Homophobic boyfriend!

If someone believes and acts in a way which is offensive to your values, I think that's a completely reasonable cause to dump them. Your values are important, and a partner who requires you to deprioritize them is not worth keeping around.

I wouldn't have a relationship with a homophobic person. I feel like by tolerating their homophobia, I would be implicitly endorsing it.

Most homophobes are secretly afraid they may be gay. It is a classic psychological situation to hate in others what you hate in yourself.
I doubt that there is any way your relationship with this guy will survive, so it's only a matter of when you want to break up. If you are having fun and he's entertaining enough to be around until a better guy comes along, it might be worth it to hang on to the relationship a bit longer, but be certain he doesn't become too attached to you or he might go postal when you do exchange him for the new and more accepting model.

It may be more about jealousy than homophobia.

Just because they are out of the closet doesn't mean that they've never been curious about what sex with a girl is like.

You could:

1.) Talk to him
2.) Try to deal with it
3.) Leave him

Or...

4.) Have an "accident" involving him going missing... I would not suggest that.

Sorry, but in reading this, your boyfriend comes of as a self-hating closeted individual. You could ask him to gauge his reactions.

(Or, maybe he doesn't like flamboyantly gay men. Not everyone is accepting towards them.)

I think that you should leave him. But if you want to stay with him, you can but you'll have to tolerate his views.

It's up to your own priorities OP, your friends and values versus your love. But I think homophobia is a big red flag. Irrational disgust for other human beings who are different? Makes me wonder what other issues and insecurities he has. It's also a pretty huge red flag that he can't respect your friends.

Sounds like a dick

I had a bf who was homophobic. I wish I'd told him to fuck himself then. He was a bad person.

"He responds with I don't like you being around "those" types of guys."
"He also needs to understand that I will not end my friendships because of something he does not like, especially if it is not harming anyone at all!"

If he's trying to dictate who you hang out with, then you're better off leaving him.

Either tolerate it or leave him. You could, however, try to lecture him on keeping his mouth shut. Other than that, there's not much you can do since only he can change himself.

Sounds like he secretly wants the sausage.

Go online look up the psychological meaning of phobias

Usually boyfriends would prefer you to hang with gay guys so the can be assured that they won't try and pick you up. This so so weird.

A lot of men in my life are a little homophobic, they dont hate gays but they don't feel comfortable around them. There is a difference between someone who feels a bit awkward around gays and someone who is abusive or really intolerant.
My husband feels a bit uncomfortable around my gay friends but Im OK with that he doesn't say anything rude or treat them differently. It sounds like your boyfriend cant keep his thoughts to himself and that's the problem. Just make it clear that you don't agree on the issue and he needs to stop acting that way. If he wont then he wont, you need to decide if this is a deal breaker. Nobodyis perfect btw but only you can decide what is and isn't acceptable.

Your boyfriend of four years should be more important than your friends. Harsh as it sounds, that's just how it is. Someone who puts their friends first puts their relationship second and that's never a good thing. I don't like being around gays either, but mostly because all the gays and lesbians I've met are loud, overly sexual with how they walk and talk, and vulgar with the words they use. I'm sure your gay friends are very nice people but maybe he just doesn't feel comfortable around them and hell, if I were him I'd expect my girlfriend of four years to understand and respect my feelings. Its a two way street with stuff like that, you want him to respect your values? Then you have to respect his too.

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