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i've been with my boyfriend for 3 months now.. at the beginning he always told me how beautiful i was and how he was attracted to me etc... all hes messages would say sweetheart etc..i saw him last week but it just felt like we didnt get along as usual...he said nuthing rong and did nuthing rong.. but i just went home and felt so upset.. he doesnt sweet talk me the way he used to and he doesnt call me as much as he used to.. i mean its better coz we wil get sik of each other.. but it really hurts me coz i wana always hear from him and make sure hes happy.. i think about him so much..does this mean i love him? and why dont i feel as close to him as i used to wen he has done nuthing rong.. i feel so paranoid these days.. and he has noticed...its so hard.. i dont know why im feeling this way!. its like i fear that hes gna break up with me.. i dont want him to coz we get along so well...im jst so attached to him.. argh help plz!

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  • AnonymousCanada
    12 years ago

    first of all, quit being so attached to him, thats just asking for disaster. if he ever broke up with you or if something happened to him you would just be devastated. stop being so attached. ok now thats out of the way, ask him if hes happy. its as simple as that. we have no idea how to address women when we think something is wrong or if we think something you are doing is wrong so we tend to keep it in until the next fight and then we unload all of that crap and make the situation 10X worse. so just ask him if something is wrong and even if he says no, look him in the eyes and if he seems fine then hes fine. if he looks like hes sad, or hiding something, then keep on him about it (unless he gets seriously pissed at you for pestering him then you just apologize and leave it alone) thats all you have to do.

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  • Scrat
    14 years ago

    Marry him now lol

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  • Rssngrl
    14 years ago

    you just drifted apart this is natures way of sayin get over him...

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  • HalfMoonFlare
    14 years ago

    I suspect that you don't get along as well as you think.

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  • somethingsomethingme
    14 years ago

    Have you talked to him about how you're feeling?

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  • poopie
    15 years ago

    i remember when me and my husband went threw that phase now we have been together for years and deeply in love

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  • butterfly4u
    15 years ago

    your advice sounds so correct... he tels me that he cares about me alot and hopes things will work out.. like he hopes that i becum his wife but wants to take each day as it comes..ur right about pressure.. hes actually scared to commit so the last thing i wana do is put pressure on him! i'm trying to be patient and im willing to wait for him and stik besides him but lately all i feel is depresd..i cant tel him that coz he will wory and think sumthing is rong.. that might scare him off!

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  • [Old Memory]
    15 years ago

    You need to relax, obviously you are young and if you have such strong feelings for him you shouldn't huddle over your boyfriend so much or expect him to do the same to you. If you put pressure on him and always want to hear from him or know where he is, it might scare him off. Tell him you like sweet talk and wouldn't mind to hear some every once in awhile, and show him you really care about him by doing little things for him too.

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