Have you ever had a relationship ruin you this badly?

I left my ex almost a year ago. I'm still not over it. It pisses me off that it's taking this long. It was my first serious relationship and I genuinely thought we were going to get married, have kids, the whole thing.. seems pretty silly in retrospect. She was a bitch and I don't miss her, but my self confidence was very dependent on her. It takes time to get over a break up. Don't beat yourself up.

I never realized what a jealous insecure person I was until I entered a relationship. I also didn't really know how far I was willing to go just to make them happy.

I had a relationship with a woman who it turns out was sexually abused as a child. It really fucked up our sex life and she kind of turned psycho as time went on. Took me years to get over it.

I feel for you mate...Cher'

Yes, but I wasn't about to let myself feel that way forever.

Yep. I'm questioning my idea of myself and my existence, but it's not really a bad thing.

Yes, more than once, but I don't want to talk about it

This isn't necessarily a bad thing.

No. I sometimes wish my last relationship worked out, but I dont see why people beat themselves up over past things that are what they are.

Many psychos fly under the radar. You don't see how sick they are until one or two years into the relationship. She can get really scary at the end.

Relationships are always challenging. Social interaction is. When there's emotions and intimacy involved they can definitely rewire the way you are in some level.

Of course.

Yea. My ex boyfriend of 3 years was emotionally abusive and would take advantage of my submissive nature. And he had a habit of making me feel close to him then abandoning me completely. I believe he significantly worsened my BPD. I am definitely not the enthusiastic person I use to be. I rarely smile and I've been drinking almost every day since.