Have people ever been ashamed to know you?

"My popular friends pretended not to know me when we were at school"

Anyone who crumbles beneath the pressure of their peers, is unworthy to be your friend. Don't beat yourself up over their failures.

It's a trap, peer pressure. Society honors you for destroying your character.

This isn't something I would do to someone. I've been in situations where popular kids would make fun of not popular friends of mine, and in return I would immediately show them who I thought was better, thereby outcasting myself.
As for people being embarrassed to be seen with me, I discarded anyone who didn't seem interested in being my friend and I wasn't interested in their reasoning, so I guess I'll never fully know.

I know other people have different situations, but these people need to be taught some humanity. I'd rather someone dislike me than treat me as an embarrassment.
You shouldn't let this guy get treated like this if you can help him. Remember how you felt when you were young.

I have pretended to not like someone to maintain my reputation and I really regret it. I was like 14 and there was this girl who wasn't popular at all, but I liked her and I started talking to her. But then, my other friends told me to stop talking to her or they'd kick me out of the cool group. So I did. Now that i think of it, i was a bitch, and i really regret it, because that girl was a nicer person than the stupid people who said that. i wasn't even in the most most popular group....

Anyone who isn't ashamed to know me does not know me well enough.

On a more serious note, this has not happened to me since elementary school and I consider this behavior to be an elementary school-age behavior. I become disgusted easily by adults who could never figure out how to grow the hell up and I do not want to associate with such adults more than I have to due to work or any other professional obligation.

The life one would have to lead to have such primitive and immature social skills must be a sad one and it's it's happy, then it can't be too well fulfilled.

I thought I would edit this to add that this was a big problem in the PEP department (special ed) where Peer Tutors would be very friendly to the special ed students in the classroom, but when they are with their friends and social groups and the special ed kids would try to come say hi to them, they would ignore them and be rather rude to them. I never noticed this because I loved my students and never had any problem greeting them outside of the classroom. My friends never gave me flack and the one that did is no longer my friend (he was just an all around piece of shit). Anyone that can behave like that towards someone and still claim to be a halfway decent person is surely lying to themselves. Just a thought I had when reading this.

There were some assholes (usually popular kids) that would talk massive shit about me and spread rumors about my having intimate relations with my students and being... overly close to them. There were also some teachers that would say rude things about me behind my back because I DID integrate some of my students into my social group. I had enough teachers on my side, however, for this not to bother me. I didn't know how cruel and intolerant people could truly be until I became a part of the PEP department. Truth be told, it pains me greatly to think about it. I loved those students, but not in THAT manner.

I usually love including others into my social group, makes me all giddy to see everyone being friends with each other.

Mannn fuck that. I hang out with who I like to hang out with. Because they're cool people. Not because it looks cool to hang out with them. If anybody else thinks I'm a loser for hanging out with them then they can fuck off. They're obviously not worth being friends with!

Of course the "morally correct" answer got the most votes. I bet you 17 people are complete liars. We've ALL been on the giving end to some extent, and you're a delusional twit to think you're a perfect human being who has never been embarrassed to publicly be associated with someone.

Of course, because I killed them all.

This is a good question!

It happened to me once in high school. This boy and I liked eachother. We saw one another often outside of school and one day he asked me out. The next day at school I guess he told his friends and they must have teased him because he sent one of them over to tell me he didn't want to go out anymore. I was pretty hurt especially since he couldn't even tell me himself considering we were friends outside of school. I avoided him completely after that.

That's the only time I remember something like this happening to me by someone I thought was a friend. There's probably a few acquantances I have who would rather not know me though. In fact I'm sure of it! I respect that though and I try to take hints and do my best to not bother people.

I would never treat a friend badly in this manner. I am not ashamed of any of my friends and I'd never hesitate to claim them as my buds!

I have been embarrassed by certain people myself however they were just acquantances. There's a few who I'll cringe if they recognize me out and about but I'm never obviously rude to them.

More like DISGUSTED than ashamed.

Not me.. I'd never do that to anyone. I haven't been at the recievibg end either..

I'd be ashamed to know someone who was ashamed to know me :P

Yes, it was because of my race. I love racist people!

Myself.

I can't remember if this ever happened to me, but I have been ashamed of people and those "people" are my family.

People have felt the full range of human emotion toward myself.

I'm too awesome... everyone can be glad to be with me/ my friend!!!

Yes. I've had this before. I can't say I know the exact reasons why, but I had a feeling they were ashamed of me. And at times I sometimes think my own family is ashamed of me. Especially my brother. I think its because I do things that people would be embarrassed to do. I let my hair down at times, and act like a total loser just to have a little fun once in a while. But people take it the wrong way. And I guess they get worried to be seen with me because of that.

I don't know if they were ashamed to know me, but my friends in high school were not very friendly. They dicked with me, played pranks on me constantly, ditched me on band trips every chance they got (hard to have fun at Universal when you spend half the bloody day looking for your friends who couldn't wait for you to piss)

I later found out by someone in the group afraid to speak up that I was their "scapegoat" they pretty much kept me around as a friend so they would have someone to fuck with. High school was not a pleasant time in my life, not at all.

I pretty much only stuck around with them because no one else in the marching band would really give me the time of day. Senior year things got a little better, but meh. Fuck that place, fuck those people. Minds so narrow you can't toss a toothpick through.

In all honesty I am sure to some extent I have been subjected to this sort of treatment, be it in school or at work. If it happened at work I wouldnt really care or notice it much as I try to shut half my brain at work just to get through it.

If it happened in school I cant really remember too many instances, mostly because I didnt like school much either, but I would say it would probably have had a more profound impact at that time because school is all you know and care about. I dont know if none really come to mind because school is just generally a distant memory or because it didnt happen much or at all.

Besides my parents would be the only one's who if they behaved in this manner would have an impact on me.

There were probably a few incidents but they had so little impact on me that I don't remember them now. Most people seem happy if they know me, these days.

Back when I was in school, I was sometimes pretending not to like people who were even less popular than myself, but was nice to them, when nobody was around. I used to be quite an asshole.
I learned from some of my mistakes though.
I hope one day theese people will forgive me.