Guys: you think you've found your dream girl...

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You guys met at some random event, public instance, what have you. You have gone on more than just a few dates and you now hang out quite frequently. You have had sex with her and you emotionally connect with her and she seems to be the woman that you've been looking for! You share so much in common and you have a feeling that this is the one and then you find out 6 months past the point at which you started getting intimate that she is only 16, going on 17 soon.

She seemed so mature, and many people live with their parents into their mid-twenties so it's no big deal. She carries herself like a real lady and when she said she was a student, well, I guess you assumed she was in college, right? We don't all ID card our dates, do we? You just trusted your assumption and she never corrected you...

So what do you do?

Stay with her 67
Break up but remain friends 9
Break up and never associate with her again 17
Wait until she is legal 53
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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    I find it hard to believe if the OP is mid twenties or even of legal drinking age (21) they would have much in common with a HS sophomore.

    I certainly wouldnt, I mean you couldnt even go out to adult environments (bars, clubs).

    Not to mention the girl lied to you about her age anyway. Something that probably has to do with her maturity level.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      You're assuming that I DO go into adult environments.

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      • [Old Memory]
        11 years ago

        So you enjoy hanging around high schoolers and their social environments? I would feel so silly doing that.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          11 years ago

          No, I don't enjoy high school social environments. But that doesn't mean that I frequent the pub and strip clubs. I don't need alcohol to get my jollies off a social occasion.

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          • Corleone
            11 years ago

            Well... that sounds boring ;)

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            • NeuroNeptunian
              11 years ago

              Eh, then maybe I'm boring, but drinking doesn't do much for me and I don't have to go to a strip club and pay for women to rub their tatas in my face. If I did I would say I'd have a pretty lackluster female friend base.

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  • Captain_Kegstand
    11 years ago

    At my age, a girl that was 16 going on 17 is not an option, I don't care how mature they are! Now when I was 18 or maybe even 19 I would have felt differently, but those days are gone for me! If she isn't legal to drink, she is pushing my lower limits anymore.

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  • Subfinmatic
    11 years ago

    6 months in and you only find out about her age...

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  • Corleone
    11 years ago

    Pffff... tough one.

    It's your call. If you really think you can spend your life with her, stay with her.

    However, do you feel like you can trust her? She should've told you about her age a LOT sooner.

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  • got11
    11 years ago

    I find it hard to believe that a 15-16 yr old highschooler who still lives with mommy and daddy can be so mature that she seems to be in her mid twenties. The fact that she lied for so long shows her true maturity level. The brain of a sixteen year old is significantly less developed than a twenty five year old. And any twenty five year old that would date a fifteen or sixteen year old high schooler knowingly must have something wrong with them. I mean, she just learned to drive and still has a curfew :/

    Btw this happened to a friend of mine when he was 20 and he dumped her feeling betrayed and disgusted.

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  • Xena
    11 years ago

    If the age of consent is 16 then she is 16 and no law has been broken? If the person is much older then ur a pedo :P I personally wouldn't be with someone of that sort of age. It can mess up who they are. Someone who is 16-21 shouldn't be expected to be in a long term relationship.. There is too much to be learned in life. A girl or guy will change who they are and what they think/believe many times by the time they reach 30. Not all but most people aren't ready for a serious relationship till around 30. This is most likely why the divorce rate is the way it is. There is no 16yo Dream type of girl. 16yo girls usually are too busy being what everyone else thinks they should be not who they actually are because most people don't have any idea of who they are and what they like till around 30ish. Dunno if this all makes sense its 5am :(

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  • Shackleford96
    11 years ago

    Well you sure as hell don't want to dump her now do you? All she would have to do is call the cops and you'd be ruined!

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  • IIN2?uestionlife
    11 years ago

    Lol you already crossed the line its not like it can go any further. Might as well treasure her.

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  • crazyladii
    11 years ago

    You must be like 25 perv stop trying to manipulate a young minds, and get a real women not a teen. Not to mention she's still maturing; she might grow out of you.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      You must be a different sort of idiot. I am a 20 year old female college student and my husband is well above 16. Maybe if you had literacy skills above that of a 4th grade level you would see from the post that I never admitted to dating a 16 year old girl. It was a hypothetical question.

      Dumbass.

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      • crazyladii
        11 years ago

        Hey you got it... But you have perv thoughts you conjured this story

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  • Aleks85
    11 years ago

    Stay with her I don't really care about age.

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  • Justsomejerk
    11 years ago

    So is this juat a big hypothetical or is there a sixteen year old girl you need advice regarding?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      It's a hypothetical. I don't know why people think that I am actually seeing a 16 year old girl. I am a married 20 year old female. And my husband is not underaged. He will be 28 this year.

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  • confuseddotcom27
    11 years ago

    18 limit is bloody stupid. If her parents aren't complaining I wouldn't worry about it. In UK it's 16 in other countries it's 14. It's just number, maturity is the more important factor and the fact that she consents.

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  • AssBurgers
    11 years ago

    How old are you?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      My age is irrelevant here. The question is for YOU.

