Have you ever cheated on a significant other? why?

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I'm just curious about the stats, and especially comments on times when you could've but did or did not.

Yes, I'm a male, I knew I wasn't going to marry my current partner 4
Yes, I'm a male, I loved my current partner 10
Yes, I'm a male, and I would do it again 7
Yes, I'm a female, I knew I wasn't going to marry my current partner 8
Yes, I'm a female, I loved my current partner 16
Yes, I'm a female, and I would do it again 5
I'm unsure, I'm a male. 7
I'm unsure, I'm a female. 3
No, I'm a male, cheating is out of the question! 26
No, I'm a male, but I would if I could 2
No, I'm a female, cheating is out of the question! 29
No, I'm a female, but I would if I could 0
I've never been in a relationship, I'm a male, I would never cheat 9
I've never been in a relationship, I'm a male, I would cheat 1
I've never been in a relationship, I'm a female, I would never cheat 11
I've never been in a relationship, I'm a female, I would cheat 1
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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    I would like to say i hope i never cheat on my wife but hey i'm only human.

    7 years of marriage and i haven't cheated yet.

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  • kupokupo
    11 years ago

    No I've never cheated & never would. My views on cheating are really so strong - I think it's one of the worst things a person could do. It really shocked me how many women said they have :( I'm actually quite appalled.

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    • Ibelievethis
      11 years ago

      I'm not here to change your views as I have absolutly no right to but I would just like to say. "I cheated on my ex partner because I was not getting what I wanted/needed from my (then) partner. What was I supposed to do join the nunnery and give up sex. It's brilliant if you're one of those lucky people who finds their ideal partner and has a fulfilling love life". I must say though as soon as I had slept with the other man I knew there was no going back and saving the relationship, which is ashame because I did like him for himself. However saying that though had we stayed together I wouldn't have had my daughter. I guess everything happens/doesn't happen for a reason. xx

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      • kupokupo
        11 years ago

        You could have at least left him first before going off & betraying the entire reasoning behind relationships. It's easier to get over being dumped than betrayed.

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        • Ibelievethis
          11 years ago

          That's fair comment I suppose, but he never found out that I had cheated. x

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          • kupokupo
            11 years ago

            I'm glad you can see my side of the "argument," if you will. I think whether they find out or not, it's still a betrayal of the relationship & I personally would have the most crippling guilty conscience.

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            • Ibelievethis
              11 years ago

              It isn't an argument it is just different view points and yes we are all entitltled to them and they're healthy too. If we all agreed on everything it would be a very nice world
              but also a very boring world.
              Like I said I was in a relationship with no sex what was
              I was I to do give up sex? I'm a human being with desires who
              wants to feel attractive to the oppersite sex that doesn't
              make me abnormal. Sorry but I don't feel guilty at all.
              I'll ask you this what would you do if you were with someone and they didn't want to make love with you. xx

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  • squeallikeasacofpigs
    11 years ago

    I got cheated on by my ex a few times. What a fucking bitch. Well joke's on her anyway, turns out when you cheat on a "nice guy", he turns into an "asshole". Bitches make the world go round. Every asshole is an asshole because he was a nice guy and got shafted by somebody they thought they could trust.

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    • Saycheese
      11 years ago

      That is the same with women.

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  • KeddersPrincess
    11 years ago

    I cheated on Thomas Dekker with Gerard Way.

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    • Unimportant
      11 years ago

      You little slut ;-)

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  • Store210
    11 years ago

    I am loyal, like a dog, so there is no way i would ever cheat, or even hurt my partner on purpuse
    I wait the storm out, and await the shunshine

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  • Shackleford96
    11 years ago

    I have never had a "significant other "so to speak. I would not cheat though.

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    • Anime7
      11 years ago

      Right there with you

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  • MacG
    11 years ago

    So many people don't place any value on their own honor. When I give my word on something, I keep it. And I'm proud of it. I had plenty of chances to cheat on my wife with no chance of getting caught, and never did. Never would.
    And I appalled by all the excuses cheaters try to make for their behavior.

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    • Ibelievethis
      11 years ago

      I didn't have excuses. I had reasons. I'm not here to apologise either. I felt and still feel no guilt at all. Had he treated me like a real women and satisfied my needs I wouldn't have gone looking elsewhere.
      Yes you should be proud that you stick to your word, but please do not be judgemental as we are not all happily married with sex on tap. x .

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      • LordHawHaw
        11 years ago

        If you don't find what you need in your relationship then you need to break up and not screwing behind your partner's back with another person. If you don't even feel guilty for something like that then it appears you have no moral values and no shame at all.

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        • Ibelievethis
          11 years ago

          While you are fully entitled to your opinion and I'm a grown women I can take all the criticsm thrown at me. However one thing I do not like is people who know nothing about me thinking they have the God given right to play judge and jury on my life and my past when they know nothing about me.x

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  • Darkoil
    11 years ago

    I cheated on my ex girlfriend quite a lot, it was never really my fault though, I have an inability to say no to sex when it is given to me on a plate so to speak.

