Have no friends and don't care

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I have Zero friends that i hang out with. I have a good amount of online friends. I haven't hanged out with a friend in roughly 5 years. I stopped going to school awhile ago and i rarely go outside for anything. I only care to play video games. Not having any friends doesn't bother me... it's just that i don't know how other people think about me not having any.
Are they secretly calling me a loser?
Is it normal to have zero friends at the age of 19 and not care? Am i less of a citizen for not engaging in the community?

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    If you don't care, why are you asking the question? I think you are just coming to the realization that you are pretty screwed up and are looking for affirmation from us. Humans are gregarious animals and it is definitely NOT normal for a young, healthy male to lock himself away in his room like an old hermit.
    Time to step out into the world and make some friends, do some things and be ALIVE!

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    • Veeconus
      8 years ago

      You come off as fairly condescending by saying this person is "screwed up."
      People are very COMPLEX animals and there is no definite personality type for every single human. While it may not be deemed healthy behavior, it most certainly is not abnormal.

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      • thegypsysailor
        8 years ago

        It IS a 'screwed up" way to live and absolutely NOT normal. Do you need me to copy the definition of normal from a dictionary for you?
        If it is normal to you, then you are pretty "screwed up" too.

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        • Veeconus
          8 years ago

          For the record, YOUR definition of screwed up may not be everyone's. The concept of being "screwed up" is subjective. You seem to be under the illusion that you've met nearly half the world's population. That's the only way you can correctly label someone or their behavior as "screwed up." In all honesty, YOU seem pretty screwed up yourself.

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          • thegypsysailor
            8 years ago

            If you want to argue just for the sake of arguing, that's fine, but it is not 'normal' for a young healthy man to lock himself in a room and have no friends or associates, is it?
            So, make up a new screen name in a day or two to come back and say more really stupid things. You'll just be joining the crowd as another worthless non contributor.

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            • Veeconus
              8 years ago

              And really? Do you honestly think I would go through the trouble of making a new screen name just for the sake of arguing with the likes of you?

              Puh-lease. You're hardly worth the time or effort.

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            • Veeconus
              8 years ago

              You're so smug and condescending. It's sickening. But I don't mind ripping your logic and reasoning to shreds.

              It isn't normal nor is it healthy. I'll agree to that. Normal is defined as: conforming to a standard; usual, typical, or expected. That is a fact.
              Unfortunately, because of people who think like you, deviating from this "norm" is seen as taboo. And who are you (or anyone) to deem someone as "worthless? " We all contribute to society in one way or another, some more than others. And also, to be technical, you mentioned "friends". Not associates. Associates is defined here: a person who shares actively in anything as a business, enterprise, or undertaking; partner; colleague; fellow worker. Not a friend.

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    • DukeNukem
      9 years ago

      I don't care about having friends. I do care if I'm considered normal, tis why i stumbled upon this 'isitnormal' website.
      I've come to the realization many a years ago.. just wanted to see if I'm the only one who does this.
      I appreciate the reply.

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      • lolita999
        9 years ago

        Probably normal. But I do want you to have at least one true friend though. Someone you trust, someone who listens to your problems, or who can keep secrets.

        You might be missing out. But you are not a loser. You're just 'shut in'

        i do have few friends but that's all I want. People are shallow but believe me one and only friend exists in your life is a wonderful thing.

        Normal.

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      • thegypsysailor
        9 years ago

        I'm sure we both know it's not normal, but if you search the posts on here, you'll find it's very common among IIN members.

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  • disthing
    9 years ago

    It's not particularly normal, but if you're content with the situation you're in (and your parents are too) so be it.

    Do you have a job?

    My only thinking is, if you're living off your parents at the moment, when you actually do need to sustain yourself, you might struggle to do so.

    Interpersonal skills requires practice, and you have to make a good impression at a job interview which takes a certain level of social confidence. Of course if you also get a job requiring you to interact with people, your limited experience might be a hinderance.

    Remember, you CAN'T live off your parents forever, so your current situation isn't going to last. You have to make sure that you're equipped with the personal skills and abilities to be independent when you need to be.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    If you don't care then it doesn't matter.

    Personally I would be so bored without friends and would not be able to enjoy life because I would get so bored. Other people give me entertainment. I do enjoy being alone sometimes but I need social interaction as well. I think most people are that way. I would hate being alone constantly, but would also hate being around people constantly. I like having both situations. It's one of the few normal things about me.

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  • teltrum
    9 years ago

    Why do you care if people are calling you a loser? It's not like those people are your friends.

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    • Veeconus
      8 years ago

      It doesn't matter if they are friends or not. It's annoying to be labeled a "loser" and it confirms how judgmental tiny-minded people are.

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  • Parky_Parker
    9 years ago

    You might consider some social skills for the purpose of getting a job and at some point starting a career.

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  • Jaydods39
    9 years ago

    Do what makes u happy in life! It's ur life ... Who cares what other people think...

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  • Shily666
    9 years ago

    I don't really have friends either. There's just people I know. Every time I do attempt to make a friend (hardly ever), they realize that I am very shy and do not talk much, so they just slowly back off and stop trying to socialize with me. But I've also noticed that I don't like having friends anyways, or I guess, I don't like being friends with certain people. I have a lot of friends online who I enjoy talking to, and I pretty much haven't met my online friends either. I have social anxiety and aspergers, so that just explains why I have such a terrible time socializing.

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    • DukeNukem
      9 years ago

      I use to have social anxiety pretty bad, found it really hard to leave my house. It's lessened a lot, mostly because i had a job for awhile so i was forced to interact socially (and then i barely did)

      If i were to evaluate myself.....
      I'm too honest and think too highly of myself. I think a relationship with me has to be earned. I don't give any effort into building social relationships.. so there my problem lays.

      Thank you to the people above who commented.

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  • KatherineElaine
    2 years ago

    I am an introvert. I do not have but one friend and I struggle with that. I don’t think it is abnormal to not have friends. To have friends you have to be a friend and that is something that I have a very hard time doing and my only friend knows that I am introverted and being depended on gives me great anxiety. It’s a wonder I stayed in the workforce until I was able to retire. It does have its downside. Having friends gives you a support network of people that want to help you. Right now, I have a left hip that needs replacing, a left shoulder that needs replacing and an arthritic left knee. I am almost totally at the mercy of my family.

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  • Lonely2
    8 years ago

    If it bothers you its social anxiety ..if it doesnt, its more schizoid.....schizoids harder to fix

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  • Goomats
    9 years ago

    I think you're missing out and I bet some people in your area are missing out because they don't know you. Everybody has their good points so I would try to expand your comfort zone and share your presence and assets with others.

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  • EccentricWeird
    9 years ago

    I have zero friends, and I do care.

    Okay guys...? :'(

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