Have you ever done this to someone?

Have you ever done / said any of the following to an obese person?
[in person, in public, or within their range of hearing]

I've called them a derogatory name. (ie. "fat pig") 5
I've told a joke, laughed, and/or pointed at them. 16
I've spit on them. 2
I've stared at them for longer than what's polite. 29
I've sneered at them. 4
I've ignored them when they talk to me. 5
I've suggested they eat less and exercise more. 10
I've shoved or hit them. 1
I've said mean things about them to friends. 19
I've treated them as less than human. 3
More than one of the above. 46
I've never done or said anything negative to an obese person. 81
Other. (please explain) 8
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Comments ( 50 )
  • anti-hero

    No, I have never done any of these things. Anyone who does is an asshole.

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    • ProseAthlete

      ^ This.

      Also, anyone who thinks that telling a fat person to eat less and exercise more counts as some incredible revelation is an idiot.

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      • anti-hero

        I will reverse the ^This for the add on.

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    • Fabulous

      Cowcrap

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      • anti-hero

        I don't care what you use for lube Fab.

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      • Johnnytherat

        shut up fabulous we got beef homie ima kick you in the face with my fist while doing a 360 back flip off a flaming lion with platinum wings named johnny the tiger

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        • sexysonofsam

          Johnny you quite the violent little fucker now are`nt you?

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  • iin

    No, it's wrong. It is racism. Agree with being overweight it or not, its not your business...and to be honest I think the people who hate obese people, hate them in fear of becoming overweight themselves. I dislike having to pay taxes for the medicare of someone who eats at McDonalds everyday, however I'm more furious at the fact that shitty food is the least expensive (if you have no land to grow your own food) to buy...thus making it hard for some to make better food choices. I'm not making excuses for anyone, but that is the way it is for some. At the end of the day, plain and simple, balck and white...no one deserves to be treated poorly because of what they look like. I personally try to make good lifestyle choices, but I can empathize with people....that's a skill that has to be worked at, but it does severely change the way you look at the world. You cannot control others, you can only control yourself.

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    • anti-hero

      It is most certainly not racism. That is impossible.

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      • iin

        Sorry, I meant to put the word 'like' before racism, must have been typing too fast. I say that because to me it is. Some people can't help being obese, and acts of hate towards someone simply because of the way they look weight wise, is the same to me as acts of hatred because of the color of ones skin. Imo.

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        • Elliemental

          Most of them can help it, very few people are huge due to medical issues, more than likely it's something to with education and environment. I don't hate or judge people for being fat it's usually cos there bringing something else to the table like shouting n swearing at their kids whilst I'm walking past with my 4yr old son. Though to be fair inconsiderate idiots are like that what ever their size, I would like to know though why people think it's ok to make comments to someone who's underweight but so wrong to say something to someone who's overweight?

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        • anti-hero

          It's all good.

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        • ScooterNyne

          I totally agree. You don't know what that person is going through and to make rude conjectures about their body is just ignorant and uncalled for.

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          • iin

            Exactly. I knew a kid in middle school that had some sort of thyroid issue or something, but to most people he just looked like he ate too much. He got picked on by some older kids, but all the kids in our class loved him because he was awesome. He actually gad a way better diet than me at the time.

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    • Fatgirlhardtomove

      It's not racist it's being sizeist discriminating someone due to their size it's a thing not just for fat people but tall small skinny slim fit people.

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  • Iamagirl

    Wow we got some jerks here on IIN

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  • Avant-Garde

    I believe periodically as a child I may have called someone "fat". I am ashamed. I would never do such a thing now because its rude and mean. Who am I to judge someone's weight especially, if I don't have all the details? Obesity in a person could be caused by a underlying health condition for all we know.

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  • keef

    I admit, I have said mean things to other people when I saw really large people. Multiple times I have said
    "If I ever get that big, shoot me or starve me please."
    But it's more me, I would probably kill myself if I let myself become obese.
    Not trying to offend anyone but I wouldn't be able to deal with myself.

    I have also told my little brother to eat more healthy and be more active, because my father's terrible eating habits were rubbing off on him, and before his growth spurt he got pretty big. I only did it because I care about his health though. Nothing good comes from being over weight. I don't want him to end up with a ton of health problems from something that could be so easily prevented.

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  • Gravy

    I apologise to use Laos culture again, but it is where I live. Being obese is respected over here, it's a sign of affluence and success.

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  • adrianhansen1212

    I used to. But now, technically, I don't do any offensive things regarding with their physical appearances anymore. I'm fat - 85kg and 5'11". But, I don't do the offesive thing not because I'm a little bit fat and that I see myself in theirs. I respect people (not always, I'm not perfect) that's why.

    But with friends and cousins, we normally tease each other in a way that it is not mean and offending, just to make fun of ourselves.

    Sometimes, especially with a friend or more, when I see someone who's physically ugly (sorry, I can't think of an euphemism) in a funny way not in an awful way, I force myself not to laugh, then I ,wearing a smile hidding an explosive laugh, will turn to my friend/s so I could change my attention. Then I will see my friend/s who happen/s to wear the smile and we at each others faces, then we try to speak or say something but our words are broke because we are preventing to laugh out loud in a crowd. Thus, I know he/she saw what I saw and He/she know I saw what he/she saw. Then BOOM! Laughter explodes from both/all of us. Then, after a while, when our eyes meet, we laugh again, and i think it's really akward to laugh in crowd. - I stated this because, I think this kind of scenario is often mistaken by others as being judgmental. NO, maybe I was in a good mood when something like this happen and I easily found that thing humorous but in a funny way not in a judgy way.

