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I'm not just saying cute as in good looking, more like "aw, you're cute!" or "I think you're so cute". Not in a platonic way either, I mean if they legitimately think it. For example, how would you feel if your date/potential gf/gf said this to you? Is this a turn off? Does it hurt your pride or is it just weird?
| Yes, it's unmasculine | 9 | |
| No, I think it's flattering | 26 | |
| No, it's just a compliment | 30 | |
| Other | 3 |
"Guys: Would you feel offended/uncomfortable if a girl called you cute?" Yes you could add "Embarrassed" and "Shocked" to the very core of my existence to your list but that would never happen as i have tattoos and scars all over me, a chisled jaw, a look that could scare peeled fruit right back into it's skin and a lazy walk that's been described as a "Swagger"
lets say for arguments sake i was ever called "Cute" i would go to the highest bridge i could find and dive right off...
....As i love bungee jumping when i'm flattered.
Hahahaha I called an Australian man cute an hour or so ago. The following is his response; all names were left out to protect the innocent.
"It's alright coming from you I suppose.
Could be better, could be worse..."
I don't think he liked it :o
Yes and no. Depends on the situation. Some people just don't like being percieved as cute like you would view a puppy. There is a certain immaturity to being called cute in the way you describe. Look at what is typically considered cute in this context...Thought of a few? Now compare that to a human...Not very flattering, is it? Just like some people don't want to be seen as "scary" others do not want to look "cute" because it can be patronizing, not due to some sort of gender role idea as I read above...Which most I didn't see the relevance of. >_>
I would say it's both. It's definitely way more acceptable to call a female cute than a man. And there are certainly men who don't like it because it brushes their masculinity the wrong way. But of course there are always going to be people of each gender who don't appreciate being viewed as "cute" because that's not the image they want, or they find it like you said patronizing.
I wouldn't. This whole idea of gender roles being the reason for everything is pretty annoying. Sure, there are some gender roles still out there but it has become the go-to explanation for every single difference in the behaviors of men and women.
"It's far more acceptable to call a female cute than a man". Usually when a woman is called cute it is due to their physical attraction to them, same for women actually. Women call guys cute all the time when they are saying they find them physically attractive.
Well ofcourse there will be some men that don't like being called something they don't like. Again, if someone is called scary they don't like it because of some gender role issue they dislike it because they do not view themselves that way nor want to be percieved that way.
For example, take me. Now if you have seen how I put my appearance from my previous profile pictures you'll see that I don't keep to the "masculine" look or what is percieved as such, I certainly don't try to be masculine or feminine, however if I was called cute in the way you are describing I would find it condecending.
You and many other people need to realize that these gender roles came around for a reason. Men and women didn't ust get together and say "Ok, it's masculine to do this and feminine to do that" and started those roles from there, the idea of gender roles were made because that was how men and women were naturally. Sure there's less need for such roles now but that doesn't change that it is how both would naturally work. I also agree that there are those that are not typically masculine when male and feminine when female, and that's alright, they should be accepted and typically are. What isn't alright is just randomly assuming that because there are those types of people that do not go with the flow in what is typpically male or female behavior does not change what is typical male and female behavior and assuming we act the way we do due to some cultural form rather than the culture was formed by our already natural ways that then got percieved as gender roles.
But yeah, people are different. Some might like it, some might not, some may not care. I just don't like the whole "gender roles dun did it" arguement. Lol.
It does because it involves the way each sex is socialized.
Traditional roles are unnecessary and over-simplify gender. They should be a base at most. I'm not saying everyone has to be transgender, but there's no need for it to be so polarized and I doubt that's as "natural" as we claim it to be
Anyways I know that's obviously not the only component to this question, and I'm not sitting here thinking that any guy who doesn't like it is butthurt about their man-pride. But you'd have to have stuck your head in the ground to think that gender has nothing to do with it
Ok. Let's look at it this way. If we look back at how humans were before society, what were men and women like? Different, right? It's time to stop blaming society for how genders are and accept that those ways the genders differentiate existed far before we became a civilized species.
