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Hi, I’ve met a guy online and we get on well and plan on meeting soon.
The other day he told me it turns him to to think of impregnating me.
He’s spoken about wanting children that look like us before.
I’m just wondering if I can get some insight. For me being told he wants to impregnate me is a big deal, though I do know this is just probably a sexual fantasy for him. I just found it odd he’s so open about it.
Let me make a wild assumption. He is black and he said; "I want to put a baby in you."
SO wrong on so many levels. Don't even meet thus guy. Stop all communication!
DON'T DO IT!! I can't even tell you how bad of an idea it sounds to meet him. Children should be conceived after you guys are in a committed relationship!! After you are sure that is who you want to spend your life with. To me having a kid together is a bigger deal than marrying someone. You can divorce your husband and never talk to him again but having a child with someone and trying to do what's right for your child means that person will be in your life FOREVER!!! If you tell him you aren't ready and he wants to push that do not meet him and please please get some birth control that he can't mess up. The shot or an implant something like that.
He has a fetish, and not thinking about the consequences or you.
Either get an IUD or some reliable birth control he can't tamper with, or avoid sex with this guy. Cause pregnancy is no joke, you're creating a life.
Is he one of those guys who wears his pants down around his knees, and has on clown underwear that looks like it hasn't been washed in weeks?
he may slip you a ruffie. he may cuff you to the bed. he may keep you as his on-call sex slave, in a big dog crate, bringing you out, only to play with. You'll please his friends and when you're all used up, he will 'donate' you to one of those darkweb sites. PLEASE BE CAREFUL!!
Procreation is a strong urge for a lot of women, but also for quite a few guys. So much so, that pregnant porn is a sub-genre. So, yeah, some guys get off on the idea of making a woman pregnant.
The trick is finding a guy who will hang around through the decidedly unsexy years that follow the disappearance of that sexy bump.
It may just be a mind-game he plays with himself because he finds pregnant women sexy, in the same way as other guys find big breasts or large butts sexy. Or he may have a strong urge to be a father.
I can understand the latter, because I've been there. The first time I had sex with my wife, I had a gut-deep feeling that she was going to be the mother of my child. In fact, she became pregnant with our daughter sometime in the hours that followed. It felt right then, and nearly eleven years on, it still feels right.
If you look at the guy and can't possibly see him as the father of your child, or if you are absolutely certain just don't want to have kids at all, then I think you need to step back, or at least explore with him in detail what exactly is going on in his head.
If you do have sex with him, it would be very wise to make sure that you aren't relying solely on condoms. If the guy is an ass with a pregnancy kink, you might find that the condom "accidentally" comes off or tears. Or if the guy has a strong urge to be a father, it's possible he might subconsciously sabotage the condom.
The guy has stated his intentions clearly. Pay attention to what he's saying, assume he's going to try to do what he says, and act accordingly.