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is it normal? for people who were once lovers for 4 years and broke up but now they've become enemies...my boyfriend was the one who broke up with me now he told me to stay away from his family and we his planning to get married to me next year though i was not ready...and i was never a bad girlfriend to him. now he bad-mouthes me to his family and friends. and now his whole family now hates me. what must i do?

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  • voivevoiceofallthepeople
    13 years ago

    Yes thanks to you all for your marvellous comments.but this guy still bothers me he is now telling me that he cant let go that am his forever.aftermath of how he treated me he wants me back....and yes i cant deny my feelings for him. but am not just too sure if i can go back with me...after the break up i happenned to be involved in a rebound relationship with a guy i dont love and he dearly love me for 9months together with him though in a distance relationship i told him that i dont love him yet but he keeps on running to my cousins for them to talk to me..am now in dillema i dont know what to do 4 real.

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  • Jessicashleigh
    14 years ago

    It sounds like he's not over you, and he's using anger as his defense to hide that he still cares. Just give him space so he can move on too.

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    • ReaperAJ
      14 years ago

      I think you are dead right about this. He is probably hurting over the rejection of his marriage proposal.

      To the poster,

      I don't condone the way he is handling things and turning his family against you is really unfair. Unfortunately though, the saying 'blood is thicker than water' is really true. Family members will always stand on the side of their own so you can't expect much less if he is slagging you off to them. As everyone has said here, what they think is immaterial. What you need to do is simply move on and forget him. There is no use crying over spilt milk. Just forgive him because it will set you free from your pain and allow you to heal, then forget about his family and get on with your life. It is painful to break ties with people you care about, I know, but sometimes in life you just have to cut certain people off and leave them behind. I'm sure there are many other doors waiting to be opened in your future, so embrace that. Hopefully in time something will help his family to realise what narrow minded people they are, though it may not necessarily begin with you or your situation. The chickens will come home to roost honey, so just relax and forget about the dolt!

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  • WayOutThere
    14 years ago

    Just give it up. Don't interact with either him or his family. Who cares what they think about you--that's not important. It's pointless to try to change his opinion, or that of his family. Focus on the future; don't dwell on the past.

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    • voivevoiceofallthepeople
      14 years ago

      thanks dear...i'll do the bad thing about that is one of his cousins pretedend to be on my side but she was just a traitor and a backstabber..i never knew there are mean people in life..he was the one who broke up with me and yet he tells everyone that i cheated on him which was never true i dont know why he wants to ruin my life it's like they have put a spell onto my life but i do have faith and i know God will make him pay for the tears he caused me.

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  • Amazing728
    14 years ago

    Bad breakups are normal. In your case though, you sound like you still somehow have ties to this man's family to even know that he is bad-mouthing you. I would sever all ties completely with him and his family.

    If you ended things and have become enemies then there is really no need to communicate any more. Also he may be over dramatizing to his family as it would look strange to them if he is friendly with his so-called enemy.

    Save yourself the hurt of constantly going through drama with he and his family and move on. It will help them all do the same and they can't have much more to say about you if they have no idea where you are and what you are up to.

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  • CiroPost
    14 years ago

    Fucking move on, apparently this scitzophrenic is telling lies to his parents to make you look bad. I recommend avoiding him at all costs.

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