Help! i'm an asshole.

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*NOTE* seems like I may have answered my own question because I didnt remember 3 girls where I did see a future. So, don't read the following unless you're really bored or curious. *NOTE*

I have gotten into relationships with girls I saw NO future with. And why did I see no future with them? One of them had a kid, one of them was like a foot shorter than me (I'm 6), one of them was TOO clingy and insecure and I was just a fresh rebound from her past relationship.

On the other hand, I keep having great chemistry and mutual attraction with certain girls but never make a move because I see NO future with them. And why do I see no future? One was like 5 years older than me, one came on too strongly almost begging for me to ask her out and it turned me off, one was predisposed to a genetic bone disorder, one of them was hella strange because she had a boyfriend and lied about being pregnant but still wanted to hang out?

But this current girl. She has the most amazing personality ever. All the things I look for in a girl. Except I'm... get ready for some asshole... a bit out of her league looks-wise. I still find her gorgeous. I really do. But part of me thinks I can do much better. Ugh

There's no question to whether I'm an asshole and shallow-minded or not, but how do I fix this? I'm 26. Shouldn't I have matured up by now? Sheesh

Edit: Okay, so I lied. Three girls I did see a future with, had great chemistry but never dated them: One was too high-maintenance/stuck-up and played games, I gave up on her. One was a virgy and I did ask her out but she wanted her man to be madly christian. And the third was just a chick a few months ago that I failed to ask out and never saw her again

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  • kelili
    9 years ago

    Twenty-six is young for a man, you still have much time left to become a man and to know exactly what you want from a relationship. What you are experiencing now will help you in the future, I don't think you are an asshole and I don't think you need help. You are just a young boy enjoying life.

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  • CountessDouche
    9 years ago

    Since when did knowing what you want in a relationship make you an asshole? You aren't an asshole. It's perfectly ok to have standards. Dating is messy; it involves rejecting people and being rejected, but there is nothing wrong with knowing what qualities you desire in a partner. Quit apologizing for that.

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  • BurningCity1131
    9 years ago

    The girl you do like ( the one who is out of your league) your thinking about what people think of your relationship. DON'T!! If you like this girl like you say you do! THEN GO FOR IT AND DON'T HOLD BACK!!! Other wise you're not an asswhole your a scared child. GOOD LUCK!!

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  • Twickers
    9 years ago

    Jeez, just enjoy time spent with others. Not everything has to have a plan or be your perfect future wife. You may never find that person, so saying that you're wasting your time with these people would be a fallacy....and, in fact, you are wasting your time searching for the "perfect" match.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      That's a very good point and comment. Cheers

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    you seem normal. if you don't see a future with them then why waste your time.

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  • handsignals
    9 years ago

    The OP is obviously a femnazi spreading propaganda.

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  • anti-hero
    9 years ago

    Well what a lucky lot of women to have been in your presence.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Can't tell if you're sarcastic or not, cause I do think three relationships are low for 26. If you weren't sarcastic, the non-relationships were just mutual crushes, non-date relationships or whatever that fizzled out cause I never went further. Plus all except 2 of these women were at my university. Big factor that.

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      • anti-hero
        9 years ago

        I like a little mystery.

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  • Doktor_Hildred_Von_Steinmann
    9 years ago

    You just answered your own question. You lied.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Aw. I just didnt remember that part of the information :(

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