    Oh boy, how I miss that kind healthy laughter, laughter that's not from some sort of corny jokes but laughter from real enjoyment.

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  • BallsToWall

    I've done some of those but not because they're fat! I've stared at fat people because they're rude/loud/screaming etc...

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    • Jeaneathean

      So, do you mean you have stared at people who are rude/loud/screaming etc, and sometimes they happened to be fat?

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      • BallsToWall

        Exactly.

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  • baronroderick

    I used to be way too skinny on school and people used to make fun of me and calling me names, so I know how it feels like to be exposed because of your physical appearance.

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  • braintrip

    i used to. thought i was the hot shit until she backhanded me. teaches you a lesson.

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  • searchingnow

    No, never. Part of my personal philosophy is to never judge others unless they are hurting other people.

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  • ScooterNyne

    I have a history of ignoring people in the middle of a conversation. a definite set back from my shyness.
    So i have most likely ignored an obese person before. But not because of their body type. Just because I do it a lot.

    Im VERY against making fun or forming negative opinions about a persons body.

    Attitude is another story though.

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  • disthing

    No.

    I occasionally say bitchy things with friends, but that's scratching the itch to be a bitch. It's usually done in the most tongue-in-cheek way, and never directly to or within ear-shot of the random person it's about (in other words, they have no idea). I would never want to insult anyone, let alone a perfect stranger, unless they did something genuinely deserving of disrespect.

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  • Eveyana

    My husband is overweight so his weight has obviously come up on numerous occasions. There have been times when I have suggested that he exercise and take better care of himself and his health and there has also been one occasion where he has hurt me and in retaliation, I did call him fat in the heat of the moment when he was being deliberately hurtful to me, slamming doors in my face, pushing me around and calling me names as well as playing on my insecurities.

    It was one time about four years ago and I've learned my lesson since then. I now don't ever bring it up. Ever. I feel that what I've done and said was wrong and I shouldn't have. I've apologized profusely and sincerely to him and I hope he can find it in him to forgive me one day.

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    • RoseIsabella

      I don't think you owe him an apology. He owes you an apology for not taking care of his body! If he physically hurt you call the cops and press charges.

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      • Squeaky11

        It's HIS body. He shouldn't have to apologize for doing something that's unhealthy to himself. Its not his wife's decision to control the way he treats himself.

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  • macaroniheyo

    good god, people are sick.

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  • Sketcher18

    Oh yeah sure, I walk up to total strangers and insult them all the time.

    No, I know that some people can not help being overweight.
    There are some illnesses that cause people to be obese.
    I think it's very rude to make fun of them.

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  • AbnormallyAwesome

    I often insult people to their faces, call them names, yell at them or even gently punch them. But I don't mean any of those things and the people I do them to know me well enough. Also I don't mind my friends doing any of this to me. But maybe thats only a "men thing".

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  • mixwell

    I've cracked jokes with my friends and called them a fat fuck but the ironic thing is that I'm fatter than them but one of my friends who's thin eats all the time and I call him a fat fuck when he's only like 170 and 5'9.

    I can't recall if I've ever said it in public to someone I didn't know unless it was an asshole whom I've gotten into an disagreement with but I can't recall anything specifically.

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  • I'm not the teasing kind of person, so you wouldn't catch me teasing anyone...

    ...yourself?

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  • q25t

    I guess I'm guilty of staring and telling people to eat less and exercise more occasionally. Although in the second case, it was well deserved. I knew the guy personally and he straight up asked me what I do to stay in shape.

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  • GuessWho

    I've done about half of those.

    Being fat is usually a result of bad lifestyle choices.
    Thus, fat people deserve to be given a hard time about their situation so as to motivate them to do something about it.

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    • adrianhansen1212

      well, no, it is not a motivation, instead you're making them more depress and think negatively, hence, they will lose their motivation

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      • trystan

        One kid i knew in middle school died because people picked on his overweight problem. He starved him self and he wasnt getting the vitamins and nutrients he needed to live. One day he just never woke up from his sleep.

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  • squeallikeasacofpigs

    I hate fat people. I have no respect for them whatsoever.

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    • kingofcarrotflowers

      Nah thats cool because by the looks of the dislike buttons not many people have much respect for you either so it evens out.

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      • adrianhansen1212

        you are totally correct

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      • charli.m

        Ah you're awesome :)

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        • kingofcarrotflowers

          Haha likewise :)

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    • adrianhansen1212

      because you're not in their place.... and it is not just about fat people... it is about the degration such as physical unpleasanties, intellectual incapacity, mental or medical disorder/problems, racism, and many more.... sir, but there are no places for childlessness. not because you don't belong in there it doesn't mean that you don't belong somewhere else, and that's an embarrassment for someone who doesn't know how to respect or be polite. Someday somehow when you grow up mentally you would understand that life isn't just how you thought.

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      • iin

        Best reply!

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        • adrianhansen1212

          thank you,

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      • squeallikeasacofpigs

        Bro, do you even lift?

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        • adrianhansen1212

          ohhh!... I get it.... sir/ma'am, coolness isn't the only thing in this world. Trying to earn 'coolness' is an expired thing when you finished middle school.

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