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If you said yes, please share how they have hurt you, and how it has changed you.
| No, I don't let people hurt me like that. | 11 | |
| No, and I hope no one ever does. | 4 | |
| Dumb Question... of course!!!! (What did they do?) | 45 |
Being bullied can make you into a cynic and misanthrope. I was beat up on a regular basis, and verbally abused. As a result I started to see people as horrible beings, I hated them. I just didn't understand why I was the target, and standing up for myself only really led to more abuse. So I guess I can't really pick out one person in particular, although I could think of one kid, but it was mainly him and his friends who got everyone to make fun of me. I don't want to sound like a loser, but it just really sucked, and I honestly feel, even to this day, that perhaps I deserved to be bullied, that I sort of deserve to not be happy.
However, last year I met a girl who I clicked with. Not in a sexual way or anything, but she really opened my eyes into seeing that people aren't all bad. I think she deserves most of the credit for at least making me try to break out of my pessimistic shell and start embracing optimism. I'm not a full-blown sunshine and rainbows kind of person, but at least I know that everyone is not out to get me.
Yes. Without going into too much detail I've been in some bad places in the past... every day is an effort, but every day is getting easier. Back in school, doing pretty well these past two semesters, and I'm finally starting to feel a bit normal again, finally separating myself from the image of just a victim, or just a survivor. I still have a long way to go.... I still get scared to go out at night or go to the city or walk home alone after a party... but I'm working on it.
And to echo what others have said, everything we experience changes us in some way. We also consciously change ourselves; the goal is to integrate our experiences with the narrative already in place within our minds to form a cohesive picture, rather than let the experience rule.
Yeah, I was once hurt and bullied really bad by some people. To the point that I wanted to move out of my town. Now it's all in the past but I think it gave me issues trusting people and telling people how I feel.
Sorry for lack of paragraphs i'm on xbox internet and its dodgey so i'll write in several replies to avoid a massive wall text Yes. Last year in college someone changed me. Things had been building for a while before hand, my dad was becoming more abusive and me, my mum and my sister knew we had to move, both of my grandparents died within 3 months and we had to sell their house to get away before my dad really lost it. My dog also had died, I know it doesn't sound like a massive deal but I was only 3 years old when we got her so I had no memory of life without her and It really got to be loosing her after I lost both grandparents and moving for the first time
When I joined college There was a girl in the class I noticed straight away. It took me 2 months of just saying hi as we passed for me to start a conversation with her. After that we spend all our time together and I realised that I cared more about her than I did anyone else I had met. I was nearly 19 and had not had a girlfriend at that point, I honestly didn't know why wanted to be my girlfriend I was scruffy and overweight, she was beautiful and kind with the most amazing red/purple hair, many people had a thing for her in the class and somehow she liked me
Things were amazing for a while then once the ignorant bliss faded I realised things weren't great. I briefly mentioned this in a post recently, she started to try and get me to believe in god, I knew she was religious and I was cool with that but one day we were embraced watching a film and she started crying, she started saying that she didn't want me to go to hell, she calmed down and told me that it wasn't working, she told me that she had gone out with me to show me the way but she knew I wasn't going to change my mind and felt like there was no point trying anymore, that I was "lost" so she walked
Everything had been building for a while before but she seemed to make everything better, realising it was a lie was the final straw it just broke me. Since then I've been different, I've been bitter towards everything since i'm better now but still have a more negative view of life. For a while after I turned to cannabis I was spending far too much on it and when I ran out of money I started selling my things. The heavy cannabis use combined with my feelings made me feel like I lived in a different world to everyone else and I just hated every day. Haha I don't know why it upset me so much, I was a fool.
When I first found out I was bisexual, I had a boyfriend at the time. Since it was the right thing to do, I told him. He refused to believe it and tried to tell me that I was bisexual-chic, which is ridiculous because I'm not the type of person who tries to get attention. Eventually I broke it off with him.
About a year later I started dating another boy. While we were texting one day, I mentioned my sexuality, assuming he already knew. He did not, and broke up with me immediatley.
Since then, I've been very uncomfortable with my sexuality and was afraid to admit it to anyone; I don't handle rejection well.
I told my current boyfriend hesitantly, but to my suprise he said that he was totally fine with it.
Even though we never had a problem with it, I'm still very uncomfortable with it. What if we were to break up? What if I couldn't find someone else who was okay with it? I'm always scared to lose someone because of something that I cannot change.
Yes.
The way they treated me, the abusive things they said, hurt me so severely that, not only did it change me, I'm not sure I will ever be able to return to the way I once was - I believe the change is permanent.
It's only permanent if you allow it to be. I've had a hell of a time trying to get back to myself after I hit the breaking point... time, distance and perspective heal, but they heal slowly.
I know it's gonna take me a while to be totally okay, it might take you a while too, but when you've hit the bottom you have two choices... sit and wait for it to drop again or grab hold of a root and start climbing. The light at the top is worth the climb out.
In my opinion, every experience a person has adds to them as a person. But yeah I know what you mean.
I've been changed by a person before...
I think everything everyone does changes how I think, even if it's only my an amount so tiny it isn't instantly noticable. Even you asking this question has changed me.
So yes, when people hurt me it changes me. When people make me happy it changes me. When people make me think it changes me. Lying in bed until midday daydreaming changes me. There's nothing that hasn't changed me when I became aware of it.