Help! my girlfriend is a vegan!

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I've been dating this really nice girl for a few months now. Only one problem, she's a strict vegan!

It's really hard for us to share a meal together because she can't seem to eat anything on any menu anywhere. If it was just no meats, that would be okay, but she also does no milk, dairy, eggs - any product of an animal.

A lot of times I will ask her to chose a place and I'd be happy to eat whatever she's having, but she won't go for that! She makes me choose something to eat for me and then she has to try to invent something off of the menu that works for her. One time I ordered a full meal and all she had was the free bread!

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kupokupo

9 years ago | pl

I often take my vegan girlfriend to restaurants where I eat meat. She tends to look at me with tears rolling down her cheeks and exclaim "ENJOYING YOUR FOOD, MURDERER?"

I wish she'd forget about the time I shot her mum...

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- GreyHulk99
  
  8 years ago
  
  you should be grateful your dating a vegan. she's a good girl. girls who eat meat make me sick for reasons i don't want to go into.
  
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anti-hero

9 years ago

Google: Vegan restaurants in (wherever you are).

Boom.

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MysteriousTrainerfromBeyond

9 years ago

Have you tried looking at many different cookbooks? Maybe you two could find a bunch of recipes to eat together. And perhaps you could write out a Weekly Menu so you can assign each meal on a different day so you won't have to struggle with trying to find too many dishes.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  That's an interesting idea. But I don't think we're at the point where we can comfortably cook for each other over the course of a week.
  
  I have thought about asking her to cook one of her vegan meals for us, which would be a start, but she doesn't seem to want to talk about food much at all.
  
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  - dirtybirdy
    
    9 years ago
    
    Perhaps an underlying eating disorder...
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      9 years ago
      
      I worry about that too, but it's something I'd have to approach delicately. It's not like she's wasting away or anything though, so I'm just going to sit on that one.
      
      If I notice that she's losing a lot of weight then I'll bring that concern out front again.
      
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  - sega31098
    
    9 years ago
    
    Try Happy Cow. They list all the vegan and vegetarian restaurants you could ever ask for.
    
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GiveMeAFuckingNameAlready!

9 years ago

I dated a vegan once. Got her to eat my meat all night long.

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wistfulmaiden

9 years ago

Just let her do her own thing and do your own thing. If you really like her it will work out. My personal thought is, she will probably give up being vegan when she gets anemia or her hair starts falling out...humans aren't meant to be strict vegetarians we don't have four stomachs like cows and we have canines.
I went on a weird diet once that was really restrictive and it made me sick and weak. Good luck.

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howaminotmyself

9 years ago

Go out for Indian food. They have lots of dishes that are meat and dairy free. A lot of asian places will be easy to accommodate her as well. Even an italian place will have at least one vegan option.

You have lots of options.

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sega31098

9 years ago

The internet is a great place to find vegan recipes. I eat meat, but seriously, vegan recipes can be awesome.

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handsignals

9 years ago

If God didn't want us to eat animals he wouldn't have made them out of meat.

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- flowerchild94
  
  9 years ago
  
  Humans are also made out of meat.
  
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  - handsignals
    
    9 years ago
    
    Ever heard of Zombies Coral!?
    
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    - iEatZombies_
      
      9 years ago
      
      =DDD
      
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      9 years ago
      
      Lol..
      
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thegypsysailor

9 years ago

Sorry, I think you two are completely incompatible. I can't imagine this relationship going anywhere at all, if she maintains the vegan thing. We do not allow vegans to charter our boat at any price, I repeat, at any price. It is just too hard to please them (and we do like our customers to go away feeling like they've had the best vacation of their lives) and frankly it is very uncomfortable for me personally, to be around them.
In general most vegans I have met are much like born again christians, always trying to extol the virtues of their thing. I've no interest in either (bring out that pork roast, please or hey, how about a Turducken?).

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- Shroot
  
  9 years ago
  
  What an ignorant comment.
  
  Fuck you.
  
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  - thegypsysailor
    
    9 years ago
    
    Please explain why you said that.
    
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    - Shroot
      
      9 years ago
      
      What gives you the right to say they're incompatible because they have a disagreement over food?
      
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      - thegypsysailor
        
        9 years ago
        
        Hey, the guy asked for help and I replied with my opinion. What's wrong with that? He asked, did he not? Have you ever lived with a vegan, but not eaten as they do? It requires two completely different styles of food buying, preparation and a great deal more cooking time. If you live with someone, that's a HUGE thing, and relationships are difficult enough without adding all that over food. Hell, the logistics of sitting down to a romantic candle lit dinner for two, with two completely separate menus (cooked at home), would be incredibly difficult.
        For you to say my comment is ignorant is just not right and to swear at me for my solicited opinion if very low class.
        