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      • AssBurgers
        11 years ago

        Not really =/

        I voted stay with her, but if you're mid-twenties or above then don't see her again.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          11 years ago

          I asked what you would do.
          What I would do doesn't matter here.

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          • nowhereboy
            11 years ago

            That doesnt really work mate, because what i would do at 26 is alot differant to what i would do at 21... ya dig?

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              11 years ago

              I'm not asking you what you would do at 21, I am asking you what you would do NOW. If it doesn't work than just say that you would leave her.

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  • Justsomejerk
    11 years ago

    What happens when a couple is 17 and then one person turns 18. Can they not legally have sex until the other reaches 18?

    I'm serious, I don't know.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      Here in the USA, in some states, no, as it would be considered statutory rape.

      In others, when you are under the age of 18 (and you are 15+) you have have sex with someone up to 4 years old than you so that is not even an issue.

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  • nobodyspecial
    11 years ago

    Stay with her, In a year she'll be legal. If you dump her you might regret it later. I still say its got fuck all to do with anyone else what two people do in a relationship. Dont let other people dictate what you should do, if the two of you are happy together, then stay together.

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  • TerryVie
    11 years ago

    Hu? Why not stay with her?

    Ah, yeah, those ridiculous "legal" issues in...US, is it?
    Seriously, your age-of-consent-laws seem like a load of BS to me and many other europeans.

    Here it's 14, but parents could "overrule" up until 18.
    But other than that, it's all fine and legal. When i read your stuff, i was first like, "Why, he didn't write how old he is, so he can't be asking about their age difference, right?", it only dawned on me when one of the answers was "Wait until she is legal".

    Here it would be so extremely normal that it not even occured to me that could be unacceptable someplace else -_-
    Really, some laws are just meant to be ignored, stay with her.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      You're talking about a country in which most states won't even allow gay people to get married but it's cool for cousins... just not gay cousins.

      Come on, what else did you expect from "Conservative Christian" America? Where the women can run around and have 4 babies with 5 different guys but making love to your long-term girlfriend is taboo?

      Even looking at underaged girls can get you arrested here, assuming you're 18 or older v.v

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      • ccjigsaw
        11 years ago

        4 babies with 5 different guys XD That's to great

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        • NeuroNeptunian
          11 years ago

          Yeah, I had a Math teacher tell me that once. And I told him, "sir, you're a Math teacher, wouldn't you know that that is not even possible?" and his reply was... "that was the point".

          I never questioned it.

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      • TerryVie
        11 years ago

        yep, but you are saying yourself how ridiculous things are.
        I am just saying that it would be totally legal in SO many other countries...to show that from a moralic standpoint you are on the safe side.

        You are happy with her, so i would not care about the laws when they are so stupid. Heck, if SHE wants to get you into jail she would already have. And if you both deny you ever had sex(with one another) who wants to prove you wrong :P

        I'd say just stick with her and forget about the stupid laws.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          11 years ago

          It was a hypothetical question.
          I am 20, my husband is 27 and I am a female.

          I didn't even state in the post that I was dating a 16 year old girl. Where did you all get that from?

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          • TerryVie
            11 years ago

            because it sounds like a story :)

            despite that, then my advice would be to a hypothetical person.

            As you could read in the beginning, in my country it would be perfectly legal, so no problem to begin with.

            For the options to make sense/be able to respond to the core content you were getting at, i need to reply to a hypothetical person in this scenario...because i doubt you were looking for an answer along the lines of "What, thats legal anyway, why would you break up with her, you stupid?", right?

            For the record, i'm also female, but bisexual in my mid-20s, and if i did not already have a wonderful girlfriend, and this theoretical scenario would take place during a long-term visit to the states, i would follow my own advice and just stay with her, or convince her to come to europe as exchange student-at which moment it will probably matter what kind of people her parents are.

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              11 years ago

              It was a poll >.< I made up the story as a hypothetical scenario. I guess I should take up creative writing.

              But I understand that. I didn't know you had a girlfriend, you guys have an open relationship?

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  • GuessWho
    11 years ago

    Stay with her.
    Even if she is under-age, you've already crossed the line and should make the best of your current situation.

    You've already broken the law. The last thing you want is to upset her and give her reason to report you for it.

    You've already stated that she's your dream girl and more mature than her age.

    Ever consider that the reason she never corrected you is because she didn't want you to dump her over something like this?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      The question isn't for me, the question is for you. I've never fucked a 16 year old girl and I am married to a 27 year old man.

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      • GuessWho
        11 years ago

        I don't intend to end up in this situation, but If I did, that's what I would do.

        Also, age-of-consent is 16 where I live.

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  • bigtoy
    11 years ago

    If you've already had sex then stay with her, otherwise it's a lame excuse for dumping her. When you guys are a bit older a few years difference won't matter anyway.

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  • iEatZombies_
    11 years ago

    Did she lie to you or did you assume she was of age? How much older are you?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      You are the age that YOUR are.
      And you just assumed, she never corrected you.

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      • [Old Memory]
        11 years ago

        Kind of dumb to not know how old the person your dating is? But i'd say stay with her.

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