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Future baby daddy wont talk to me at all, won't pick up my calls or reply any of my texts.. Ofcourse we had issues he forcefully wanted me to get an abortion and i won't do it, keeping my baby.. Is there a chance of him coming around or should I apologize for being too harsh on the guy?? (I don't need lecturers i've gone through alot with him already)
It's normal if he's a selfish piece of shit. I would advise that you continue to stick by your guns and mentally prepare yourself to sue him for child support.
Oh, a disagreement. Maybe this can be a fun discussion but;
Why? what´s the fairness in forcing the guy to be a father against his will?
A guy cannot force a woman to keep or abort the child so why should the reversed be fine?
I tried to write what I thought was a good response, but then my phone ate it.
I guess my main point would be that if a guy doesn't wanna be in the position where he thinks he has no rights then he ought not to give up his rights by acting in a promiscuous manner, especially if he's the type who likes to ride bareback. I can't ever feel sorry for a guy who doesn't wear condoms! Sure, it might seem unfair, but the reason women need the rights they have is because they're the ones who have to be pregnant. Women are ones who carry babies, women are the ones who end up having abortions, it's just a function of biology. When men have can get pregnant then they can make these life and death decisions!
For the record I'm pro-life, but I do recognize that abortion doesn't have to be legal to exist.
I hate when that happens.
It makes re-writing a royal pain n the ass :L
I figured you were pro-life as well, I like discussions with people who have different opinions and are capable of actually discussing it without it turning into chaos.
Regarding abortions I feel like it´s a LAST resort, not something to be used as a birth control. I know people who have been fucking without protection for years and when they do get pregnant they have an abortion ...
An American friend of mine told me that it´s rather expensive to have an abortion in the US, that´s not the case in Sweden, it´s about the same as a regular vist and is easily below the 30 USD.
I just feel like it IS correct that it´s the woman who goes through the pregnancy and risk their health and everything to have the baby. It´s obviously their choice.
Yet I feel that a man should not have to be a father if he does not want to, just as the woman can´t be forced to be a mother/not be a mother against her will the same should go for the men.
If you don´t want children, use protection. But I feel it´s unfair that us women have all sorts of pills we can take which allows us to enjoy sex to the fullest, but for guys that is not the case with a condom.
Just try to put a piece of latex over your clitoris and compare the touch, it´s not the same.
This said, as a man, I´d not have unprotected sex with a woman where she could get pregnant from it. I´d be too fucking scared :L
Leave him, collect child support, get restraining order, find hotter baby daddy without the same personality.
This is going to sound very prickish and obnoxious and I am going to get tons of dislikes and hate for this:
Yes, you two had unprotected sex (most probably). Now you are pregnant. He's stressing. You're stressing. He is letting you know that he is so clearly not ready for this gigantic commitment by means of a childish onslaught toward you and trying to get you to have an abortion.
You are retaliating by telling him that you do not care what he wants and that you will keep this child.
So the one side says that they are not ready. The other side is saying "fuck yeah let's do this thing!"
So he is not ready but you are ready.
The baby comes. What now? You find that you can't support this child by yourself. Now you sue him for child support. Child support for a child that he expressed to you that he is not ready for but you went along with it anyway.
(yes, I know how cold blooded I am sounding right now).
You're right, but what about me?? Where is my mercy?? The guy is just selfish, the next day after I told him I was pregnant I found him half naked with another girl..his best friend also told me that he knocked up a 15 year.. I just think he's a psycho.. And a narcissist I won't let my baby go just cuz the man is a Devil and selfish basturd.
So should she.
And, earnestly, how nice is it to fuck with a condom?
Maybe she lied about being on the pill?
To be precise he bought the morning after pill for me and I took it with him right next to me.. Why the fuck would I set myself up like that.. Jeez!
Maybe she did. But she's not the one complaining about a baby being on the way, so...
He should of thought about it before sticking his dick in her. I don't fuck anyone I wouldn't be willing to father a baby with cuz you never know.. Unless if I'm drunk
Maybe he was drunk and she's ugly? OP should give more details
Lol.. You want me to confirm if am pretty.I was pretty enough for him to date me :-D
So because a guy gets horny and wants to fuck he should be willing to commit the rest of his life to that woman and her nasty baby?
No, don´t think so.
Every guy I´ve fucked? `ve been honest about being on the pill and SHOULD an accident happen? I´ll make a decision based on what I feel like and he have about 2-4 months to make up his mind.
(about as long as I´d have to get an abortion)
To me that would be the only fair thing to do.
People, both men and women have to be accountable for their actions. It takes two to tango, which means if there's a crisis pregnancy that both parties have culpability. It's a 50/50 deal.
It's good that you're open and honest, but not everyone is so transparent. If these hypothetically victimized guys that we're making suppositions about want to have their fair shake they ought to take time to get to know someone before they sleep with them.
You sound like a bitter ugly ass bitch... You don't know what i've gone through with this guy.. And everything was mutual.. We spent everyday together doing things we both liked.. He was my boyfriend not some random guy we both loved each other.. And am okay with keeping my baby so whats up with you and your narcissistic comments..