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        Anonymous Post Author
        
        9 years ago
        
        Thanks. I'm not down-voting your comments. I accept any and all feedback.
        
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        Shroot
        
        9 years ago
        
        If a relationship was to end because the cooking was a bit complicated. Then you shouldn't be in a relationship in the first place.
        
        Ps. I'll swear at who I want
        
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- iEatZombies_
  
  9 years ago
  
  It doesn't seem complicated to me. She made her choise to live a complex lifestyle, she'll have to deal with it. Which she is. OP is the one being kinda picky. Apparently she doesn't care that she isn't eating much when they're out. He should focus on other places and they can eat before they go out.
  As for separate meals, it really isn't a big deal. On the rare occasion there's a candlelit dinner, something can be arranged. Most people don't eat nice dinners frequently. For daily meals, whatever both can have plus a separate main dish is pretty simple.
  I can see how this could be complicated on a boat, but it isn't a difficult living situation.
  
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LIGHTHOUSE

9 years ago

Become a vegan too. It is much easier than vice-versa.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  Nah. She says she's okay with me not being vegan so I'm going to take her at her word.
  
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quai

9 years ago

So you are not compatible. How difficult would it be for you to date someone else? I'm guessing it won't be the end of the world.

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Shroot

9 years ago

Aaah I kinda get your frustration my girlfriend is a vegetarian.

As long as she eats the meat in-between your legs you're ok

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- Aliceee93
  
  9 years ago
  
  Wow that was helpful.
  
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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  Nope. Uh oh.
  
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  - Riddler
    
    9 years ago
    
    I dont understand why this is so difficult. I mean why not have something like wine and pasta if its a fancy restaurant or maybe Soda and a salad(No chicken) at a McDonald. I could think of a lot of combinations of food she could eat even when eating out. Maybe your just not trying hard enough? I am not even vegan but I could probably think of a vegan diet even for eating out.
    
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maskofsanity

7 years ago

Download happy cow and look for close by vegan/vegetarian restaurants.

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Eloise_Sophia

7 years ago

Whenever I go out I have a jacket potato. I'm vegan and there's nothing to eat on the menu. I don't even like jacket potato. And obviously I have to ask for no butter. Just think how hard it is for her.
P.S doesn't it show how much people rely upon animals? It's disgusting.
P.P.S all the comments above are talking about canine teeth and our stomachs. It's proved that our stomachs digest plants and plant-based stuff better than meat. Plus our canines aren't really canines- have you ever seen a lion?

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  7 years ago
  
  That's nice, but she's history now. I haven't seen or spoken to her in over 18 months.
  
  I learned my lesson. No more vegans. Too much trouble.
  
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foods-dangerous-to-dogs

7 years ago

here's my advice. go to Native Foods with her. Native Foods is a wonderful vegan restauraunt. Try vegan food. Its yum.

Also you two can cook together. Which would be a nice bonding experience.

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Mytwin295

9 years ago

i think you need to get over it

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associate

9 years ago

Time to eat... kale!

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loopoo

9 years ago

Vegan is the only right way to eat, let her educate you and give up your murdering meat eating ways

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- EccentricWeird
  
  9 years ago
  
  Not self-righteous at all!
  
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    9 years ago
    
    Truth hurts
    
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      9 years ago
      
      why do we have canines and not have four stomachs like cows?
      
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      - EccentricWeird
        
        9 years ago
        
        OhHhHhHhHhHhHhHhHhHhHhHhHhHhHhHhHhHhHhHhH SHIT!
        
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      - loopoo
        
        9 years ago
        
        I've heard this excuse so many times. The human body can eat and digest lots of things. It can also chew up and digest other humans. Just because we can do something doesn't mean we must do something.
        
        Also, FYI our 'canine teeth' are canine in name only, they are not like the teeth of actual canines like Lions, Tigers etc.
        
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        12eahtsdrateri
        
        8 years ago
        
        I tried being a vegetarian once did not work out for my health I even had a doctor tell me that if I kept it up id be in a lot of trouble health wise.
        
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        wistfulmaiden
        
        9 years ago
        
        just fyi I did try being vegetarian for a while because I thought it would improve my health...and it didn't! Maybe I didn't do it "right" or whatever but I feel best when including meat. If you like being vegan that's fine but PLEEZE don't try to make your cat or dog vegan. I heard of this guy who fed his dog tofu until one night, the dog ate his foot off!
        
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