Happy loner

It's not a bad thing. I was like that my whole life too. I'm only 21 but I've been on my own and very independent for years therefore I dont feel like I need anyone. Family and friends have screwed me over too many times and if anything just want things from me so I found that I like being alone the best. I have two kids and love that I dont have to share them with anyone. I always hated the idea of having a husband and family and blah blah. I tried dating and realized that I get annoyed of people easily and rather be doing things alone like watching Aqua Teen Hunger Force or playing Call Of Duty. I would even tell guys I had plans with family just so they wouldnt bother me. I realized I'm somewhat of a dork but also somewhat liked being a loner. I had just accepted the fact that I'm meant to live a different life than other people and was happy being alone when I met the most amazing guy ever by accident lol. A friend from work had invited me to her party and normally I would decline but this time I said sure why not. I later decided not to go until I finally convinced myself that I'd just stop by and leave shortly after. It ended up being the best day of my life all because I met my other half. Later he admitted that he too had to convince himself more than once to actually go to the party. He's just like me so now we are loners together and its better than anything I could have imagined.
I know that was really long but basically what I'm saying is you are fine the way you are and should enjoy your time however suits you. But you should make a point of going out with your friends at least once in a while. You never know, you could meet someone that is just like you and enjoy being around them.

I am the same way.

I was born and raised in Alaska, moved from AK to Florida to get away from crazy relatives and parents that visit too often. Phone calls with them are much more comfortable in my opinion.

I have a simple job at a desk of a beach resort, pay is okay, and you know what? I'm OKAY with that.

I do talk to a LOT of people at my work, I somehow consider that my social life.

My two real-life friends, I met them at my work, then they quit, they were too cool to lose social contact with so I made sure to put their numbers into the speed dial.

Going to the club isn't my thing. Drinking? Rarely. Hell, I didn't even go out to drink on my 21st birthday. Why? I already got that out of my system when I was 'a little more' social back in school.

I have a huge flatscreen, PS3, surround sound Bose system around my recliner, an expensive computer that has my most favorite game that I play about 70%% of my game time with... World of Warcraft.

That game is extremely social, just not physically social. I'm content chatting with them in-game AND with you guys.

I don't necessarily care about what others think about it. My two friends don't mind at all, I'm still the same person that they originally met, and they think I'm cool and got my head on straight. And they have normal lives.

They actually think I'm pretty cool for not letting others influence what I think is cool and time-worthy.

And the best thing of it all?

I'm a girl.

your friends are the part of the crowd....u ain't that boy,and i will tell u why

u think wife,car and kids are a load of crock...pretty much i agree....but ITS NOT!
its just thinking

some people find the normal ways of civility(having kids,wife,big house,relatives,social get togethers etc) as the best way to state success in life,while others like u and me not...

we like to do what WE believe WE should do and not what OTHER and the SOCIETY wants us to be and do...
so we are the different guys...the loners...the happy loners as u say....
i mean a few friends,too many movies to last more than a lifetime,good time out with friends,and with games at home,no tension no worry for the ladies in life,and thus definitely no responsibilities for the worldly things as wife,family,kids,etc..

everyone's got different perspective of living a life...some like it free and no-responsibility one..doesn't mean we are jackasses can't handle 'em or don't want to because of laziness or lack of heart to do it..

so be cool
its normal

ur friends trying to tell u to join the crowd..
i say,if u can life happily like this into ur old age,then be it...otherwise marry off a hot bitch and replicate more of u and get some pleasure time for ur love muscle too.

I'm proud to be a happy loner like most who posted here. I'm 35 years old, debt free / worry free / smoke free, living alone happily (as my nickname says). Everyday, I wake up with a smile, eat breakfast, surf the net, eat lunch, read books, cook dinner, exercise outdoor (30-45 minutes a day), watch movies in the evening, and occasionally drink a glass of wine. Every year, I go sightseeing outside my own city/town limit. I love hiking in nature and taking photos of nice places.

The world around me has too much bad influences and I decide to shut myself off from friends, relatives, and past co-workers for the next 58 years.

There is nothing better than a quiet and healthy solitary life.

It's normal, you SHOULD be happy.

i find that as long as it makes u happy then u shouldn't doubt urself. if it makes u happy then contiue living that way

It's great you can be happy alone! :)

If you're happy, I don't think you should change anything :) don't question yourself because of others expectations.

Seriously, your life sounds PERFECT to me. I really wish my life will be like your when I get 23. (19 by now)

I was the same way... I'm a few years older than you and have found ways to keep myself busy, but I don't think I like living like this anymore. I was perfectly content up until a few months ago. I'm not sure exactly what clicked, but suddenly now I feel like I've wasted the past 5 years of my life (after graduating college). I've got a good paying (though incredibly boring) job, earned my master's degree, and visited a couple of foreign countries for work and stayed in both for a couple months each. So professionally and academically I've made progress, but I have no social life, no friends, no family, relatives live too far away, etc.

If your happy then i guess your fine.

your just like me. i only have 3 friends who i contact/ text. i read and play games and watch DVDS im not lonley coz iv got pets.

i have no desire for kids no way. girls dont even bother with me which suits me last thing i want is to be nagged to do stuff(not being sexist).

i love having the house to myself with no distraction when im playing games etc.

normal.

I'll translate you're story into my life:

I'm 18, I live with my parents. I go to school, ROTC, and Taekwondo. I go to my friend's house almost every weekend (one time I've been there for 10 or so weekends in a row. I've been there so much, I'm practically part of the family, even when she left (air force), I still go there. Actually, I came back from there about 2 hours ago)

Everything I need is in my room (and at my friend's place), so there's never boredom in my life. Too bad there isn't enough time for everything. (There is so much I want to do in life T_T- go places, learn about four languages, do this and that, learn this, learn that...)

I never had a boyfriend. To be honest, I do want that older male figure as a boyfriend (I don't know why, but even if a guy is 2 days younger, I still feel too mature. But sometimes, like now, I listen to certain songs (music fitting my mood so perfectly, now: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9D0nLjYMYTw) and I enjoy my alone time.

I love going to Taekwondo, and when I'm not doing that, I'm on the computer, either on here, YouTube, browsing deviantArt, writing, or watching shows, anime, or dramas. (I need to find a job T_T)

It's called being introverted. It just means you like spending time with yourself and sometimes hanging out with people can be exhausting. I'm an ambivert, which means I have both introverted and extroverted traits (but I'm mostly an introvert). Sometimes I need my time, but other times, I like being with people. Being a "loner" does not mean you're missing out.

Well I'm the same way. I'm 15 and i'm basically breezing through high school. i skip the classes i don't like and i'm trying to stop but i just hate being around a lot of people. sometimes we just need to get away from people and cars and stupid shit. sometimes i just lay on my roof and think.

-YYW

Feel the same man. Everything's a hassle to me and to be a loner really is great. No one to bother you and, get to work and do whatever.
Living the same life and loving it.
And everything is not normal. When things are normal somethings not right. so when its not its perfect.