Having hard time getting my girl wet??

We are not like men, we are emotionally attached to our sex lives. For men it’s all physical, you get hard, then pump away until the deed is done.

If you have been fighting a lot lately, then it is highly probable that she is just not feeling it with you at the moment. What makes us feel good is different for every woman. With me I am a control freak, the feeling of power that I have over my man makes me feel good, it’s what turns me on more than anything. Knowing I can demand him to bring me to orgasm any time, any place, and he will comply, even though he knows there is zero chance that he will get to cum as well, gets me as wet and turned on as hell. Most women are not like me, perhaps because they have never tried taking charge the way I do, or perhaps it’s just because they haven’t been through the trauma’s that I have. Whatever the reason doesn’t matter but it takes a very special and submissive man to be with someone like me and make me happy. For your lady she probably just wants more peace and less fighting with you. Try being romantic with her. If you can cook make her a nice meal, or get a takeaway. Have candles and romantic music, dim the lights, set the scene, show her you are making the effort. When it’s time to get to the sex, put her needs before your own. Give her a slow massage, rub oils into her skin, take your time and explore every inch of her body, not just her tits and fanny, get to them last. Give her oral, but don’t try to get her off straight away. Move back to exploring other parts of her body, do this several times if you want. Once she is really feeling it and begging you to make her cum, hold her at the edge, then when the time is right use your tongue or fingers to send her over the top to a wonderful orgasm. Once her orgasm is spent ask her permission to make love to her. If you have done a good job she may not want to. If that happens man up and accept it, tell her it doesn’t matter because tonight was about her and her pleasure. DO NOT SULK. Offer to just give her another orgasm if she wants, or just hold her and kiss and cuddle.

You may think, why would you do all that and get nothing back. But think of it as an investment. Emotionally you will be setting her down a positive pathway. She will start to believe in you and that she really does mean something to you. Next time you have sex, start the same way, but when she is on the edge of orgasm, bring her back from the brink, then ask her permission to make love to her, then tell her you will just make her cum instead like last time if she wants. If you have done a good enough job she might ask you to make her cum first then make love to her. Again whatever she decides she wants just go with it and let her know it really doesn’t matter about you because this is about her, even go as far as convincing her you really only wanted to give her an orgasm these last couple of times because she is so important to you. By now you should have her emotionally hooked back into your relationship so think of it as third time lucky and next time you have sex start in much the same way, only this time tell her how much you really want to cum in her this time.

Too bad!

This is what happened when I could no longer connect with my husband. There was mis-communications and came a time when I no longer tried because I was tired of trying to establish good communication with him asking about his feelings, asking about his day and he would barely participate.
Sex was never the same. Too many things left unsaid.

Foreplay!

She got comfortable and bored, the freaky sex is great but when they feel like they don't need to make an effort then it stops, it's obviously not you thats the issue here, you are a sex god.. A fucking machine.
Sometimes the key to the machine doesn't work in the slot, is it tge keys fault.. Of course not, its always a faulty lock.

Obviously i'm trolling with all that.

Talk to the girl, tell her you feel that things aren't the same any more, relationships are about being able to communicate.

Please get and read the book: "The 5 Love Languages" by Gary Chapman.

Get her a copy too. You'll both likely read it at different rates. which is OK as long as you both read it.

There's a lot more to love than just sex (and sex is not love)... and right now its likely that she does not feel that you are filling her love tank. You need to learn how to do that... if you are going to recover from this... and have better relationships in the future.

She also needs to learn about why she is not feeling loved, and what she needs to do to fill your love tank (or other future lovers).

I wish you the best with this...

Face it, man, it’s over. Unless you can turn it around and reestablish some communication and intimacy.