He is going away to a university should we stay together?

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I have been with the same guy for almost 2 years. We both currently go to a community college, and since I am 2 years younger than him, he is transferring to a University in the spring. (7 hours away)...only a state away, though. He really wants to stay together and I told him I don't know if it can work and he got VERY upset and keeps assuring me that it will work. He has never cheated on me, does not talk to other girls which is a plus(he never has even before we dated), and he always wants to spend every minute of his time with me and wants me to visit him every weekend or every other weekend when he goes to the University. I am just scared that I won't be able to handle not seeing him and that I will miss having someone around? I love him, but also am scared he might find someone else even though he says he won't..What should I do?

Stay with him, it will work out 7
Break up sooner than later 4
Break up when he leaves 0
Stay with him and if you cannot handle it, then break up 19
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  • Caryopteris
    11 years ago

    Just say to him, look, we have something good here, but we have no way of knowing what will happen. Let's stay friends, but socializing and even dating shouldn't be out of the question while you are away. If one of us meets somebody and wants the relationship to progress, then we let the other person know we are in friend mode. See if he thinks he can do that. He may be the person who meets somebody, and you have to be prepared for that too. But there is nothing wrong with meeting other people during college years and then coming back together if it was meant to be. Some people are too attached or jealous in personality type, so that is up to you two.

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  • MsWVgal
    11 years ago

    Give it a chance. Don't break up now because you're worried you MAY break up later. Enjoy your relationship, and let things happen as they will.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    Yes.

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  • dom180
    11 years ago

    You might as well give it a go and see what happens. There's no use in giving up without trying. It's normal to have doubts and be insecure about your partner being miles away, but if you trust him enough that should be secondary to the value your relationship with him has to you

    You can use Skype to chat, and have even have Skype dates together. You won't have to stop talking to each other at all. Practice by spending a few days not seeing each other but still talking online or texting, then a week without seeing each other. If you can handle that without going insane, you'll be able to cope with him moving miles away.

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