Help finding friends & should i move?

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This may get quite long but I would really appreciate your helpful suggestions or ideas.

I have had social anxiety / generalized anxiety for quite some time so I only had a few close friends. It took awhile for me to manage my anxiety but one of the things I used was drugs / alcohol and partying. Most of the friends that I have now are into that lifestyle, and I don't want to associate myself with that anymore. But I have no other friends that are 100% sober. Also being sober and being around these people I have noticed certain qualities about them that I hate. And i can't do anything sober with them because all their money goes to drugs and alcohol or they are high and its not as fun. I find it very hard to trust people in my area. is it normal to feel like this? And do you think me moving and starting over would help me at all?

I can cut them out of my life which I usually do but end up feeling bad because we were very close and contact me. And I get bored and lonely doing things by myself. I can't make them choose to be sober that's something they have to do on their own (they get mad if i bring it up) I'd hang out with family but they are always busy. And at my work no one is my age they are all very older than me, but I do like my job and would only quit if I decided to move.
help?

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  • Fabien01leboss
    8 years ago

    i think that if you find bad qualities on your friend and the only things that you do/like with them is when you are not sober it is not normal and yes i think that you should try to find other friends and move but do not cut contact with those friends and speak about this with them.
    If you want to know the only real friend that i found has been this year i do not have many friends but i know that he is a real friend who is not going to tell bad things about me when i will not be with him

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  • dickwashington
    8 years ago

    what kind of job do you have ?
    do you have any hobbies or interests?

    it may see off topic but it will help me give advice

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    You should probably keep in mind that no matter how far you move away from home, you cannot ever get away from yourself. Chances are the majority of your problems are self induced, so moving won't help a bit.

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