Have you ever felt this way about another guy/girl?

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So I am currently working with this girl and we are both in the 18-21 age group. I have gotten to know her a little bit over these past couple weeks and am considering asking her out.

BUT the only reason is because I think she is very attractive. She is a cool, nice girl and probably the most attractive girl I have ever had show interest in me. I don't have butterflies in my stomach or any sort of feelings for her that I can find within me (I know that sounds strange). I went a couple of days without talking to her in any sort of way (we were both at school) and I didn't feel like I was missing out on anything. Yet at the same time, I would be jealous to see her hit on other guys. I think I would be that way though just because I want her to continue showing interest in me even if I don't necessarily like her the same way back.

So have you guys ever felt like this? What did you do? Should I go out on a date with her to figure out if I have feelings for her or if I will develop some?

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  • Fall_leaves
    10 years ago

    If you don't have feelings for her in that way, there's no point. She might start liking you, what are you going to do if you can't reciprocate those feelings.

    It sucks being lead on, all that time and interest she'd be spending on you would be wasted. Maybe I interpreted this wrong, if you like her for shallow reasons, what makes you think you'll ever like her like her for anything more than her attractiveness.

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    If you genuinely like her and have an interest in her as a person then by all means ask her out, but if your interest is an ego driven desire for arm candy then don't.

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  • handsignals
    10 years ago

    Get away from her and forget about her, love = pain, just have meaningless sex with woman you don't know or don't like and stay at home by yourself playing PS4.

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  • Holzman_67
    10 years ago

    oh yeah sure it's the old "you don't know what you've got until it's gone" syndrome

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  • dom180
    10 years ago

    Casual dating is all about exploring compatibility and the extent of your feelings for someone. Why not go for it?

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  • (s)aint
    10 years ago

    A friend of mine met this really cute girl that even liked the same music as he does and everything was supposed to be perfect. Yet after half a year of dating neither one of them had developed feelings for one another so it didn't work out.

    I have only dated one guy that I didn't almost instantly got feelings for, they never really came and I dumped him.

    This said, I don't think that you and her are compatible then. Maybe hang out as friends but be honest with her that you don't know where you stand just yet.

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  • Pika-girl
    10 years ago

    Yes! I've had that for a long time! It is still going even if he said that I'm too young to love people. (We're only a year different...)

    We're good friends and stuff, but yeah.. I wanna be something more... NOT BEST FRIENDS! Even more than friends. (Like Misty's Goodbye Song)

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  • thegypsysailor
    10 years ago

    Dude, it's called lust! You don't love her, you are not infatuated by her, you are not smitten; you just want to fuck her.
    Not every relationship has to produce butterflies in your gut, or make you swoon at the sight of the other person. Sometimes, it's just a physical attraction and nothing more.
    What's wrong with that? Perhaps she feels the same way, but you'll never know if you don't make a move.

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