Hate being loved by father

It sounds like maybe you feel a lot of pressure from the attention your dad gives yous like you feel like you have to be responsible for his emotional well being. Rather than fighting and coming at it from that way try telling him you that you feel smothered all his attention makes you uncomfortable. If you ahow him that you can act like an adult about it maybe he will take you more serisouly and respect you wishes. Keep reacting like a child though and situation isn't likely to change.

b**** you need to realize that one day u wont have your dad there and nobody will give you the love he gives you...i lost my dad 5 days before my 7th birthday and i would do anything to have him bck if you feel like hes loving you too much talk to him and tell him how you feel dont hate him for loving you too much thats stupid tomorrow is never promised and when he passes away you will regret saying all this bout him!

I hope he isn't abusing you sexually, and if he is you should call the police or tell a teacher. The fact that you said he doesn't love your mother anymore, kind of makes me think that might be what's going on. I'm probably wrong though, but just play along with him when he acts like that, try to make it look fake too, so it will make him annoyed. =)

I hope you aren't trolling but I'll bite.
I really hope you know that all the people who ever wanted positive attention or reinforcement from their fathers hate you.
Some people have it worse than you. As cliche as this sounds, enjoy what little time you have with him.

Oh Gosh! I thought i was the only one! im in the same situation (my dad HATES my mum so he NEVER talks to her, he still love her but he wont admit it) and my brother is not visiting him at all (they are divorced) and im the only one who pays attention to him. He is doing the same to me, he is all loving and caring, so its so anoying and i constantly trying to make him angry but sometimes i feel guilty for that.
i think its normal for you to feel that way (im messed up a lot but im trying to be logical too.)

My dad luvs me 2, but not in a nasty way! He would do anything fit me! Even risk his life

you sound like a spoiled bitch who deserves to be abused. so many kids would do anything for a loving father and here you are whining about having one. thats fucking sickening.

I can identify, sorta.
I'm not really in the same boat, or feel the same way, but I grew up with a really rocky relationship with my dad. he was an absent father, and one day told me that he never wanted to be a dad. As I got older though, he began to feel alittle more kin to me because he could Identify with me a little bit better, but I really resent that. I don't feel right, or comfortable with our newish dynamic, but mostly because a part of me still wants to be angry with him. I get the feeling your feeling toward your father has something to do with that. You're maybe angry with him not loving your mother, and his love is a burdain. I mean, a daughter is supposed to take example of her parents love, from a one degree seperation, but here you are taking the brunt of what he has to give. He doesn't get why you're not wanting his love, but I don't think its that. You're not wanting to BE his love. You're supposed to SEE HOW TO BE LOVED by your father, not BE THE LOVE of your father. I hope that you take the time to ponder this, and maybe find out exactly what it is that bothers you about being so loved. But I get the feeling I might actually be right on this one. it's the burden, not the actually fact of being loved.

i know a child who's mother completely mollycoddles (if that's even a word) him and is always so over protective of his "special little ways" but his dad stopped being nice to him and is trying to make him into a mans man and now the kid is so fucked up he believes that he is the center of the fucking universe and that everyone likes him but in reality everyone thinks that he's a prick(even his dad).

I actually don't understand this. You should appreciate the love, even if it feels smothering. It won't be there directly forever.

be lucky to have that love try growing up with a deadbeat dad u hardly ever saw and being sexually,physically, and emotionally abused from the age of 5-16.... i overcame all this and became a strong woman and mother some people can't but i highly doubt this will fuck up your life it will probably make u a better person be glad your dad is proud of u it must be nice quit being selfish when other people endure worse

physical attraction between a couple lasts about a year and a half long enough to make a baby after that one parent transfers the love that they had to the child

your a spoiled bitch. some of us dont know our fathers

wow you bitch. are you really going to blame your social retardedness and problems on your dad loving you? thats selfish and unreasonable. youre the reason for your own problems. how could you bring your dads love into it like that. i feel bad for your father. try to be normal for two seconds and apologize to him for undignified hatred. dont blame him for your shit. bitch.

