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Have you ever PURPOSELY, *NOT* by accident or unfortunate circumstance, stood someone up on a date?
Please comment! Why did you do it? What was the aftermath?
| Yes, I've stood up a date once. | 11 | |
| Yes, I've stood up more than one date. | 3 | |
| No, I've never stood up a date. | 38 | |
| I've never had a date! | 22 |
I did this once, but I feel somewhat justified.
I knew this guy online as a friend and found that he was coming to my town. He said he was going on vacation anyway and just happened to be passing through, which isn't surprising; I live in a great vacation city. We agreed to meet up for coffee, and I showed up expecting light conversation, good coffee and tasty beignets. Instead, I got very much a romantic vibe, and a rather creepy, stare-filled one at that.
I should note that I had made it clear all along that I was in a relationship and was head over heels about my boyfriend. At no point was this ever a romance thing, and I was firm on that.
Anyway, when I extricated myself from the glassy-eyed stares and attempted hand-holdings, I fled back to my apartment with a promise to get in touch with him "sometime" while he was in town. Instead, I hid in my home and didn't answer the phone when he called.
I don't think I was wrong to do it, yet I also felt guilty for not having handled it better. That doesn't really seem fair, though; I didn't do anything wrong, so why should I feel guilty?
What you did was completely justified, and I don't think you could have easily handled it better than you did.
You did see the part where I said he was a FRIEND, right? You seriously mean to tell me that you would refuse to see a friend who was female if she came to town? We all played the same game, so he not only knew I had a boyfriend from my saying it often, he also saw me interact with him regularly. We were all in the same guild. He couldn't NOT know I had a boyfriend.
Either you're trolling me, or you have terrible reading comprehension.
You're living in a fucking dream world. Any normal guy would seriously not be ok with that kind of behaviour whilst you were dating them. How would you feel if your bf said oh yea last week I met up and had coffee with a girl I met online, she was hitting on me, but it's ok, I said I had a gf. Completely out of order. Also, don't you think it's a bit pathetic to be playing a game and meeting up with random dudes off the internet? Oh and I have a perfect reading comprehension you pretentious little cunt, I just completely think you're out of your mind.
I am a normal guy and it is okay for my girlfriend to have male friends.
LOL! Okay, now I know you're a troll. Someone who genuinely thought this way wouldn't have many relationships because normal people are totally fine with their significant others/spouses having friends. Either that, or you're the guy who came to New Orleans about two decades ago and stared at me as I ate. :)
The guy who was my boyfriend then is now my husband of 17 years. He would've gone with me to meet the guy as he was a friend to both of us at the time, but he was busy working. We've met a lot of nice people through online games, and although we don't have time to play them any more, we're both glad we got to meet so many great people from all over the country.
It just so happens that the guy I stood up wasn't one of the great ones but one of the creepy ones. There's one in every crowd. Apparently, you're the creep in the IIN crowd.
See my above response to the other idiot who doesn't believe that people should interact with anyone of the opposite sex, ever, for any reason if they're in a relationship.
The guy was a friend. F-r-i-e-n-d. I made that abundantly clear in my original post, and I quote: "I should note that I had made it clear all along that I was in a relationship and was head over heels about my boyfriend. At no point was this ever a romance thing, and I was firm on that."
How is this not getting through to people?
the guy was never your friend. sorry to break it to ya honey. He proberly had a game plan to being with..
using the 'he was a friend' line is stupid.. i bet prior to that moment he was sending messages. flirting etc..
did you tell your boyfriend you were meeting up with him?
bottom line.. is... be straight with him and your boyfriend next time.. instead of dodging calls like a coward -- that's my reasoning behind the post.
As a man.. my word is my bond
Stood up some past girlfriends before and some past 'love-interests' simply because I had changed by mind and couldn't be bothered.
I would never stand someone up, because if I never wanted to meet up with them in the first place, why would I even say I would meet up with them? If they're some guy (...or girl) that annoys or creeps me out, I'm not going to stand them up, I will say, "I'm sorry, no thank you." Instead of wasting their time. I either could even tell the cops or even just any counselor or whatnot. What I think, if someone invites you, welcomes you, or asks if you want to come and meet up, say no, if you think that you'll regret it later. If you already have plans, make time for it for some other time. I'm pretty sure if I'm ever stood up, I would be .. sad, if it's someone I like, or if it's a friend, I would be even more sad, but I would just be thinking, "Oh, they probably just had other plans." I hope this answer helps out ;)
Yes, and she is still bitter about it years later. It wasn't entirely on purpose, I forgot I was getting more serious with another girl when I hooked up with her. So I had to make a choice, I was in deeper with the other girl so I jilted her, she was not pleased.
Yes. And I'm ashamed of it. It was my softmore year in high school and I was supposed to go to homecoming with a foreign exchange student from France. I'm not going to go into why, but I showed up to homecoming and saw him there (I think he saw me too) but I didn't say so much as a word to him. Stupid me!
Nope, never stood anyone up and never stood anyone up either. Had a handful of people cancel the day before, and usually it happens when I call them to confirm that they are coming. Maybe me calling is averting the "stand up".
I will say that on every first date I've ever been on, without exception, the girl always shows up at least 15 minutes late though. Not sure what that's about. Sometimes I think I was born in the wrong generation.