He does not want a relationship but does not know if he wants to stay

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Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 and half years I thought we was a 'perfect couple' I thought we was ok. But a few weeks ago he told me that he wasn’t sure that he wanted a relationship, he says he loves me and adores me but does not know if he wants to stay or go. He said I was too clingy so I have tried my best not to be, because I know this is something I need to change. When I ask him do I have a chance of a future with him he says ‘I don’t know I need to think, it doesn’t happen overnight!’ What shall I do? Shall I give him space and be patient and wait for him to figure it out? I don’t want to lose him I love him and I thought there was nothing wrong!! Is this normal?

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  • jesusdiedlol
    12 years ago

    Let me give you some great advice... LEAVE BEFORE YOU GET LEFT! I'm sure you won't listen but I bet I can tell you for sure what's about to happen. He's gonna let you go because he wants to see what else is out there. Being clingy is not attractive and the reason you are like that is because you DON'T love yourself. So when he does leave you I hope you start working on being more confident. A strong woman WON'T depend on a man to make her happy!

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  • FussyCarrot
    12 years ago

    fuck that. leave while u still have ur dignity. men who speak this way that u are describing are not being upfront and thats just the way it is. dont try to "talk it out/work it out" he will shut down and label u clingy. Say bye to him and then leave it like that. i know 3 years is a lot trust me i know, but men can switch on u just like that.

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  • jesusdiedlol
    12 years ago

    Man girls don't listen. She's gonna wait until the minute he leaves her and that's when she will regret not leaving. Sorry but truth is people have to always experience it for themselves.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    12 years ago

    That means that he has probably found someone else but is not sure whether or not he wants to be with HER, and does not want to leave you yet to risk letting go of a sure thing to pursue something that isn't so sure. He's got both doors open but doesn't know which one he wants to step through and doesn't know whether or not the other one will stay open. You're probably best to leave him because you is playing both you and her.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    Yes, 3 years is the end of the lovey dovey time :o( Get yourself a new life and friends without him before he dumps you. Show him that you have a life without him and that you will be very happy should he choose to leave. Then, he won't leave the new attractive, out-going and confident you. Don't be too available if he wants to see you - make him work to deserve you.

    Develop the attitude right now - HIS LOSS!!!
    and believe it.

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  • equanimity
    12 years ago

    Sounds like the beginning of the end to me and he's trying to let you off easy. Sorry, that's probably not what you wanted to read.

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