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I absolutly hate it when one little bad thing happens in someones perfect life and they complain and bxtch that they have horrible shxtty lives, meanwhile you've had it way worse than them.
I'm the same, it makes me so mad but I also have a silent bittersweet laugh at the same time.
I think if something so insignificant can cause such a reaction, it makes me feel stronger for what I've been through.
Right, as the first person to say "no" to this, I'd better explain it!
Who are you to say that another person's life is perfect? It can only be perfect by YOUR standards - meaning that your perception of their life is that it's great and they have no problems worthy of complaining about. Well, that just don't fly - because you can't possibly know everything about someone else's life, and even if you did you can't measure its quality by your own standards.
Did you ever stop to think that maybe the person actually has just as many problems and difficulties as you and everyone else, but just usually has a much better attitude about it? And then, when something comes up that they can't deal with alone, and they come to friends for support, you just say they "complain and bxtch" about it, as if they do it all the time!
You know, they probably DO have a better life than you - because usually they are capable of dealing with life's problems WITHOUT complaining, and take most things in their stride. The capacity to fully enjoy life is not universal, and this story and previous posts tend to show that, sadly, it is actually quite rare.
Putting it bluntly, you are jealous - because you can't enjoy life like they can. So when they have a problem, you belittle it and assume that if you were them you'd be happy all the time. Maybe you HAVE "had it way worse" than others - but if you let things continue that way, you've no one but yourself to blame.
Fix your attitude, fix your life.
Agree with timebobbu - if someone has a major problem in their life such as a mental illness for example, nobody really says anything and doesn't know how to deal with it. However if someone is whining because they had the tiniest fight with their boyfriend, everybody seems to want to give their advice as well as hugs and sympathy, because it means they can stay superficial and don't have to think any deeper. Sorry i'm bitter.
I've had a great life and I don't tell people otherwise. Sure I have my scars but that's all they are. I get upset and then I move on. The end. :)
What I hate most is when people make it a competition, with things like "My life is worse than yours!"
Instead of comparing scars and saying, "Nu-uh! Mine are uglier than yours" why not try and mend whatever small pain they're going through?
are you happier than them? its a wonderful thing if you can be in spite of all, like misssorel said
if you havent noticed small problems are better accepted by people than actual ones which can be uncomfortable and boring