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I want to smoke weed but my boyfriend hates it, it's not that I don't it constantly because I don't at all I want to try it for my first time ever and he's disgusted with weed. He always says he'd be disappointed and bummed out. I just want to try it once in my life. :/ is it normal I want too but don't want to disappoint my boyfriend?
I remember readin a similar story but the genders were reversed, and everyone was saying that "If you cared for her, you'd not do it"...So far the comments are completely different since it's a woman in the situation.
Anyway.
Do it if you want to, but tell him you done it. He can't control your actions, it's up to you, just like it's up to him if he would view you as less than he viewed you before, that's his choice. If he has a problem with such people and doesn't want to continue the relationship due to it, that's his choice, and it's his decision to make.
So do what you want, just keep in mind it might not be what he wants, which in turn shows that you're not what he wants, which means he'll leave for something that he thought he had.
Well, that was shitty of them. Either way the genders go, expecting your significant other not to smoke weed because you disapprove is controlling.
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I've been this same situation before actually. And I never voiced my opinion on it because I didn't want to restrict my girlfriend but I've never trusted the stuff. Well, not the stuff, but the people who deal with it. Of course there are PLENTY of amazing and kind people who smoke weed, but there are the FEW who are manipulative and cold (they will always flock towards anything taboo, doesn't matter if its a drug or not).
The point I'm making is it wasn't the drug itself that upset me. It was the people who were offering it. I didn't know who they were and she trusted them entirely, despite barely knowing them. And it could be the same for the OP's boyfriend. This could actually be stemming from something other than the weed itself.
Also he might question whether or not you really just try it once. Since who knows, you could decide to smoke it regularly, which would be bad for the relationship if he opposes, and he could be afraid of that possibility.
If you try it once you will probably try it again - weed is great. Your boyfriend will probably even try it one day, after he sees his buddies passing doobies around and laughing at everything.He shouldn't try to control you like that.
That honestly sounds like his personal problem. You're free to do whatever you please to do. If he has a problem, he can deal with it.
A real question you must ask yourself is are you marrying this boy? If no, then ask yourself this: Are you his slave? Are you trying to become a 70's housewife remake? cause if so then don't do it. I understand you're in a relationship with this person, but if you answered no to all of the questions above, then you should do it. Personally, I only smoke every now and then. But you only have one life to live. You cant live it being scared and hiding from new experiences. Honestly, it sounds bad but, little secrets in relationships are good for relationships. If partners were completely honest with eachother constantly, relationships wouldn't exist! Try it once. Just because you do it once doesn't mean you have to resort to doing it your whole life. So try it once, experience it, see how it makes you feel, don't tell your boyfriend (cause honestly you probably wont be together forever, unless your relationship is bound by religion, or you've known this kid since birth), and lastly, just go on with your life. And ENJOY IT while it lasts. It may not seem like it now while you're young, but time does fly by. And I promise you, if you don't do it, you're going to regret it. Take charge of your own life and quit relying on other people to make decisions for you. You're the designer of your life, and only YOU can shape it. So live your life as if it were an adventure(:
Smoking weed isn't bad! It is only bad if you consider it, but then again, your morals could be a little altered comparatively to someone else who things that smoking weed is okay. It is your decision to use it though. But, my opinion, it is very exquisite.
Why so hard on weed? I never understood why people hate it so much, I just can't find a reason!
I say do it, pot is something that you can't describe, you just have to experience for yourself!
I have no idea what you mean by this?
I was on pot for years, when I was around 21.
Since getting older I have no desire to be out of control.
I understand older people like it to (usually for pain relief) But not as a fun partying on type of reason.
You can have fun without it.
By the way, I agree with ItDuz comment above.
If my girlfriend smoked weed, I'd break up with her instantly.
In fact, I'd break up with her if she smoked anything.
There is no problem with trying it, ive smoked weed and to be honest its nothing what tou think it would be or what tv makes it look like but its very very relaxing like probably the most relaxed you will ever be! Just try it without him knowing and go on from there
agreed, it is over-protective of him to not let you at least try smoking weed, or having any other reasonable experience but doing it behind its back is even worse in my opinion. It is not only shady and a starting point for doing more things without him knowing but it is also hugely disrespectful.
IMO the best thing would be if you manage to convince him to try it together with just the two of you. This way he can keep an eye on you as well as share the experience without having to be worried or jealous and protective over it afterwards.
haha thank you very much and by the way in some way it is kind of sweet that he cares so much right?
Yes I agree with that. I think most guys who get upset over something like their girlfriend doing drugs are just trying to protect her. Not be a control freak.
Drugs can make shit go crazy with the wrong people. Especially with inexperience involved. I think its natural to be very apprehensive.