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To an ex? After realising leaving them was a huge mistake ? Or after thinking you didn’t like them but time made you see different ?
Has an ex ever come back to you?
Stories!
Not in that way.
I used to have a girlfriend, and she cheated on me with my at that point best friend. They became a couple.
Couple months later, me and her are talking again and she wanted to come over. I "accidentally" queued our song in what I said was random in a shuffle playlist and we start dancing. Next thing we know, we're in bed. She starts having an affair with me, now take note that at this time she was with my former best friend.
She kept telling me how she missed me, walked hand in hand with me, kept having sex with me and even invited me on a little holiday with her parents where I shared a bed with her for 2 weeks. Did a lot of stuff there and in the poolstalls..
She told her parents we were friends. She told her boyfriend I was coming.
I sort of did get back together with her, but only sexually and physically. It felt like the ultimate payback to him and since he was a friend of a friend of mine, he ended up finding out.
As a bonus I got to do cool stuff with her at the place we were staying. Had some neat activities like archery and treeclimbing across ropes and an amazing pool.
Guy was absolutely destroyed. When he visited my friend who lived with me at the time and I sat next to him, he just quietly drank his coffee. Karma bit his ass and boy did the whole ordeal feel good (mentally and physically).
While I will say it's normal because it does happen a lot, this mostly depends on the relationship. I will never condone someone going back into an abusive relationship as normal, but, if things just went south, maybe time apart could help.
Similar to Boojum's responses, me and my current partner split last October due to stress; she was struggling with gender identity and I was working and going to school full-time and totally broke down. We fought back and forth until we split. We were only apart for about three weeks until we realized that we just needed to work on ourselves and things would be fine.
When I was much, much younger and even dumber than I am these days, I tried to reconcile with my first wife after we separated. Within about six months, she was screwing around again, treating me like my only value was as a walking wallet and live-in babysitter, and contributing absolutely nothing in any form to the operation of our home. At that point, I finally wised up and showed her the door. (Before any women shriek in outrage at me kicking her out rather than leaving myself, I was in the military overseas, the house was one I'd found for us, and she and her sprog went back home to her Mommy, where they'd been living happily - or as close to happy as she ever got - after our first split.)
The lesson I learned from that extremely unpleasant experience is that when people split up, there's usually a very good reason, but it's possible to forget those reasons once you've been apart for a while.
I understand break ups happen for a reason.. and sometimes for the best. But what if you weren’t married or werenonly together a few months.
I don't see why the duration of a relationship should make any difference.
I suppose reconnects can work if some external factor that led to the split has changed. For example, I can imagine someone being so stressed by work, school, family shit or whatever that they were acting different to their normal nature for a time, and this is what led to the breakup.
I can also imagine someone learning from a split and shifting their fundamental attitudes towards other people and life in general, and that possibly making the resuscitation of a dead relationship possible.
But if the people in a relationship behaved in a way that was true to their real natures and they broke up, then it seems to me that any attempt to get back together is probably doomed.
Beware of wishful thinking, and being in love with the person you wanted to believe the other one was, rather than seeing them clearly.