Having a crush on a professor

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Well it is sort of a harmless thing and I would never act on it, but honestly, he is exactly what I think a compatible partner should be. Most guys i meet are superficial, or just want to play, not commit, they lack a serious sense of humor or they got the morals of an alley cat; they are not very smart or academics. It is rare ot find someone who is smart, funny, an academic, but yet mature, respectful, hilarious with a great sense of humor and totally humble.

And this prof i have a crush on totally is. And the great thing is, he is only about 8 or 10 years max older than me so it is not like some 50 or 60 year old dusty old man whose kids are in college and wife in menopause. Oh well, speaking of which: it is not the him being my professor part that bothers me or that he is 10 years older, it is his wife: the man is married but has no kids.

Of course I would never act on it or do anything, this is complete and utter fantasy but somewhere in the back of my mind I wonder seriously about it and then of course i find myself checking him out while he is lecturing in class or thinking about him one too many times a day.

Is that normal? I hate feeling that way especially towards a man who is TOTALLY AND ABSOLUTELY OFF LIMITS. But then again, Im sure, with my luck, even if he was totally available and unmarried and all, he'd still not go for me or still nothing would happen because this is just how it is - I never get what/whom I want so it doesnt really matter whether i pursue an impossible dream/man or a real one.

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  • LolitaLam22
    14 years ago

    lol i just joined and I know this was written quite some time ago, but I'd like to comment all the same. I've also questioned the normalcy of my feelings, but I know precisely how u feel, except that in addition to the wife, he does have a son. I'm so attracted to his humour, curiosity, intellect, etc. BUT BUT BUT, out of respect for his family and preservation of my dignity, I won't pursue it. While reading your story, I could relate to what u were saying 100%. I, too, have never had the pleasure of meeting anyone w/such eunamoring and (let's just call it like it is) sexy qualities, and w/my luck (or lack thereof), I probably won't. But perhaps ur crush could've already subsided, and ur class long over, considering when ur story was written :-). That is how I view my situation.

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  • Moonlighting
    15 years ago

    WTF? Who is talking about fucking the professor or cheating with him on his fucking wife? Did you even READ what I said? Or do you just like to use this as an opportunity to say what you have always wanted to say on this topic anyway?

    No one is acting on anything or screwing anyone. Relax...save your energy for real prof-fuckers.

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  • arrowhead
    15 years ago

    me too! but, he has a fiancee. so, i kinda give up. just remember, if he cheats with you, he will cheat on you.

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    • inlovewithlove1991
      15 years ago

      yeah i totally agree w/ your bottom comment

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  • inlovewithlove1991
    15 years ago

    i think if you have a relationship w/ your married professor, that you're selfish as hell. i hope your professor gets fired & his wife finds out he's been screwing you & comes & knocks you in the face.or i hope that if your professor leaves his wife for you, that he leaves you for somebody a lot younger & prettier.

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  • Bl0ndieBabexx
    12 years ago

    I think its the fact that he's off limits and you can never have him makes him more attractive to you. You desire him more because you can truly never have him.

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  • Mastersash
    13 years ago

    he's married?? damn, girl, that sucks.. i could never say anything either though because i feel the exact same way about what is "off-limits" in life or what is simply "unlikely" to ever happen.. so why get ur hopes up?

    But at least you have someone sexy to stare at all semester.. bet that makes the class much more entertaining :)

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  • strangeone5727
    15 years ago

    omg! im in like the same boat
    even though i didnt read the whole thing im pretty sure what ur going to say, and mine works across the country from his wife.

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  • inlovewithlove1991
    15 years ago

    yes let me tell u..thats EXACTLY it. -rolls eyes-

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  • jeanettefu
    15 years ago

    I have the same problem. I am 20 and my professor is around 8 - 10 years older than me. I'm not sure if he is taken or not but he isn't wearing a ring so I guess he is not yet married.

    Do you think I should tell him I like him at the end of the semester when he no longer teaches me? Would he think that I'm childish to tell him I like him when I don't even know him well? Or maybe I can ask him out and be friends with him first?

    And yes I agree that a married man is absolutely off limits.

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  • lelouch
    15 years ago

    oh my... we are the same ..exactly the same.. he is married too but don't have kids yet.. their relationship was just in papers but in action they don't... and his my boyfriend now for almost 1 year and 1 month.. and he promised to me that he will annulled his marriage before i graduated in college so that we can live together forever.. i have a question do you have a relationship with him? does he love you back?

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    • Moonlighting
      15 years ago

      naw dude, i dont have a relationship of any kind with the man. It is all strictly professional and I dont think i would want him to be the cheater type anyway. It's like a double edged sword: you want him but you dont want him to cheat on his wife to be with you cause that is sign of a bad character with no integrity. I dony know how old this prof of your is and how old you are, but you should seriously stop screwing a married man who is cheating on his wife - married on paper or not.

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      • confusedty
        15 years ago

        Hi,

        I have a similar situation with a professor. i can honestly say that academiscs r selfish and care bat themselves only. i will post my story 2mw am a bit sleepy now

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