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    • Shackleford96
      11 years ago | pl

      Poor impulse control is not an excuse for cheating.

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      • Darkoil
        11 years ago

        I did have some control. You just wouldn't believe some of the situations I found myself in honestly through no fault of my own, I never lead any girl on or anything like that and still I would get girls throwing themselves at me.

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        • Ibelievethis
          11 years ago

          You get girls throwing themselves @ you. You poor poor unfortunate thing! (L.O.L) XX

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    • Saycheese
      11 years ago

      Yep, it sure was NEVER your fault.

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  • shade_ilmaendu
    11 years ago

    I cheated once. I was in an abusive BDSM lifestyle relationship and he was very cold and subtly manipulative... so subtle I let myself believe it was just his mental illness messing with him.

    One of my friends at the time was very kind to me, really sweet guy... Things were really bad with my ex at the time and I think I was just desperate for someone to handle me more gently, to remember that sex could be that way... I felt so guilty I stopped him a few minutes into it and stayed with that asshole for another few months before I had enough. -.-

    I did hook up a few times in my last relationship, but we had an open arrangement, and I know he hooked up some too. Never managed to find another girl for a three way though. :(

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  • Ibelievethis
    11 years ago

    Yeah we were together for 2 months and physical activity so I went out and had a one night stand. I was like a caged animal been let loose. xx

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  • standbyme555
    11 years ago

    I think cheating is very wrong. But ill admit I've done it. It was a high school boyfriend who was basically stalking me. We were on and off constantly. I cheated on him with by current boyfriend (just a kiss) and I've been with my current boyfriend almost 3 years.

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  • Avant-Garde
    11 years ago

    I've never been with someone, but if I was, I would never cheat on them.

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  • 1000yrVampireKing
    11 years ago

    No a few on me though.

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  • BurnaBaby27
    11 years ago

    I've only been in two serious relationships. I've never cheated whilst in those relationships.
    In my middle and early high school relationships, I did. I had no business being in them because I wasn't ready. And by "cheating", never ever sex. Just kissing. And fingering. And touching / rubbing..if that makes it any better.

    I believe that when you're with the right person, you never get the urge to cheat. And even if you're not necessarily with your dream guy or woman, if you're loyal, you won't cheat..because, I was with someone for almost three years that halfway through I realized I wouldn't be with him for a very long time. But I never cheated. I let the relationship run its course and then I called it off.

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  • dom180
    11 years ago

    Really concerned about the number of women who voted yes.

    No, I don't think I ever would.

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    • Saycheese
      11 years ago

      You gotta think about the fact it's "this" site; loads of insecure people. But I can't believe how many have voted yes too. :\

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    • dom180
      11 years ago

      To be absolutely clear, I'm equally bothered by the men who said they have cheated or would cheat. There's just less of them in the poll, which is why I mentioned the ladies only; their result is disproportionately high :P

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      • Saycheese
        11 years ago

        Oh no worries. I understand your thoughts too. I don't understand why people would do such a thing. :\ It's just not right.

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        • dom180
          11 years ago

          The only way I could ever understand it would be if someone was in an abusive relationship and they desperately needed affection from somewhere else, but at the same time had been manipulated too much to leave their relationship. In normal situations it's never ever ever okay.

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          • Saycheese
            11 years ago

            No it isn't I don't care what others say that we don't understand what it's like to not have control. Just don't be with someone in the first place.

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            • dom180
              11 years ago

              It's not as simple as not being with someone in the first place, sadly. You can enter into a relationship thinking it's a good relationship, but once your partner becomes abusive the rules have changed and I think cheating on an abusive partner is forgivable (not necessarily right, but forgivable). At least that's how I see it.

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  • SeverusFan23
    11 years ago

    I don't have one. I never had a significant other.

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  • Mmmpfh
    11 years ago

    6 women voted "yes" to cheating and only one voted "no"? LADIES. WHY.

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  • Saycheese
    11 years ago

    I myself have never had a boyfriend but I would never want to have the thought of cheating; that is just plain messed up. I most certainly would let my significant other know if I had any thoughts or tensions toward another man that maybe I'm friends with or whatever.

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  • Djtia
    11 years ago

    I know of a lady who cheated on her husband with an old friend, they ended up together. Turns out, her husband had made her feel so worthless that she didn't feel she deserved more. This friend of hers allowed her to see that she was worth so much more - and it gave her the courage to leave. Good for her. Sometimes people don't know what they're worth until someone shows them how special they are. There's a lot of grey areas here, nothing is ever black and white, and we really don't know what goes on in someone else's relationship.

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    • Ibelievethis
      11 years ago

      Simliar to my case. If he had made her feel deserved then she wouldn't have cheated. I'll probably be flamed for this but to be brutal "I don't blame her".x

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