Hate my mum's boyfriend with a passion

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Some background.

My Dad died approximately one year ago. Mum decided it would be a good idea to move her boyfriend (who I get the impression she was seeing before, but I don't care) into our house only 6 weeks after.

This guy disrespected my Dad as soon as he moved into our house. He decided to tell me my Dad had cheated on my Mum a lot when they were younger. It might be true, it might not be, I still don't know. I'm sorry for her if it is, but I didn't need to be told that just weeks after losing my Dad while I was grieving.

Aside from this, the guy is just an asshole. He bullies my younger brother, who has depression. He is so much bigger than both me and my brother and he uses his size to intimidate all of us. He's racist as fuck, making snide comments about our Dad because he wasn't white, and looking at me crazy for having pride in my ancestry. He comes home drunk and makes stupid childish shouting noises until he eventually flops to sleep. He's all round just a fucking trashy chav, and I can't comprehend what my mother sees in him.

I'm angry at Mum as well, because we tell her about this and she does shit about it. She's told us over and over he's only staying temporarily but it's been a year. I have no legal grounds to get a restraining order on him since he hasn't technically done anything illegal, yet.

I want to move out tbh, but then I'm scared of leaving my brother behind and I have not the money to take care of him.

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  • agoodlovejoy
    7 years ago

    Tell the men in the neighborhood. They will definately watch your back. Your mom should be ashamed of letting someone come in like SATAN himself. If he is bullying your brother he is probably a child molester also. The fact he is drunk he hears voices in his head. He lives with yall so he is a failure. He is jealous because he NEEDS your mom financially. He doesnt want your mom forreal because if he had money he would sleep with her and probably leave because look how he treats yall. Bet if you get 5 big men in your neighborhood and tell them i know three of those men will wisely run his ass away. Tell your mom she better not bring no more assholes in this house especially not because dad cheated. Almost all men cheat and thats his penis he can do what ever he wants to with it. But dad took care of yall. Why would she let a worthless bum tear down your dads legacy. HAVE no fear baby

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      I've actually started to notice this hypocrisy in him myself lately.

      This bloke doesn't even work, hasn't worked a day since he moved in. His daily routine is to sit on his ass until 11AM, go wherever he goes during the day and then, like I said, come home drunk and just be incredibly cantankerous and unpleasant to be around.

      Then this guy goes in on my younger brother (and me, as I've been out of work a few weeks myself) for being "lazy". And we're not perfect, I won't pretend we are, but it's rich coming from him when he's 50-something sponging off a widow. I wish I could make my Mum see it, but she's vulnerable, she's scared of being alone and just wants a man around I think, any man will do. I do feel for her despite my anger and frustration. I feel so conflicted in how I feel about her.

      Unfortunately we're not a tightly-knit neighbourhood, but my one neighbour is pretty cool.

      Thanks for your comment btw, ugh I'm near boiling point.

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      • agoodlovejoy
        7 years ago

        Everytime u need to pray then fall asleep pray him outta the house. I wish i was there to throw his ass out

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  • rockstar2
    7 years ago

    into our house only 6 weeks after.= This is very irresponsible, you are not even through the grieving process yet. I hate too tell you but your Mum is a whore and it best if you just ignore him, and get out ASAP.

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  • yingvsyang
    7 years ago

    I think you should try and protect your little brother as much as you can .He dosent need this man influencing his young unshaped mind into feeling afraid and depressed.And when you feel he crossed the line try telling somebody try involving police they will imprison that bastard or if you turn 18 leave that place as soon as possible.

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  • agoodlovejoy
    7 years ago

    I wouldn't call anyones mom a whoar but it is disrespectful to tell him while he is grieving his father that his Mum is a whoar.

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  • Tybo626
    7 years ago

    He sounds like an awful person. I'm sorry you have to deal with that

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  • Azaman
    7 years ago

    That sucks man. Wish I had some advice for you.

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