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who is your intellectual superior?
What were your experiences?
Where they good or bad?
Would you do it again?
| Female: Yes. | 10 | |
| Female: No, they've always been inferior to me. | 7 | |
| Female: Same level as me, normally. | 12 | |
| Male: Yes. | 6 | |
| Male No, they've always been inferior to me. | 10 | |
| Male: Same level as me, normally. | 8 | |
| Never had a relationship, sorry. | 20 | |
| Other. | 1 |
That's a tough question. What makes intellectual superiority? I get a little better than average results in tests, but I like to think I'm very smart in ways that tests don't necessarily measure well. I've only had one relationship, which I'm still in now, and I'd say we're about equally clever.
Although if we talk only in terms of academic intelligence she's smarter than I am, and I'm sure she would say she is smarter than I am too. If there's one thing that frustrates me about her is her tendency to write me off as a nice, kind person and not a smart person, as if the two are mutually exclusive (I think the opposite; a complete and rounded kind of intelligence most often goes with being a good person). Most people I know are guilty of this misconception of me though. God, I'm becoming such a teenage stereotype, complaining about how the world doesn't understand me!
I could rant for a while more about the nature of tests as a way to measure actual intelligence (and the subject of defining intelligence) because I have a lot to say, but I'm really not in the mood for it right now.
Back on topic: no, I wouldn't say I have. I think I'd be able to have a relationship with someone smarter than me, but of course I can't know that until it happens :P
This is a relevant post I made quite a while ago, it sums up my thoughts on the matter (rather well, in my incredibly humble opinion):
"Grades are only a measure of a student's ability to function within a particular set of rules. I suppose you could call that intelligence, but doing well in the standard educational system is something I would call a skill. It is a skill to be able to provide what is asked of you. It is a skill to be able to relay information from one source to another - and if you think about it, this is all you're doing in almost every aspect of a typical school. When a teacher calls on you, you're asked to simply vocalize a memorized piece of information. On a test, you are transferring facts from a textbook to bubbles on a paper. On an essay, you are transferring ideas from one document to the next and putting your name on it. One COULD write an essay with a unique expansion on certain ideas, but not only is that rare - it's unnecessary for fulfilling our functional expectations.
There's no need to internalize or explicate any of the ideas presented to you in school - you need only prove that you've heard these things and are capable of writing them on a piece of paper or saying them out loud before they slip out of your mind. Contrary to popular belief, school is not exactly about learning, it's about function. It's about being prepared for the structure of society. That's why things like art, music, philosophy, theater, physical education, etc are sidelined as extracurricular or nonexistent, because that's what they are in society! Those things don't provide a successfully functioning person.
I think that may be why we become obsessed with people who ARE successful in these fields - singers, actors, sports stars. Celebrities. Not doctors, engineers, or historians. Maybe they're fascinating to us because they represent something outside of typical function. Think about it - why DO they earn so much money and fame? Because they're entertaining? I think they're famous because they successfully operate outside of typical societal functionality."
I was sleeping with (and subsequently fell madly in lovelust with) a girl who was far more intelligent than I was. I admired her, though she also respected me. But it turns out she was batshit crazy so I'm at peace with it.
Though it never blossomed into a relationship (unrequited), the best situation I've ever had was with a girl who was extremely clever, but just barely shy of being as clever as me. I'll admit it. Though she did beat me in chess more often than not.
The ideal relationship involves mutual respect, and if an intellectual imbalance makes that difficult for you or your partner, there may be an issue.
Never been with a girl that is smarter than me, but I have only really been with one, and that wasn't even a real relationship.
The girls I have noticed, not been in a relationship with, but worked in class along side tend to be smart when it comes to recording information, but not as smart at making your own information. As in, they always rely on recorded information rather than make their own, or their own version.
That's just in my experiences.
Yep. I agree. 'Creative genius' isn't so common. Heh.
When are people going to realize that memory is simply a tool for intelligence- not a form intelligence itself? It's observing and solving problems creatively that makes one intelligent.
I think that's true of most "smart" people. A+ students are a dime a dozen, but it's pretty rare to come across someone who is truly intellectually creative.
I have more book smarts than my boyfriend, but he is definitely street smater. (That sentence sounded improper, I know). But we benefit eachother because of our intellectual differences. Without him I would be forever lost when I'm driving and without me he would never have gotten a job with all of the spelling errors on his applications.. haha.
Yeah I couldn't care less if she was smarter than me except if she can't handle that by rubbing it in your face and acting superior.
I'm of the creative type , I can solve , fix or create just about anything in a practical sense but I was hope less at school , got expelled in fact.
I've known a lot of supposedly really intelligent people through my family growing up and later with all my way over qualified sisters with degrees hanging out of their ears. Many of my families friends are rich and successful to and you know what , I'm always amazed at how stupid they are with everyday very obvious things and conversation - observations- amazed !
Intelligence seems to come in many shapes and forms .
Intellectually superior is a hard idea to define. As far as my opinion goes,I am an extremely intelligent guy. I'm able to accomplish pretty much anything I want with little effort (if i wasn't such a fuckin lazy ass)
I have only dated one girl who absolutely with out a doubt was my intellictual superior. I absolutely loved it! She had some of the most facinating opinions, taught me things that I never would have known, and was the most engaging conversationalist I have ever meet in my life! (the sex was amazing too, i'm not sure if that has any coorelation)
Alas she went off to the Ivy League and I went to Mizzou. I had a wild streak and fucked it all up, ended with her cheating on me because I acted like a child back then lolz.
I dated a girl as a teenager that was really book smart, so yes.
But typically I'm the smartest man on the planet.
Yes. And I will never again date anyone who is intellectually superior to me. Being smart is a great thing, but when it becomes that you feel that you're better than everyone else and the whole world can just suck it, it makes a relationship hard. If I could find a smart person who uses their power for good, then I'd give it a try though :-P
I've been considered smarter, and then again not so smart. Either is fine, as long as one of us knows what's going on. =}
She thought she was smarter. Looking back now though, she really wasn't.
I feel that there are many different types of intelligence and by that virtue, intelligence itself is difficult to define. But for the sake of this post, I will simply rely on traditional definitions of intelligence and not go much deeper.
I have dated one person that could have been considered my intellectual superior, but at the same time, he had the same deal going on as me. Well articulated enough to trip someone that is of lesser articulation up in argument. Our debates went in circles for days and days and days... Our intelligence was very much alike and I believe that we had the same reasoning skills, however, the context of our cultural backgrounds caused so much difference for us that it was difficult to overcome. In the end, I was unwilling to deal with his criticism and constant digging and debating and he was unwilling to agree to disagree and make truce.
In short, the fucker loved to argue and my being tolerant and nonchalant and acknowledging the validity of his points of view as well as conceding when I felt it fit was not good enough for him. He literally liked attacking every argument, even his own. I understood his mentality, but it is not something I'd like to do while I am trying to eat, fuck, smoke up, relax or drive. By that virtue, he claimed that I was a simple minded sheep. I'm pretty sure that within a few years, I will be able to understand his train of thought much more clearly and develop a better one for myself, what is living if one does not progress, right? After all, he had a few years of experience on me and, like I said, different upbringing and background. But still. What a dick. I'll be smoking up with him on Monday.
I am married to someone whom I believe is my intellectual equal. We have different types of intelligence, however. Our intelligence is very complimentary and we work with each other's thought processes. Although we have differences in opinion, we are willing to agree to disagree and agree on more important matters.
Most men could say yes to this because women think they know everything