I also don't like how you have not taken in to consideration as to why it doesn't have anything to do with gender in a lot of cases and that people simply do not like being called things they do not like to consider themselves as and merely repeated what you stated.
I would say you have to have your heads in the clouds reaching if you think that gender roles in the leading reason for it.
Yeah they were different from the start, but that doesn't mean they were always the way they are now. It's not something that stays stagnant, clearly, or I would be married rn cooking dinner for some idiot who just got ownership of my house and person because my father wanted a few bucks.
id like to think its 1/3 gender construct, 1/3 testosterone and 1/3 personal preference lol but im no expert
apparently you don't know how to read because i acknowledged that gender wasnt the only reason and that i know there is personal image and preference
No. I'm a guy and "cute" is one of my favourite words to describe people and things I like a lot. The sort of masclulinity that distances itself from cuteness is really unattractive to me; it comes across as really aloof and prideful in exactly the wrong sort of way. In the same way, I think I'd find it tough to be attracted to a girl who was obsessed with projecting the image of conventional femininity.
It isn't so much the content of traditional gender roles that is unattractive, as it is the unambitiousness and conformity of people who refuse to explore beyond well-trodden paths and allow themselves to be constrained and restricted by traditional methods of expression.
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tradition = bad
destroy tradition = good
i am progressive
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I think you've got the wrong end of the stick.
Can I ask what the point of this comment was?
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tradition = good when it's my personal tradition and if anyone says anything against this singular tradition of mine then I'll accuse them of suggesting tradition is bad
I am incapable of seeing the views of others
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A baby is cute.
A puppy is cute.
A duckling waddling along behind its mother is cute.
To me, cute is adorable, child-like, dependent, vulnerable.
So if a girl called me cute, I'd think they were seeing me as this cherubic, sexless duckling more akin to a kid brother than a grown man.
BUT I know some girls use cute as a synonym for attractive, so it'd probably depend on the girl saying it, and the context; I'd either find it patronising or flattering.
Eh, coming from a guy that has only been called cute...kinda demoralizes me, especially when a girl you date says a celebrity is hot, or sexy in front of you. Or she states that one of her friends, boyfriends is hot. But, being called cute, isn't bad I guess. It is a compliment after all.
Awe. "Cute" isn't too demoralizing or emasculating. I like CUTENESS in men.. some of us women have a preference for adorableness.
Id prefer handsome, lets face it its nice and all but im a grown man I dont wanna hear im cute im either handsome or good looking..or something mature..to me thats what you say to a female ..but Hey at least she noticed you right..?
I almost feel like "cute" and "hot/sexy" are two different kinds of attractive. I don't think one is better than the other, that's like comparing apples and oranges.. or at least to me it is
Maybe others would think differently, but IMO you're probably just a different type of good-looking than them:)
I'm a female... and... I'm the one calling others cute... *thinking about the last time someone called me "cute"* Well, NyanStrike called it "adorable" when I accidentally kicked a soccerball way too hard... Close enough! ...I don't think I like it very much... ‘'¬'
...Or do I? •˛•
"Cute" is the first word I think of when I see an attractive guy, but I actually try to stay away from using the word around them because I suspect they'd find it demoralizing or immature.
Then again, words like Hot or Sexy sound too aggressive to me so I don't usually use those words either. Handsome=too formal. Attractive=too clinical.
Obviously, I'm overthinking this lol.
I know how you feel lol, I think about it the same way. Actually i was thinking of someone specific when i wrote this, and cute is definitely the word that fits but i doubt he would like it. I don't want to use handsome because that doesn't suit him, and yeah anything else sounds too forward.. I guess just... good-looking would be appropriate? But that sounds kind of dry too
Ah well i'll figure it out when the time comes
I think it's great to be called cute. However, if it's not the image you're going for, it can be pretty demeaning even if it's not meant to be.
I call my boyfriend cute all the time, but I also say other things. You gotta acknowledge the other aspects of a guy too.
Definitely partial to 'hot' or 'sexy' or 'gorgeous' over CUTE. But its okay Lol. It doesn't bother me.