High anxiety about a group meeting

100% Normal
6 Comments

I’m going to a local group tonight they’re holding a promise auction for a friend, I knew her and imgood friends with her husband. I’m tagging a long with him.

Trouble is me and groups of people are terrible. I won’t know what to say or anything.
I’m worried he will probably wander off and I’ll be left alone
With people watching me
And then I’ll know some people from Facebook that I’ve never even met.

Voting Results
100% Normal
Based on 7 votes
Help us keep this site organized and clean. Thanks!
[ Report Post ]
Comments ( 6 )
  • Boojum
    5 years ago

    Fact: most people are far too preoccupied worrying about how they look and how they're coming across to think a lot about you. If you're new to the group, some will be curious - or at least pretend to be - but ask yourself what's the worst that can happen.

    There's no law saying you have to socialise if you don't feel like it. Relax, find a corner where nobody can ambush you and slip a knife between your shoulder blades, paste a smile on your face, and just watch the crowd. And if some stranger spots you and thinks you're standoffish, why the hell should their opinion bother you? What real impact is that going to have on your life? Another fact is that most sociable people love to talk about themselves, so they like people who will listen - or at least pretend to listen - to them prattling on about the inconsequential shit happening in their lives.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    1
    1
      -
    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      It’s just the thought of it because I am quiet and hate people noticing that I am and then making fun...
      AnywY I’m terrible at this
      I’ll also know people I’ve never met which is daunting

      Is hello you okay? Enough?

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0
        -
      • Columbusbiguy
        5 years ago

        Boojum is correct. Be polite and courteous and you will be good. When I encounter a new group, I just smile, stay pleasant, nod and agree a lot. I usually do not offer anything up, because most people don't care anyway. Besides staying silent allows your mind to make fun of them to yourself. Like, who is she kidding wearing Leopard print yoga pants with a elegant blouse from? Or, my goodness how long is that guy going to have toilet paper stuck to his shoe? Just relax, it's not like someone is actually making you give a speech. You will be fine.

        Comment Hidden ( show )
        1
        1
  • JD777
    5 years ago

    Lots of people have this kind of anxiety. It’s usually not warranted, though. Others there may feel the same kind of angst. Just be pleasant and don’t feel you have to try too hard to fit in.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    1
    1
  • bigbudchonga
    5 years ago

    Tell him your concerns. He should sty with you, or drag you along with him when he goes to different social groups. If you tell him just how stressed you're getting then he'll probably make an extra effort to make sure you're alright.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • BlindSpot
    5 years ago

    I get this feeling too. Try smiling if anyones around you, engage in conversation if someone does encounter you, I often comment on my surroundings to break the ice (how much that works I don't know) :P

    You don't have to be a jabbermouth, as long as you're there and was polite enough to greet those around you and acknowledge your friends, I don't see how you can be poorly remembered. Try not to think about it, it's an awful way to spend an event with paranoia - thinking of who is watching you all the time, as if your very existence is a crime!

    If all else fails and you're really bored, you can take a walk outside, or sit down in a corner and get busy on your cellphone, or take an interest in something in the auction. Food always helps me in these cases.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0