Having an affair with my step-daughter, iin?

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My story is a bit unusual but I really need help. I am 23 years old and my spouse is 40. We have 2 kids together, but I think we are in big trouble. See I had an affair with my stepdaughter. We started when my wife was away on a medical trip for our baby when she was 9 months pregnant. I admit I was sexually attracted to my step daughter proir to this, but with a bit of alchohol and stirred up feelings I found my self kissing and fondeling my step daughter in my marital bed. Anyway, this all continued for actually a year and a 1/2 before it was totally over. My wife (and I have always called her that as we are common law) found out, and she confronted my about it after the first time, I told her she was nuts and denyed it. She came to me over and over again about it and I kept saying she knew nothing.
It was not about sex as we never actually had intercouse, but we spent nights (everynight for a long time) going for walks, kissing, touching, stargazing, talking. My wife called me when I took a business trip and told me she was hurting, that I was hurting her, I admitted to her that I was emotionally involved in an inapropriate way with her daughter and promised to end it. I got home and took her daughter to a private location and performed oral sex on her with the intention of having sex, needless to say the affair did not end. On 3 occasions she attempted to perform oral sex on me but as a virgin she couldn't do it. I again performed oral sex on her in our own home when my wife was at a doctors appointment for our baby. During this time I had sex with my wife nightly but always I fantasized about my stepdaughter and didn't pay attention to my wife. I used her as the sex was one sided. I ridiculed my wife for accusing me of having an affair.
I know I loved her, but I don't think I do now. I only love my wife.
I finally admitted to the affair 6 months after it officially ended. She cornered me with a question I couldn't think of a lie for. Now it has been ayear and I think things are still not good.
She says I am sick, and that I am only here to help raise our two kids.
What can I do? Am I sick?

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  • derpyderp
    12 years ago

    How old is said stepdaughter?

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    • theincrediblemachine
      12 years ago

      she is now 19...she was just 15 when it actually started and turned 16 shortly there after. Why? What difference does it make? As I stated she is 4 1/2 years my junior. And the sister of both my children. Oh and I guess at the time she was sister to the child my wife was 9 months pregnant with and sister to the child we had the year before that was still born.

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      • Its_Called_Love
        12 years ago

        The difference is that at the time she was a minor. She was 15, so obviously she was new to being a teenager. As her step-father you should have been more appropriate with her. If she was over 18 at the time, I'd say go to town. But she was a minor, and you were a male role-model in her life she looked up to. Definitely crossed a major line.

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      • RustyKuntz03
        6 years ago

        How did she taste? Usually younger girls don’t know how to clean properly down there and some even wipe their ass from back to front so they get feces in their vagina causing it to taste very bad

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      • geb
        8 years ago

        15 is jail bait. Have u lost your mind? You keep your hands to your self and pants on. She is a minor.

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    • wmfial
      8 years ago

      my wife of two years moved away from me to live by her mother and her mother's live in companion of ten yrs. her mother and this male companion have never been formally married, but I always though the my wife regarded him as her stepfather. Well as really sick as this sounds i found out that that my and her "stepfather' are having an affair spooning sleeping together under a heating blanket fondling each other etc.
      I am grief stricken and do not know how to handle this. I have never been so sick of this sickening loss of trust and insult.

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  • Meowkitten1988
    10 years ago

    What you have done is a complete life wrecker to your step daughter. She will be scarred for life from what you have done. Trust me I speak from experience. Mine started when I was just 14 and ended when I was 18. I am now nearing 26 off work with depression and have a list of mental health issues all thanks to my step father.

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    • geb
      8 years ago

      I hope you told your mom about his attics. He has no shame!

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    • volvonut84
      9 years ago

      Sounds like you need a good boning...you'll be good to go!

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  • Blahzero
    10 years ago

    Sick sick sick.

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  • 1000yrVampireKing
    11 years ago

    No you are a sick bastard.

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    • geb
      8 years ago

      Yes! He should be casterated with a dull rusty knife

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  • livednlearned
    11 years ago

    whats done is done she needs to realize that. but it'll be a long time before she trust you again. id say make her fall in love with you again if you still love her. if not don't just stay for the kids you can be in their life but it will tear you guys apart to live in the same house if she doesn't forgive you. i hated watching my mom and step dad go at it.

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  • okbaby
    11 years ago

    You and your wife should go somewhere for a weekend and have a good one talk just the two of you.
    Then when you come back the two of you together sit down and have a good talk with your stepdaughter.

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  • ChasingAfterPond<3
    12 years ago

    That is just wrong. You obviously do not love your wife, you had an affair with her underaged daughter. You not only set a bad example for your step daughter while crossing too mant major lines, you are supposed to be a father figure, not like a boyfriend to her. Thats fucking sick. I wouldnt expect your wife to forgive you, you wanted to have sex with her 15 or 16 year old daughter. Seek help and stop hurting your wife. She deserves better.

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  • Its_Called_Love
    12 years ago

    By the way, from the sounds of it, you don't love your wife. And its cruel to be with her while your constantly thinking of someone else... Let alone her own daughter. Think of it from her point of view, you have kids.

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  • allanscudder
    11 years ago

    I think if they are both consenting, it's a beautiful thing to do.

    Perhaps a 3 way is in order?

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    • geb
      8 years ago

      You are sicker then him. under age sex is a crime.

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