Hate looking feminine when i am a straight guy

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Since head start i have always been atracted to girls, While i was young I was able to get girlfriends and also have some girls like me through middle and highschoool. Then some people started questioning if i was gay do the fact that i had feminine qualities in my face. I have high cheek bones and nice eyes and also somewhat big lips. I am only attracted to women and girls and yet it is hard to get a gf do to the fact that they think I am gay cause of my facial features. I hate the fact I was born a gay looking guy and that some guys call me gay and some girls do also.
And because I am not gay I guess I will be lonley for the rest of my life cause I was made a freak of nature and a mutant that is straight but others think other wise do to my looks. So I have been thinking about just getting rid of my self since I basically am a waste of life, since i cant get a girl that will look pass my girly man features so i can be a normal Guy. I also hate that other people expect me to be gay cause the way my face looks and it will dissapoint them if I actually had a girl friend.
My life is just shit and i was dealt a fucked up hand in life. So is it normal for me to feel this way and struggel being harrased for somthing I am not for the remainder of my life?

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago | pl

    don't worry about it!!
    studies show that girls are going for feminine looking guys nowadays.
    ignore judgemental people. they're idiots.
    besides, big lips, gorgeous eyes, high cheekbones?? sounds like you could b a male model. hell, girls go crazy over them.
    gd luck. (:

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  • immasexyboy3
    13 years ago

    It's not all about appearance, man. Don't give up so soon, and ignore the haters.

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  • Andy77
    13 years ago

    I know how you feel. I'm a very feminine guy too. I care about my hair a lot and I ware like the tightest pants ever and also have more girl friends than guy friends and talk feminine haha. They do call me gay at my school, but I'm as straight as you get. So I wouldn't let this bother you much :) some girls like more a feminine guy sometimes you just gonna keep looking man :D

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  • alv1592
    13 years ago

    wow, i seriously thought you were a guy i know. he says he can't go to the mall w/out people asking if he's gay, and a guy told him he was hot one time. he's had at least 2 gf's in the past 2 years though.

    your name isn't Derek (aka Deezy) by any chance, is it?

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    • Jraiderz
      13 years ago

      Nah, lol but yeah I kinda get hit on by every type of gender.. but I think girls are mostly shy to talk to me or somthing so Idk if they like me or not this past few years, I had plenty of gf's in the past, just now I am older and girls around my age question if i am gay cause of my facial features...And guys r not shy to flirt with me even tho I hate it and wished girls had that confidence to actually talk to me and get to know that I am not gay -.-....Hate being born androgynous keeps people questioning my sexuality, guys that call me gay just like me and wish i was, lmao. And most girls only talk to me on myspace or face book but wat is the point.

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  • Jraiderz
    13 years ago

    I really like this site, gives me hope and also helps me to understand that I am not alone..

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  • confusedteen33
    13 years ago

    Wow. I am the same as you. I am 19. Ilook this way kind of and I also look young for my age. The bummer is this look only benefits you once your older or famous. Justin bieber, leonardo dicaprio are similar and girls like them for it. If your not famous though people use it against you. My roommate always calls me gay face. The sad thing is I've been offered a modeling job in the past so I kinda want to go for a modeling job just to say fuck you to society for rejecting my looks.

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  • dappled
    13 years ago

    The look you have could be described as "androgynous" with some features of both genders. Although you may hate it now, androgynous looking people are always in demand as models. Perhaps your sensitivity about the issue is causing you to push people away somewhat. If you relax, and try asking a few girls out, you may find that life gets better fairly soon.

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  • Mumboslick
    7 years ago

    I'm 20 and I feel the same. I have big lips and feminine eyes.

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  • livefast87
    9 years ago

    I feel the the same tired of getting negative comments whenever i go out so i just stay home ive had no girlfriend in 3 years i have no friends no life and full of hate all because of what I look like! its what you look like that matters!!! such bs

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  • ChanguMangu
    7 years ago

    Haven't you heard of the story Ugly duckling?
    Or are you not able to understand that. Ask your mother , you will be the best looking guy for her. Same you will find from your loved one. Beauty lies in eyes of beholder. There is no yardstick to measure beauty in this world. What gives happiness is when your loved one find you most beautiful.
    U r silly enough to be worried about your beautiful features gifted by God.

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  • Alphareign
    11 years ago

    Grow a beard!

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  • hunnydreamer
    13 years ago

    I agree with confusedteen33, also I'm sure that alot of girls like feminine guys, I'm dead serious. I'd much rather date a feminine guys that macho guys, I find them more appealing.

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  • heather49
    13 years ago

    Maybe a style change can help.
    Maybe a messy hair. Don't know... I wouldn't find that a problem at all... Is it all the people? Or is there someones that don't find it bad either? (in particular, some girls?)

    I think you can find people who don't mind a more feminine look.

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