Hate my dad

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I hate my dad so much, he has cheated won my mum with other women, he messaged other women as I have been on his fb account and witnessed the disgusting messages, he treats me and my siblings like shit and all he ever does is start arguments with everyone especially my mum, it's like he gets joy from it. They had a major argument about a month ago where he was calling her names in public while drunk and a whole load of other things happened. All he ever does is ask my mum for money and he never lets her go out or do what she wants he is to restricting if we are out for more than 2 hours he has a go at us! We have to tell him wherever we are going, but he won't tell us where he is off to, i know he is using my mum he does not work and all he does is get my mum to pay his bills, on multiple occasions he has physically and verbally abused my mum and the police have had to get involved, my mum won't do anything about it, we still haven't moved out of the house after years of this happening

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  • RoseIsabella
    6 years ago

    Yeah, your mum ought to kick him out. Seriously, someone cheats on me once and he's history. Maybe she's old fashioned? Hopefully, his liver will give out on his sorry ass!

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    • redrainbow22
      6 years ago

      Old fashioned, in other words, easily bent over? haha

      I dont take nonsense like you dont as well

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  • AngelLoc
    6 years ago

    OMG! I'm going through the same thing!!! Imo, you and family would be better off without him. My mom is also thinking about divorcing my dad...again. Idk if she'll push it through this time, she's just too forgiving of him.

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  • Boojum
    6 years ago

    Your Dad sounds like someone with zero self-respect and a lot of hate for the world (and probably a lot of self-hate).

    You don't understand why your Mum stays with him. It's possible she doesn't truly understand that either. Maybe she's suffering from the common female delusion that she'll make him a better man eventually. Maybe she thinks their private, personal relationship isn't that bad most of the time. Maybe she thinks her children need a father-figure in the house. Maybe she grew up in a really dysfunctional family and thinks the current situation isn't all that bad. Maybe some weird psychological quirk makes her believe she deserves his shit. Maybe she actually enjoys the drama (some women do).

    You say "...we haven't moved out of the house..." Maybe your Mum stays with him for purely practical reasons: she knows the only other option is her, your siblings and you not having a roof over your heads.

    It's clear you're finding the situation very difficult. It's also very harmful for children to grow up in dysfunctional families since they don't learn how a good adult relationship works, and this tends to create problems later in their lives.

    Since you're mystified why your mother stays with your father, I'd suggest you talk to her and try to understand what makes her stay. It wouldn't make him any easier to deal with, but it might help you deal with the situation.

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    • tozergrate
      6 years ago

      I agree with all of this. I lived with some of this and it's shit. And sometimes it can end up if you kick off over it then the mum will come down on some asshole's side instead of what seems like the obvious side and that's so upsetting. It's hard to see there can possibly be any reasons for it but somewhere in this will be a fairly amazing woman trying to keep things right even if the decisions she makes with that aim in mind will look like crap from the outside. You need to try and get to the bottom of it and then make your own decision about whether you can stay with either of them. That sounds awful but they are adults and they are making choices and choices have consequences.

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  • redrainbow22
    6 years ago

    All of that is terrible lol

    Why the fuck hasnt she divorced him yet?

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