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It's common advice that you should talk it out with someone when you're feeling down. I do this easily on the Internet, but I have never done it in real life. I simply don't have that kind of connection with anyone in my life (even my family) and would feel uncomfortable if I did open up in this manner.
I was wondering how common/uncommon this is.
| Yes, frequently. | 11 | |
| Yes, rarely. | 17 | |
| Yes, once or twice. | 12 | |
| No, never. | 15 |
Yes, but it's always more guarded with male friends than female friends. Plus male friends get uncomfortable if you're open in certain ways. Men talk differently. We're not massively superficial but we do hold back on things. When I talk to women, I feel I can be more open.
I am not open with family. They just make it worse. I am very open with my husband, I think that should go without saying. And oddly, one of my coworkers knows some weird details of my life that my best friends don't know about. But I'm pretty open with friends, most of them can read me pretty well. I'm a terrible liar and when something is bothering me, you can see it in my face. I can hide that on the internet. I'm generally an open person but I don't always feel the need to be on the internet. But if you ask me a question, I will give you an answer.
I open up to all of my best friends. I'm a straight guy by the way. It's just something we all do, everyone has problems, lord knows I have a lot, and my friends are cool about listening, as I am with them. In all honesty, that's usually what I do when I hang out with my friends. We just talk about what's going on in our lives, then we eat something or go to the park. It's pretty interesting and the bond you have with the person afterwards is great.
However, lately I've been trying to not open up to people, instead just try to hang out and play and not talk at all. In all honesty, I have the same relationship with people due to my behavior. I want to have other types of relationship with a person than my usual one. I almost got something different, something better, but almost isn't good enough.
Yes, but never with family, it's always with friends. Although usually when I'm sad, I like to deal with it alone. Just listen to music or watch a film and then think for a bit. It just works better for me, and I don't usually feel the need to talk to anyone else. I don't really ever have problems which are serious enough for me to feel like I need anyone else, but if I ever get one, then I'll talk to someone. I do have a friend who is perfect to talk to about stuff like this and we talk quite often, so I do open up emotionally with a few people. Although I don't think I could get away with it with some of the people I spend most of my time with, they'd just try to make me laugh and distract me or tell me to cheer up.
I don't tend to do it on the internet though, because it embarrasses me, and I don't know how to do it without sounding like an absolute fool. I tend to regret it, so I don't like doing it anymore. Although that's probably because I don't often find people I feel completely comfortable with and who I can be myself around, so talking to people I don't feel entirely comfortable with obviously makes me feel uncomfortable.
That's really interesting that you feel that way about the Internet. I find that most people (myself included) are more open on the Internet because of the whole anonymous factor. It's okay if we make fools of ourselves here because no one knows who we are.
Yeah, it does make much more sense that way, I don't know why I feel differently. Real life people are just more real to me, I guess.:P I feel like I can get away with being a fool with my friends, because they're used to that. Most people in real life think I'm a bit of an idiot anyway. They're the same though, so I can relate to them and they understand me. Like I said though, this only applies to a few people. It's not often I find people I feel *completely* comfortable around. I guess it's a bit harder relating to someone who is essentially just words on a screen. I know it's not as simple as that and that you can make emotional connections to people online, but they can't give me a hug, unlike people in real life.:)
There are people online who are exceptions to this, and what I've said is general and to be honest just a guess. I'm not sure why I feel like that. Also, I'm not sure how much I care about anonymity anyway.
I have to some extent but I was usually guarded with how much i revealed. As of late, I tell no on offline about how I really feel.
I tell people I trust my feelings, but they never seem to listen. It's not like I talk about myself all the time, is it? I used to never even utter a word to anyone.
it is useless, no one care about your feelings, therefore why to share??
I felt so alone one time and so helpless i unitentionally popped in a tissue then all was better.
I've done it a few times with friends who probably didn't want to hear my problems. When I did tell them, I never got in depth with them like I do on here.