Have you ever reconnect with old friend ?

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I miss my former best friend. We dated also but since it never got sexual it wasnt too complicated. But all fell apart because last argument happened in text... Everything came out wrong and both too proud next day to contact the other to talk face to face....

I like to believe he misses me too sometimes because he's a very private person just like me. We let each other in because we connected very strongly. It sucks it all went south and now apparently he's moved out of town which i'm happy for him because he always hated it here, he's had it rough. I just wish i'd hear from him. He said not long before that argument that nothing or no one could ever get inbetween us... Do you think it's possible to ever reconnect? Or its impossible since we also dated so we are exes and you have to hate all people you dated ? Everyone always say anyone they dated is trash but I don't think he is trash he just wasnt perfect but not a bad person ? Its been a few years and I know hes in my heart forever. We made all my best memories in life. So did anyone ever feel this and then meet your friend again one day ?

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  • MOROCCAN_DUDE
    2 years ago

    ofc .. in islam its forbidden to not talk with your friend more than 3 days (in fight case) so you have to always say hi and the same about him

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      2 years ago

      Really I dont believe this but if its true that sounds kinda crazy like how can that be forbidden

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  • Somenormie
    2 years ago

    It is possible but if it has been more than a year then you should forget about the old friend.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      2 years ago

      Its not really an old friend nor counts as reconnecting if its been less than a year imo

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  • Grunewald
    2 years ago

    I don't see why it couldn't be attempted. However, it does involve risk, and a lot depends on you and your hopes and expectations. How would you cope if it turned out that he just wasn't into you anymore? If his rejection of you would destroy you, and if your reaction to his rejection of you would traumatise him, then it's not a good idea to take the risk. Even if he didn't reject you initially, you might *interpret* something he says or does as rejection because you are so frightened of being rejected, then get upset, and potentially end up with him not wanting a relationship with you because of all the conflict.

    Check your thoughts. Know the difference between what you hope for and what you can reasonably expect. If you should find yourself believing in your wishes about how he might have matured or how he might be feeling about you, on the basis of something as tenuous as, say, his WhatsApp status, you are setting yourself up for disappointment, because people's private lives and feelings aren't determined by our innermost wishes. Complicated grief and infatuation have a way of making the things we imagine seem probable just because we can imagine them, and want them to be true.

    Use your head to protect your heart from yourself. I am speaking 100% out of direct personal experience here. I have hurt myself this way over years and years and I don't want you to perpetuate your own pain by your mental habits in the same way I have done. It's such a waste of years.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      2 years ago

      It does because hes a private person and dont let people in but me once and then he wanted to move on because something happened and I guess our friendship was not perfect but we were best friends and no other friend can be like him.
      I dont want to text him because I respect his choice giving up on the friendship. I think its not good after we fought for it and he said nothing will end it and everything we been through but he has his reasons probably but if its my fault I wish I knew so I could apologize whatever I may have said or done. I just wish he would text me but hes not the type I guess after this long time to do that because hes stubborn. Im surprised while we were friends that he fought so hard other times when our friendship could have just been abandoned. So he probably wont but I hope for it always and he hates and doesnt even use social media so I cant know anything how hes doing now and this is sad too. Thanks for the advice I will keep it in mind if I really wanna text him still.

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      • Grunewald
        2 years ago

        No problem. It sounds like he has raised up a boundary by his silence. There's nothing stopping you from testing it - but do look after your heart.

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