Here's why i hate my family & is it normal?

Unfortunately, it's pretty normal to have a family like that, and I do sympathise with you. However, I can also see it from your parents perspective: even if your brother is a gf beating crack addict, they still love him, and probably feel guilty that he's turned out the way he has. This doesn't mean they're doing the right thing (in fact, it would be better for him and them if they left him to deal with his own mess to teach him some responsibility and so they can focus on their other wains) but unfortunately their behaviour is unlikely to change anytime soon unless he cleans himself up, which sounds unlikely.
Are you of an age where you can get a job/ go to uni and get out of there? If so, it's the only way I think you could improve your situation, as the longer you stay there the more resentful and angry you'll feel towards your family, and regardless of how badly they treat you it'll just be your life you mess up if you carry hate like that with you when you leave. Best of luck to you whatever happens.

Good night!!! No, this isn't normal! No, this isn't healthy. Yes, such situations happen in the world. But....Nightmare for you, and all involved. This is too much stupid drama. Your brother shouldn't be expressing violent behavior directed at anybody else. Completely out of line, disrespectful, wrong wrong wrong! Maybe he should read this. Sometimes, when people realize that their behavior is in the spotlight and SHAMED by people outside the family, the individual finally gets it that what they're doing is unacceptable, and they stop, or at least realize they CAN'T do that.

There's no way I can possibly believe that your brother just went all craptacularly negative in his life without your parents somehow contributing to it by way of living in an unstable home, or having experienced some sort of chaotic upbringing. I mean, where else would he have learned that kind of behavior? I'm not sure, but this is usually the case. I've read plenty about adverse childhood experience (the ACE's study), to see the cause and effect relationship. This is quite common.

Alright, your brother? Don't get blame-y with him. Don't put up with his violent behavior. It is unacceptable. I forewarn you and your family that getting the police involved actually can be your worst nightmare. I have seen domestic violence cases that do NOT get resolved by bringing in law enforcement. Instead, sometimes the victim gets dragged through hell, and the court system acts as a predator upon all involved because it is profitable to do so. The courts do NOT care about protecting the victim. That's the honest truth no matter what all of the public service announcements preach about stopping domestic violence. That's the bizarre reality. His girlfriend has got to just get away from him. Be careful! Having said that, violence is unacceptable. If he can't be trusted not to escalate his antics into physical violence, by all means, call the police!

This is a touchy situation. I'm sure your parents feel obligated to help him. They should, but he's got to stop. Violence is unacceptable. You all shouldn't have to put up with that kind of chaos. It's stupid stress. Totally intolerable. Whatever is making him so aggressive? If he's up to it, seek family counseling and get him to go to a therapist to sort out his issues and work on keeping peace. He needs to exert self control of his behavior.

You shouldn't have to deal with any of this. Your parents need to be more protective of you in this situation. Don't confront your brother! It won't help. But, it's okay if you want to let him know that this is stressing you out.

Your parents and your brother ought to seek counseling. Serious!!! It helps teach your parents how to deal with a their son in a more productive way to simply keep the peace.

At the least, everyone needs to be really chilled out. Don't get blame-y with your brother. Don't escalate his anger. Bad move! Don't do that. Angry people can't be reasonable when they're flooded with adrenaline. Keep calm. Your parents shouldn't confront him, but they can level with him that his violent behavior is unacceptable and grounds for making him leave. Get him into counseling. That would be the best move.

Y don't u call the cops

I know how you feel my brother was addited to meth things didnt get better intil he commited a crime and had to go to jail then rehab thank god!! He needs help

I don't c anything wrong with any1 'cept ur bro

You know.. it is not normal for your brother to be beating his girlfriend or doing crack. Some one needs to do something before this gets out of hand, if it hasnt already. I KNOW EASIER SAID THAN DONE!! but what if he ends up hitting his child? you dont want your nephew being abused do you? I think you need to talk to your dad about what you should do. He may be mad about the whole situation and he may not want to get involved but tell him that you are worried what will happen to the girlfriend and your nephew if this continues. Drugs can ruins lives .. that is the truth.

I think it's normal for parents of irresponsible children to act that way. I get the feeling your brother isn't the most responsible good guy out there, and I'm sure your parents had to try a lot of things to fix your brother's issues, but sometimes they get so fed up with things they cannot change by themselves that they become numb, they don't really care at the end but that doesn't mean that they don't love your brother or care for him. Perhaps they're just tired.

I think it is normal if normal means the norm because it is easy. They want the problem to stop so the blow up when it gets too bad but they really do not know what to do to fix it so they ignore it till it blows up again. I hope you see their mistake and and are not too badly effected by it

The interest of that baby should be of upmost importance. It sounds like the relationship between your brother and his gf is over and perhaps the baby needs to be put in foster care.

You should just move on with your life. Encourage your brother to enter rehab.

I hope this problem is solved by now :( I really feel bad and confused.I think some one in your family needs to be brave and do something selfless with out thinking of their personal hurt and focus on the actual reality.If that person is you ,your my hero!
All the best:)

i think you really need to contact a serious authority like the police, maybe you could do it secretly like at a friend's house or something...
yeah, if i were in your situation i would secretly call the police and tell them what was going on and if they could do anything. i don't think this is normal.

i have to agree w/ buriedalive, that no matter how your brother is or what he does, your parents will always love him & the same goes for you & the rest of your sibilings. they also probably understand that even if your brother abuses his girlfriend, he still loves her because if he didn't, he wouldn't be w/ her. i highly doubt you literally hate your family, you just don't always support their decisions & that's okay, but give your parents a break, you know? you make it seem like nothing they do is right & they're probably trying their hardest to be good parents by giving all of their kids their way, but it isn't easy. see it from their perspective.