I think you should talk with a councillor to get some objective advice & someone on your sidet.

I think possibly you are being put between your parents' marital problems - sort of a triangle. So your dad's "love" - which is far from Mr Bad Touch - isn't authentic. Its suffocating & misplaced.

Really you have received good advice here. But my hunch is the problem isn't going to go away until your mom & dad do something about their marriage.

Love and be loved. Especially when it comes to your parents. If they are good people, no one will ever do more for you than them.

And you will miss them so fucking much when they are gone.

SAME HERE! i love my dad, but he's so annoying sometimes. i don't think it's as bad as you though. ur dad sounds like a rapist.

i wish my dad loved me like that

thats really sad. it may take years for you to learn to appreciate love. but i'm sure the situation is complicated. i guess you can always date a jerk who hits you or something.

My dad is like that too, i have an older half sis (on my dad's side) but since i am younger (by like nine-ten years) he dotes on me, and i hate him because he isn't very good a parent (example: when my sis was learning to ride her bike, my mom asked him to help he said "i'm not that kind of father") anyway, he treats my sister unfairly, and i feel that he loves me too much, so i know what you mean, he doesn't really like my sister, but because (she was born in Haiti) of family, and cultural respect, she doesn't talk as bad about him as my mother and i, I honestly don't think i know what would be any help to you, try, family counseling,

WTF?

HATE BEING LOVED?

GUD!

your mom well she need someone else too

wow you sound very grown so do you and your dad a favor i wouldnt tell anyone this but divorce your dad and if your mom knows your dad dont love her then she should let him go too this away your dad can find someone he loves and gets love in return and if its not y

I vaguely understand what you're gettin at, I suppose, but I really doubt that your father dotin on you will fuck you up more than gettin abused :S as for the thing about your social issues at school, it's probably not a good idea to get into the habit of blaming your parents for your problems, even if they did contribute to it, it won't stand you in good stead for the rest of your life.
If he truly doesn't love your mother, he's probably just bein over-nice to you in an attempt compensate. To be honest, there's probably not that much you can do if you've already told him (politely) to back off except wait it out until you're old enough to be livin independantly, a bit of distance will probably do youse both a world of good.

Child you are a real piece of work i dont think you would like your father beating you when he is drunk or with a hot wire hanger to your side so appreciate him u spoiled little brat some of us dont have a father to love us u make me sick

did he did somthg to you?
u said he dont love your mom but you?

I think you hate it because you feel smothered. You're feeling the opposite of what neglected children feel but to an extreme... and a lot of times extremes in either direction are not good.

I would have a sit down with him and tell him that you're growing up and you need your privacy and space. It's wonderful you have a loving father as most children do not, but it seems he is not able to show his love in a productive way where you feel safe and protected. Instead you feel like you're drowning and just want to push it all away. Tell him how you feel... if you need an ally perhaps bring in mom if you're close to her or another relative since you don't have siblings. Write it in a letter if that's more comfortable. You can ask for it back if you don't want him to keep it.

If he doesn't agree, then you just have to let him know that what he's doing isn't working and it's just making you hate him instead of returning his love. I would try asking him if he can at least do a trial and you will update him on how the trial is going. Try different things or else you're just going to leave when you're old enough and your father will be deeply hurt. Someday you might mature and get over this but the damage will be done and hard to repair. Good luck to you.

you should finger yourself in front of your dad then let him smell your fingers and lick it clean.

fuck you. if your so busy helping people whyd you waste your time making such a unhelpful comment

GET THE FUCK OUT OF HERE, THERE ARE PEOPLE WITH REAL PROBLEMS I HAVE TO GET TO.

No, Im pretty sure theres nothing sexual. Spose i should be grateful for that.
I think noftards and violent10dency's comments were helpful and aspects of it. but I am quite mature and It doesnt make a difference to how he treats me, and hIs love is unconditional so nothing i do can stop him.

haha. No, noftards and violent10dency s comments were helpful. thanks

What kind of shit does he say and do?

he might be michel jackson in disguise