Help! please!

A few months ago, someone who I considered my best friend called and told me that she felt it would be best if we took some time apart and didnt' talk or see each other for awhile because we had been arguing a lot but the fact she did this made me mad, upset, and sad. its been three months and I am happy, busy with things I love, and have tons of new friends. She emailed me the other day and said she wants to know how I am and if we can start being friends again. I am so confused. should I give her a second chance? ignore her and not even respond? i don't know what to do. Is it even normal for this to happen between friends?

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Comments ( 21 )
  • thenbhdjesse

    It sounds to me like she just wants you in her life again bc she sees you're doing good. If your happy theres nothing wrong with that

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  • alexandriavaqueraqqwwqoou

    I would say give her another chance....but she seemed to stop talking to you for own selfish reasons.....and btw this has happened to me with my ex best friend....in the end we don't even talk or look at eachother....and like you I made a lot more friends....you don't need her to be happy.....and she probably wants to hang out again cause she's jealous.....she doesn't sound like a good friend...she'll probably just use you and dump you....its not worth it...but if you do give her a second chance and she does the same thing again....forget about her.

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  • Treez

    Don't give her another chance don't let go of your happiness and better life for somebody that wants to b childish

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  • leahquestions

    crushed rose is right--- a true friend is always there...........see if she will tell you why she wanted to stop communication all together. mitigating circumstances can be understood at that point but be weary before you get hurt again.

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  • ughm dont sound like a friend to me sounds like some dumb bietch...

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  • wizzard111

    True friends are hard to find keep all the friends you can life is way to short for the dumb stuff...Give her a second chance

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  • zombiekittie619

    I don't know. I have a cousin that did that to me. Totally dropped off the planet after constantly ditching me for a 2-3 month span. previous we were always cool. spent a lot of time with each other's families. I haven't heard from her, but if I did I would probably wanna see her. but that's family. if a friend did that to me(and they have) i don't think i need that in my life. its unnecessary drama. you know?

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  • maya617

    i agree with buriedalive that this doesn't seem normal unless she had a reason for calling it quits. you really should ask her why she stopped being in touch with you, especially if u were real close.

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  • WetBrownStain

    Total zombie symptom. You should be more aware of these things and understanding. Zombies need friends but they are a little different. Try eating a brain with them?

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  • WildRose

    i did this once with a friend as i was really annoyed from him, but after a few month i missed him cause i still like him a lot and he gave me anther chance and now we're still great friends!
    :)Give her anothe chance!

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  • WetBrownStain

    Try wacking yourself with a big stick and see what happens

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  • awsomedude

    you will always have a chance for more friend but only one speciel friend so yes you should give her another chance if its not tolate

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  • niicocofosho

    another chance, but just dont just go back to beign best friends. stay diistant so your bestfriend doesnt just leave you again.

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  • TheSociopath102

    i had something sorda like that with a freind ( we dated 2 ) we seperated pretty violently and didnt talk for mounths. but everyday i was killing myself over nvr caller her or anything 2 try to fix things and mostly answering her calls when she tryied.

    bassicaly if you dont try to give her a chance , you will mostlikely regret.

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  • crushedrose

    For some reason i have doubts. When you think about it, what is a friend that will call for a break every time things get rough? YOu guys should work things out not take a break to cool off until things are good again. Let me ask you think, do you feel happier when shes gone? Like less pressure and stress? If so dun't renew the relationship. However if you actually enjoy her company then give it a whirl. Just keep in mind that shes not a friend if she runs when things are heated.

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  • ppatel883

    Yeah, you should give a chance... agument happens between friends but that does not mean they can not be good friend again...

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  • asa751

    I think that it's normal . Because , any two friends may have the same thing that's happened to you . It's no big deal , take it easy pal . I belie

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  • beckett37

    give her another chance :)

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  • buriedalive

    I don't think that's normal unless there was a specific reason for it. I agree with the person above that you should give her a second chance, but make it very clear to her how much she pissed you off the last time and that if she pulls something like that again you won't be so forgiving.

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  • biblebashingtreehugger

    every friendship has its ups and down. I recommend giving it a second chance, if things work out you'l gain a friend, if not then you havent lost out on much if your not talking much anyway.

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  • ~L~

    Eat some cake and then you'll know the answer okay?

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