He has a girlfriend

I am asking you guys because all my friends seem to think the same thing and I need another opinion. I don't know English very well so I might make some mistakes.
I am in love with this guy, who I met 3 months ago. I think it was love at first sight because he made such a big impact on me. I asked some friends about him, he was older than me with one year, and I somehow got his yahoo messenger ID.
I started talking to him and after a few weeks we met and talked. With every day I felt more atracted to him and one day, I managed to tell him my feelings. He said that I am very cool and sweet but that he already has a girlfriend. Now I don't know what to do. I like him so much and I see him every day, because we go to the same high school. I still talk to him, and I'm more open now with him because I know I have nothing to be ashamed of. But it really hurts to know that there is someone else who holds him and kisses him. I have two options, to forget him or to wait. But both are so painful. Is there any other option? Do you know how could I get his atention? I already told him I like him so now I have the courage to do anything.
Please help me, I'd love to know what you think.

Thanks

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  • toddinator716

    The fact that said it was "love at first sight" is just another word for biological urges written deep within your DNA that pull you towards a certain person. It's completely normal. However, you should do your best to suppress these emotions because they will often only harm you.

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  • BirdyMojo

    Don't move in on her territory. I think you should be a good and supportive friend, but don't try to go out with him or anything. Obviously he views you as "just a friend." Maybe you guys might become something, but just be a good friend.

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  • PoisonFlowers

    I know that you want to take this further to something more than it is, but look at the situation:

    He has a girlfriend.

    It really is as simple a that. It hurts having to let go, but that really is the only option if you're looking for less pain for everyone, including yourself.

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  • xino00

    people should really stop with this relationship bullsh* question.
    There's a forum for that.
    If this goes on, there's no reason to be here in this site!

    I don't know why you are failing in love with him when he cares about his girlfriend.
    Just make him be your best friend, because there's nothing he's gonna do.

    All he'll do is cheat on his girlfriend.

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  • BugzBunnae

    Don't listen to any of these comments, They all can lead you into trouble, with him or with yourself, The only one that stuck out was the first one "Be his best friend" I'm sorry but thats the only thing you can do. I know it hurts, I know that it is painful to know that because I went thru the exact thing! I fell for my best friend before, while he had a girlfriend and it didn't help that he was always hugging me and telling me how beautiful i was! i thought he was leading me on! But one thing that I noticed that work for me is do things that take your mind off of him (if it is possible) Talk to other guys, hang with some of your other friends, look at other guys and try your hardest not to say "well _____ is still better, hes the only one i will love, he is the only guy for me" because obviously that isn't working for you. And no, I'm not saying completely forget about him, ignore him, because you can't have him you can't be there for him. No! don't do that! because then you would hurt him...and do you want that? If you really love someone sometimes the best thing to do is let them go, and be there for them whenever they need it. At least he is happy, wouldn't you want that? Thats a true friend, all feelings aside. And one more thing, this might sound crazy but ask him to hook you up with a guy he thinks would be good for you!, and if he finds one don't reject the poor guy off the bat, give other guys a chance! and don't compare them with him because then you are the one in the wrong. So girl, this is completely normal and no matter how much it hurts, know that you will get thru it. you WILL.

    oh and your english is great! What are you talking about? :P What are you by the way? race wise? Just a curious question. (I'm native american )

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  • maacri

    The More pain you have You would become more clear about one thing that...

    ....LOVE can never be bought.

    yeah it hurts, but don't worry time will heal all the pains.

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  • BrightEyes

    Just be his friend. Be his good friend. Understand? So, if and when he breaks up with his girlfriend, you will be there.

    That will only work if he finds you attractive and a suitable partner but, you know, it's a plan.

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  • xcmm92

    hey, i had the same problem, I met this guy bc he was friends with my friend's boyfriend. He started hanging out with my group every lunch and i started to like him, and for a while i thought he liked me, but then one day he just randomly said "i have a girlfriend, but we can still be friends" i acted like i didnt really care and answered sarcastically which is my normal response to everything. He dated that girl for a couple of months but something inside me told me to wait. Over the summer we started to email eachother and i found out that they broke up. Back in school we started to hang out in between bells and we kind of confessed to eachother that we liked eachother, but his parents wouldnt allow him to date bc his last relationship ended badly. again, something inside me told me to wait. Now, we've been dating for a couple of months and we couldn't love eachother more than we do. im joining the military and hes still gonna be in school when i leave, but again, something tells me to wait, everything's gonna be alright <3

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  • summerdream2010

    Thanks BugsBunnae! I feel so good right now. I know I shoud be his friend and I'm trying to be there for him. I met new people in this short vacation and I had a great time. Now that I accepted this situation it is easier to hang out with him, but it still hurts. Thank you for your comment, it helps me to know that someone out there understands me.
    Oh..I'm from Romania and that's why I said that my English is bad...I have problems with verbs and times. Hopefully I will get better.

    Thanks again :D!

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  • samue1

    I would suggest making yourself seem better than his girlfriend. Make a point of all the things you have in common with him, make him aware that you are up for anything in the bedroom. As a man I find open mindedness very attractive.

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