He "forgets" to text plans and delays

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My boyfriend always "forgets" to text me about coming home late, changes in plans etc.
Ex. he just left for an event he didn't know if he would even stay at so he promised to text me when he knew. Now 4 hours later the event is over and I still havent heard a thing, I even texted and called with no respond - no clue where he is now. He can say he will be home in 20 mins so I can start cooking dinner and 2 hours later he is still not home, without giving me a heads up he will be delayed.
He refuses to make plans and that's okay I guess but he could at least inform me as he does decide what to do/ get delayed, am I right or needy? This happens serval times a week.
When I tell him it bothers me I never have a clue (in a non nagging way) he snaps and gets angry, calls me psychotic for wanting to know.

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  • momwatcher69
    4 years ago

    My guess is he's not only cheating , on you, but he's extremely inconsiderate, and abusive.

    So, please tell us: WHY is he STILL your boyfriend ?!

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    • RoseIsabella
      4 years ago

      Um hmm.

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  • RoseIsabella
    4 years ago

    Why would you bother cooking dinner for a piece of shit guy who treats you so badly? I sure as Hell wouldn't lift a finger for a guy like this dude you're wasting your time, emotions, energy and live on, chica.

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  • cupcake_wants
    4 years ago

    This guy isn't worth your time. You need to move on. Sending a text would be really easy, but he doesn't even do that. Then he gets angry when you bring it up when he is doing it so often?!? Bye bye, jack ass.

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    • einexile
      4 years ago

      Not just angry but gaslighting her for the most basic suspicions and feelings of jealousy anyone would experience.

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      • CountessDouche
        4 years ago

        This too. You're good.

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        • einexile
          4 years ago

          Thank you, I appreciate that.

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  • Doesnormalmatter
    4 years ago

    He probably "forget" to tell you her fucked a few women last night as well.

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  • Clunk42
    4 years ago

    That's a big red flag, right there.

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    • Meow..
      4 years ago

      Are you thinking about him being unfaithful or the fact that he doesnt care/forgets?
      I "know" that he is usually at work but then stays to drink beer or whatever and doesn't think about texting me. I usually "know" where he is, he just .. forgets or whatever happens.

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  • cupcake_wants
    4 years ago

    Now, are you going to listen to all of us and dump this piece of trash, or are you going to keep putting up with it? Let us know, we want updates!

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  • Ellenna
    4 years ago

    He's either just plain inconsiderate or he's up to something he's not going to tell you about.

    I used to be married to someone like that who got angry when I stopped keeping dinner hot for him when he took 3 or 4 hours to get home from work. His excuse was always that he got "trapped" in the pub with his mates and I believed that for years: turned out he'd had a succession of girlfriends he'd visit after work on his way home to me and his little girl.

    This was long before mobile phones but we had a landline and if he had been in the pub they had a phone there he could've used to call me.

    Several times a week???? Sorry honey, he's up to something. It's not being needy to expect to be treated with respect and he's certainly not doing that. It's certainly not "psychotic" and he sounds like a moron to use that expression in the circumstances.

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    • Meow..
      4 years ago

      I'm so sorry to hear.

      I don't think he is cheating honestly, but maybe I missed something.

      I think he is just extremely inconsiderate and doesn't know when and what he should involve me. This is also the case if he invites someone over for dinner. He rarely asks first and he "forgets" (again) to tell me until right before they show up even if it's hours since he asked the guests. I keep explaining why it would be nice to involve me, but he will never admit to be wrong and I don't know if he really just can't see it.

      I started to doubt if it was really just me who was too needy, because his zero understanding of this being a issue made me question myself. I can see now that I'm not wrong for expecting this of him.

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      • Ellenna
        4 years ago

        Never stay with someone who's incapable of admitting he's wrong!

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