor, self indulging, anti-social behavior by the very few in our society that have truly learned that the squeeky wheel gets the oil.
    This has to stop because all human societies cannot servive outside of natures norm.

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    • boredboy22

      i wish you dead with every cell in my body, thought you should know that old timer x

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      • Diver2

        A bit fucking harsh aren't we?

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    • Wüstenfuchs

      I'm hardly squeaky. In fact, with all of the attention "gay" is getting, I'm encouraged to stay in the closet. To me, it just seems fetishistic. If people were more open about their sexuality, I'm not sure there would be any borders between people. Sex is sex. o.O If you need another man or another woman to set your mood, use one. I really see nothing wrong with it. It's abundant in nature... We're just informed by someone else who is no more expert than you or I that "this act is intolerable and should be condemned." That's my two cents. :P

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  • blaster

    Must admit , call me what you like but I agree , just doesn't seem right or natural.
    I dunno why but girls even say I'm lying when I say the two girl thing doesn't do a thing for me and I never get that attitude , we're all different.
    So what if most guys according to the girls like that, still doesn't mean all of us do.

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals

    From an evolutionary standpoint it doesn't seem to make sense indeed.

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  • Goomats

    I agree. I noticed when they both look really masculine (in male couples) or really feminine (in female couples) it looks super odd and redundant, but when one dresses masculine and the other dresses feminine...it looks silly, like cosplay. I'm sorry, I cannot judge people's love and hearts, but this is how it looks to me.

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  • Lynxikat

    I agree with some of the other commenters- to me, you just seem uncomfortable around it.

    Out of curiosity, do you see gay couples (or gay people in general) a lot, or just once in a blue moon?

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    • Fanayvea

      i think i saw this gay couple once. they were over my house visiting my parents. I think my mom knew them from work, and they were just over for a few minutes. Ive seen gays on the news, of course. Ive never seen a gay couple oher than tht time before, though.

      maybe my lack of comfort around gays goes back to when I was little. When the gay couple was over my home, i asked my dad in private why two men would be together. He told me: "Well, sometimes god makes a mistake, Camm."

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      • shade_ilmaendu

        Wow. Your parents sound like open minded people >.>

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  • nightmare28

    Have you ever tried to put a puzzle together, then you saw one piece that you thought fits somewhere, but you try to put it there and it just doesn't fit, and you just decide to push it there harder to get it in?

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  • puppets96

    You're pretty much homophobic.

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  • topper33

    well its pretty much proven its in you when your born so if God wanted to put it in you when your born how can it be wrong? im not gay but if i was it would be Gods fault i think.

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