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I lied to him. I wasn't a virgin when we met. But recently i found out he tried heroin, after he watched his family fall apart and mine from this drug. But he's so mad at me for lying he won't even let me k to him about it. What do i do? He's my best friend through thick and thin. And i know for a fact he hasnt gotten hooked on it. I just don't know.
So he's so conventional and traditional that he needed you to be a virgin, but he and his family are shooting up heroin? And he lied to you about this, but he thinks that's unimportant, while your sexual history is extremely important? And he won't even let you explain the background and circumstances of you losing your virginity?
From what you say, the guy sounds pretty messed-up, and not much of a friend.
Leave him alone, and let him stew for a while. If you're important to him, he'll get over himself and talk to you again. If he's too immature to do that, then you don't matter that much to him, and you don't want to be with him.
Wait a minute, wait a minute, wait a minute... who the fuck does this stupid junkie spawn think he is to be judging you on the fact that you aren't as pure as driven snow? I'm sorry, but he's a muthafuckin asshole! The state of your hymen is no one's business, but yours, how dare he judge you on something as archaic, chauvinistic and misogynistic as the state of your virginity! If there is a history of substance abuse in his family of origin he may be predisposed to addiction. Regardless, he is in no position to pass judgement on you!
Don't lie anymore, but also don't ever feel obliged to divulge your personal sexual history if you don't feel comfortable doing so. It's completely okay to tell someone that your personal history is none of their business.
Sounds like someone needs a nap or to at least grow the fuck up. Uf he won't apologize I say dump the the inconsiderate fuck. Let him see life without you for a month or 2.