Head over heels in love with my best friend!!

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Okay I have no where else to turn to, its becoming unbearable!! I am completely and utterly head over heels in love with this girl. When shes out with me she makes me happy, like earlier on she was just lying there asleep on my bed and I couldn’t help but stare and stroke her hair, honestly I’m surprised the others haven’t noticed, well if they have noticed they haven’t said anything to me. Then when I tried to go to sleep like an hour ago I couldn’t think of anything else, plus as she fell asleep on my pillow in my bed that’s all I can smell is her, its driving me mad, but I know that I can never tell her as that will completely ruin what we have now and possibly turn all my friends against me. Friend B probably suspects me fancying Friend A but she would never say it out loud. I just feel so unbelievably guilty, I know that Friend A belongs to her boyfriend (I don’t mean to talk about her as a possession) but its not my place to be thinking of Friend A in this way. I just don’t know how I’m going to be able to cope anymore… I don’t know why it suddenly hit me today, all the emotion just came flooding back, it was strange, I think I kind of buried it all inside of me, and then suddenly today my heart just kind of lifted/sank I’m unsure but it felt different and good. I’ve never felt about anyone like this before (especially a girl), and I cant feel like this about her. I just cant its not RIGHT, its weird!! She has a boyfriend, who happens to be one of my close friends, She doesn’t fancy me plus shes in love with her boyfriend so why am I even thinking like this when I know that nothing can ever and WILL never happen! Oh its just so frustrating. It makes me want to scream, and then I see her and everything goes away. Oh for f**k sake!!!!!!!
WHAT DO I DO???

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  • abhishek_t87
    13 years ago

    I believe you love her as truly as true words from God.
    I do not want anyone with a pure feeling to go in vain.

    I believe in your love.

    Do you believe in yourself...??

    I do not need the answer.
    Just say "I Do" to yourself.

    Now read below.

    First of all...

    DONT FEEL GUILTY TO LOVE SOMEONE.

    If you love her, you haven't committed a crime. Just keep on giving your love to her silently. I mean Just do not tell her that you are in love with her if this arises a fear of losing her.

    Trust only yourself.

    Now just keep on doing what your heart says. In such a case where you stand it is you who can understand everything much better than anyone else. If you like to care for her, If you like to stroke her hairs. Do it without thinking twice. Do not ask anyone what you should do and what you should not.

    Just love her.

    If you love her care for her as much as you can. Love her as no one can love her more than you because there is a secret. No magnet in the universe is powerful than love. Your love will be hidden. but it will do its job. She will come to you.

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    • headsoverheels
      12 years ago

      Thanks am not the one who asked the question but thats an amazing answer I hope its right (fingers crossed) and I like your not so condescending and non judgemental view. :)

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    • abhishek_t87
      13 years ago

      Purify your love.

      Remember.
      LOVE = GIVE LOVE
      And nothing else.
      Feel the happiness inside you when she is happy. Why to feel hurt when her boyfriend is around. You love her. And that is all. I dont think your wish of making her happy, Keeping her safe and comfortable vanishes away just because she loves some other guy...?? He dosent matter between your love and her. your love dosent stop breathing when he is around. Just keep him out of frame. I believe she and her happiness matters more than the fact she has a boyfriend. So instead of looking at him, Look at the smile she bears...
      Thus, Purify your love. Separate your love from your desires. Keep all of your desires at home for later. For now, Your pure love is all what both of you need.

      Keep Your Calm.

      I know the pain you bear.
      How could I know...??
      Nice question.
      She is the first person you think of when you wake up in the morning. She is the only one you want to meet when you get ready to go out. when you dress up, you think if she likes the dress you are wearing. And in the night when you try to sleep, It is the most terrible time. You feel the distance. you can see her when you close your eyes. You think of losing her and something heavy compress your lungs, And you dont want to breathe anymore. Tears want to burst off your eyes, you want to hold your pillow and cry to it.

      I know it... I know it very well.

      So stay calm. No matter what happens, stay calm at least from above.
      Losing the control over your mind will lead you to lose the control over everything.

      Believe Yourself.
      Believe yourself even if you dont believe me.
      Dont let yourself lose without trying.

      The process will take some or more time. But if u will dont lose hope, You will win her. But if you do, you will end up cursing yourself.
      Every-time you fall down, tell yourself.

      "The race is not over Because i have not won."

      Have this attitude.

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  • TheOmegaJuggalo
    13 years ago

    Story of my fucking life. Except I'm a dude. lol
    My vote goes to a threesome. The guy won't care. The guy will be totally cool with it. lol it's the friend that takes convincing...

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  • CaramelChrissy
    13 years ago

    Tell "friend A" how you feel. Maybe if she rejects you, you wont feel the same way. And your mind will understand that you wont be able to be with her. If you want to stop having feelings for her, try not to give in with flirtacious signals. Like, letting her sleep in your bed. Hang out with her less. Just do things that will help you get your mind off of her.

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  • wolfsroflol
    13 years ago

    Ive had this problem, and the thing is i told her i liked her, i wish with every single attom in me that i could go back and not say it. Its been 3 years and its been hard and im still not over it, i was soo shoor she was the one, but i think the best thing to do is take your mind off of her, it sounds hard but it can be done

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  • KyannaKitty
    10 years ago

    Awwww. That is perfectly normal and rlly sweet too. Use small little tricksto let her know you like her. Stroke her hair, put arm around her, hug her when shes sad. I think she will realise it eventually

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    13 years ago

    But Friend A is my best friend and i really really dont want to distance myself from her :(

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    13 years ago

    Btw forgot to mention though it is kind of obvious, we are both bisexual girls!

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  • Eoso
    13 years ago

    Too long...

    ...Didn't read

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