He vanished... what to do?

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Me and my boyfriend have been dating for the past 4 months i love him and he says he loves me and would never leave me but then i get a not when i come back home from my sisters wedding saying he is at his moms and would be back soon that was 5 days ago and he took all his stuff with him we never fight i don't know what is going on but i don't want to be the clinging girlfriend how can i talk when he wont listing or write back to me emails or answer any of my calls should i break it off or just wait to see what happens next i honestly love him and want to be with him but i just don't know any more what to do

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  • squeallikeasacofpigs
    12 years ago

    Lol wtf to the guy above, 'be patient'??? Seriously, what a tool he's skipped town and is totally ignoring you when your his gf! Ditch that asshole and find someone better

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    • LaughinSkull
      9 years ago

      Lol it was only 5 days and it sounded like the person was paranoid and flipping out, ready to get a search party to go looking for the guy. I've had girlfriends before that I told I was going to be out of town camping and unreachable for a few days and similar stuff had happened over those few days.

      I don't believe in jumping to extreme advice when you know practically nothing about the situation. Maybe she attacked him and didn't tell us, maybe they had a fight and he needed some space, or maybe you're right and he doesn't care and she should find someone better.

      But quickly stating "Ditch that asshole" based on less than a paragraph of information I think is worse advice then telling them to calm down and think things through.

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  • DefinitelyNotNormal89
    12 years ago

    I would understand if he'd been gone an hour and you were ringing him but it's been 5 days, you are not being clingy, you're just concerned he's disappeared off the face of the earth. If he's funny with you over it, you could just be worried something has happened.
    If it turns out he's just ignoring you then he's a complete prick who doesn't deserve your time. It may hurt like hell now but in time you'll be glad it's over instead of worrying about a guy who hasn't even got the decency to tell you it's over.
    You have made the first step, personally I'd just leave him now, try not to jump to conclusions and let him make the next move. If you haven't heard off him in a couple of weeks I'd assume it's over but I still wouldn't bother trying to get in touch, you're just worth more.
    I really don't understand the logic of some people!

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  • LaughinSkull
    12 years ago

    That sucks... No really I mean that.

    I dated a girl for three years once and she dropped without a trace for the summer. When she came back, she barely spoke to me and then dropped contact for another year. After that, she had a new boyfriend and moved to the east coast. Don't know why, she never explained it, and I never really asked. We just--separated.

    As for your situation I don't think it will go to that extreme. But be patient--You've already tried contacting him several times. I'm sure he's gotten some of the messages and if he hasn't, then I'm afraid sending more will do nothing. He should know you want to talk to him, and unfortunately aside from hunting him down like a leopard, you will just have to wait for him to contact you. If he drops contact forever, then again unfortunately there is nothing you can do because that would of been his choice.

    Give it time, and if a LOT of time has passed and you still haven't heard from him, like a month, then consider sending him an email telling him its over. Again this is worst case scenario.

    Just wait, be patient, and don't let anxiety take a hold of you. If he comes back, maybe talk to him about answering his phone or something when dropping off the radar next time.

    Hope all goes well.

    Your Internet friend,
    -TJ

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  • AnonymousCanada
    12 years ago

    wow usually im the one to post giant ass comments but this time the answer is simple. dump his ass and date someone else. if you still like him after vanishing on you like that then you deserve to be unhappy. those are your options deal with it.

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    • troubledmind
      12 years ago

      thank you for being honest and i will dump him i do not deserve to be unhappy i want to meet some one that will not leave just because i want to meet someone that will be there

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      • AnonymousCanada
        12 years ago

        no problem. im sorry if i seemed too harsh on you but i just think that you deserve to be happy (i do not know you but you sound like a nice person) i hope you find someone who appreciates you.

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        • troubledmind
          12 years ago

          :) i hope that i do too

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  • mattsaballer5
    12 years ago

    Call him try everything to do to contact him. Try his mom too. If still no word from him call it off

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