He's finally got a girlfriend, yet he still keeps going..

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Hey guys!

I'm going to keep this as short as possible- Well over 8 years ago (when I was 18), I moved out of my parents place to live in the mansion were my brother and some of his friends (and their friends) were living. I've lived in that villa for 5 years and I never regretted a single second of it; it was so fun! Now there was a tall and handsome guy there, let's call him 'E' (he was 37 when we met), and - despite not being in a relationship together - we use to sleep together frequently and we still did after I've moved out to live in my current place (but only on occasion). However this ended about a year ago, because I got into a relationship with someone else.

Fast forward, my relationship with that someone else has been over with for several months and 'E' is now in a relationship with a very pretty girl. I'm happy for him because he has been single for nearly a decade, or at least I guess you could say I was happy. You see, 'E' keeps flirting with me through text, trying to sleep with me, inappropriate late night messages and even more inappropriate photos.

At first instance I thought he was just fooling around, but judging by the nudes he sends me, he's actually laying next to his girlfriend when he's sending me nudes! In his last photo, I saw strands on long, brown hair. Wtf?

Mind you I don't pay heed to his photos and messages, I really don't say much except for "Yo, you have a gf. How about you focus on her instead?" but he keeps going on about 'our amazing time together in the villa' and how he sometimes wishes he could go back. He even said he... pleasured himself next to his girlfriend while thinking about me, how he sleeps with her, fantasizing about me.

Sure, him and I had a great sexual connection but that's just disturbing to hear. Having those thoughts is one thing, but sharing them with the woman in question is something entirely different.

Could someone please en-light me why he's going this? Why would a guy - now in his mid 40s - that has been single for nearly a decade, ruin his chance for a happy and stable relationship?

I know it's not my place to interfere, but I genuinely feel bad for the other girl.

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  • RoseIsabella
    4 years ago

    He's acting that way, because he is a selfish, two-timing piece of crap, and a lying sack of shit; in other words he's just not a good person deep down inside himself! Just cut him off, and tell him not to send you anymore nudes, then block his nasty ass. He's just a gross ass man-whore guy. If I were in your shoes I would go get tested for STDS, and honestly I think you should feel sorry for his new girlfriend, because he will probably cheat on her, and give her a disease.

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  • Grunewald
    4 years ago

    Block him. It'll hurt, granted. But in the long run it might end up hurting a lot more otherwise.

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  • ElysiumX
    4 years ago

    Thanks for the feedback, everyone. I really needed the confirmation.

    I know what he's doing is wrong - and I guess I always have - but yet every now and then I couldn't help but think that maybe I did something that might have initiated his behavior, which is crazy because I haven't, not in almost two years anyway.

    Glad to have gotten this wake-up call from strangers living from the other side of the world. Seems like cutting ties (without interference in his relationship) will be the best thing to do, for everyone involved.

    Thanks again, much appreciated! :)

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  • bigbudchonga
    4 years ago

    He's a player. If you're not going to go for it at all, then I'd lay it down with him flat that you don't want him, and he needs to stop sending you those kinds of messages. Unless you know the girl then don't tell him though. Loyalty to friends > strangers.

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  • CozmoWank
    4 years ago

    He's acting that way because he's Mr Studly.
    Run, Run away. He sounds like a jackass.

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  • dimwitted
    4 years ago

    This is a bad soap opera. But how does it make you feel to be the "other woman"? If it makes you feel bad, then break the connection.

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  • GaelicPotato
    4 years ago

    Because he's a fucking retard, that's why.

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